Should I wear a skirt ?

[jpf85653]

Johnny,

That's as good and open an answer as could have been hoped for, and I stand corrrected. You have responded in the way I hoped you would.

Just one question though - there have been many good responses to your previous posts - do they not help you? I appreciate that meeting a neighbour might be different from meeting a postal worker, but not that much.

I know from a little research that you frequent other fora. Skirts, hosiery, and indeed other ones too which there's no need to mention here. I hope that on this, as on other fora, you find the support you need.

Regards

Ray the responses that I get from my posts help my confidence level a lot I read all the responses
and then I make my decision. You are also right about some other groups, they don't promote skirts for men
with out porn, it would be better if they kept it clean.

[Since1982]

Johnny said: My future goal is to be able to wear a skirt in public, and be able to go were I want and not be judged by people.

The first 2 you'll be able to do with practice, the "not having people judging you" is harder, some dimwits will judge you and there's really nothing you can do about it other than show a brave front and ignore the mouthy ones and converse with the non-mouthy interested ones. Some, (the smarter ones) will change their entire attitude after talking to you for even only a few minutes.

I own one pair of gray khaki shorts, one pair of long denim pants and one pair of fleece jogging pants but about 25 skirts and 3 jumpers. The ONLY time I wear pants of any kind is when I am required to for a legal matter of some kind. The rest of the time I'm skirted in public and everywhere else all the time. I've BEEN skirted all the time for 5 years now and I STILL get judgemental people whispering behind my back. I usually ignore the ones that say nothing to me.

[tooslowprius]

If there is one thing that I could tell you would be this what my couslar told me! "You can not control what other people think or say about you! The only thing that you can control is your self!" When I first started wearing skirt I was like you and afraid to wear the in public. Once I started wearing them out and public I started to see that people really don't say anything to your face. Sure people are going to look at you strange, but it really doesn't matter becuase if you dress diffrent than them they will look at you funny! I mean think about it like this when you see a goth person they get looked at funny, and so on. So I guess the best thing I can tell you would be this just go out there with your skirt on and don't let other people control who you are!

[JRMILLER]

Here's my 2 cents....

I like skirts for all the good reasons so often written about on this site.

As such, there is no reason why they should be denied me or anyone else for that matter.

Wearing them in public takes courage, if you wear a skirt in a public place, you are stepping well outside of the established bounds of the mass "herd".

It is hard to do, especially at first and I have taken it on as a personal challenge not only to be able to do it (which I have accomplished several times), but also to be able to do so without fear. I want to be able to step out with my skirt and give it no more thought than venturing out with a pair of shorts.

When I was a little kid, about 10 or so, my mother dressed me in shorts. At the time, boys in my area didn't wear shorts. I was ridiculed by all the little boys who were trying to act like grown-up men. Told my parents about it and they explained the virtue of wearing shorts and told me not to worry about other people's opinions. Well, over time shorts were accepted and the stigma of wearing shorts went away on it's own.

So, this feels a lot like it did when I was 12. Perhaps I didn't learn the lesson well enough first time around. It takes time to get comfortable with living apart from the herd, it's a hard road. It's always easier to simply fall in line and let other people tell you how to "live", isn't it?

Be patient, keep working on it, you will accomplish this eventually. There is no time schedule for you to accomplish this goal. You get there when you get there, just keep pushing the peanut forward, one inch at a time.