Bri wrote:...I immediately freaked out when he knocked, and put my jeans on. I really don't know why I did this and felt like I had done something wrong by putting my jeans on.
Don't feel bad about it Bri. Do things at a pace that suits you, if you're not happy about something don't do it. I have no doubt that how you feel affects how you are perceived by others and if you are feeling uncomfortable others will know and will almost certainly pay more attention to you than they would otherwise.
When I am nervous about doing something I find that it is far worse if I have no control over when I do it, waiting for someone to arrive is a classic example of that. I try to overcome that sort of situation by taking control myself, for instance the first time I wore a skirt (as opposed to a kilt or sarong), I made a point of changing into it when my wife was at home and then asking her what she thought. I had considered changing in to it when she was out and waiting for her to come home and see me. Likewise to be seen out and about in public the first few times I made a decision to go somewhere I knew I'd meet people (a shopping centre, the vets, the pub...) so that I had complete control over when I would be seen. Then it was just a matter of putting on a confident face and getting out of the car. That got the "difficult bit" over and it soon became obvious to me that everything I read here about no one actually caring what I wear was bang on the money; wearing a skirt in public is nothing to get hyped up about. (It's easy to say that once you've "discovered" it for yourself).
So, go easy on yourself, do things you want to do when you want to do them and don't waste your time worrying about things after the event.
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Back on topic...
I had to go into work today, as I've mentioned before I am discussing the dress code with management in the hopes that I will be permitted to wear what I want to, so I decided against a skirt and wore kilt (yes, I know that a kilt is a skirt but many others do not see it that way).
Only two of my colleagues were in today but neither of them had seen me in a kilt before. The plain black polycotton kilt with a grey t shirt, rolled down black socks and black suede shoes provoked only one raised eyebrow. He jokingly asked if I was wearing a dress and I replied that it was "my best kilt, well maybe not my
best one..." No further comment.
About half my colleagues have now seen me kilted in the office at different times. I reckon that pretty soon wearing a kilt on a normal working day will not be a surprise to enough colleagues that I might be able to get away with it with even if the head honcho has not made a decision about the dress code (he's dithering at present - no surprise there).
Have fun,
Ian.
and nobody made any adverse comments.
and has the benefit that it does not restrict my stride at all. 
. Nice one.
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