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familyman34 wrote: ↑Tue Jul 22, 2025 8:05 pm
If you really want people to notice your skirt, then wear a very bright coloured one and plain colours in the remainder of your outfit; on the other hand, if you want people NOT to notice your skirt, then wear a plain, drab one with brightly coloured garments elsewhere (top, socks, etc.)
There's the million pound question, do you WANT people to notice?
Naturally, that is individual choice but be prepared for the occasional surprise too.
It's often suggested around the cafe that MIS will have arrived when our attire goes unremarked.
We can't have it both ways.
Steve
Pink tutu, feather boa and tartan tights works for me every time.
When first wearing a skirt, I reckoned that half the people who noticed the skirt didn't notice that I was a man, and half the people who noticed that I was a man didn't notice the skirt. If you stick to the drab male colour scheme, you can often avoid notice.
I guess if we want people to accept MIS, the more visible we are when wearing a skirt the better, given that there are so few of us. Of course this is just a useful excuse for me, who loves real bright colours.
Speaking from experince, its fair to say that men are not really noticed. This probably has caused descent of men's fashion. What's the point when nobody is looking?
I find it odd that skirted guys here are saying nobody really notices. FACT: everybody notices! They are just making an effort to appear like they havn't noticed.
Ask yourself this. How often when dressed male drab do people say i like what you are wearing? Its just not done.
To tell a man that you like his trousers or shirt would probably be seen as a bit gay.
When a man cross-dress's people don't say anything (mostly) but they do notice and probably go home and tell their other half about what they have seen. "Would you wear a skirt?" "Of course not, I'm not a girl" and everyone rests easy. Men are men and women are women.
Times are changing. Give them a little time and they get used to it. You can't come home everyday and say the same, it gets boring.
Do people notice when something is not confined within the box.. Yes. Do women notice more than men? I'm not 100% sure on that.
One thing that I do know is that men don't make a comment unless they're trying to make fun or take the mickey of something that's not conforming to the normal...(whatever that is).. Women on the other hand seem happy to approach you and offer encouraging comments, whether it's regarding your attire, hair or whatever.
Case in point: I was at the supermarket the other day and a girl, probably 15 - 16 years old came up to me and she said "excuse me, but I just want to say that I absolutely love your hair". She was with her mum who looked over at me and smiled.
I'm unmistakeably male, I was at the time wearing jeans, a black leather biker vest, and 6'3" tall...
To me, both confidence and the outfit itself make a difference.
Something plain / dark is less likely to be noticed compared to a more colourful outfit that's more visible.
The majority of people are caught up in their own world and focused on whatever they're doing but would say that regardless, an outfit that's outside the typical norm (at the moment at least!) such as a man wearing a skirt, is noticed. I've mostly seen it with double takes. In a way, you notice peoples reactions more if you're active looking for it.
I strongly doubt that people don't notice. It's obvious! Unless you're partly hidden or you choose very carefully and stand side-on to your onlooker, the skirty shape will be noticed in a split second. You might hope that your shorts-length skirt in a drab "masculine" blue brown or grey can pass as shorts, but you are kidding yourself. You can take a selfie to try to convince yourself, but you are blinkered by your wishful thinking. Out in the urban jungle, in motion, it's a dead giveaway. The single horizontal hemline is instantly noticeable.
A skirt moves differently from shorts, something no amount of selfies in the bedroom mirror will tell you. I drive past a secondary school on the way to work, and it's obvious which of the girls are wearing short shorts and which are wearing fanny pelmets, even though neither style has any motion of its own. (Though of course I'm watching the road all the time, Your Honour!) Anything longer is unmissable.
Best thing to do is to own it. Check my Pics and Looks thread to see how I do that. I bought a bright pink maxi a couple of weeks ago, I must post a picture!
We need to remember that not everyone is like us. Because the issue of men wearing skirts is a particular interest to us means our "guy in a skirt" radar is always operating, consciously or otherwise. Also, if someone has been in view of a skirted man but it didn't register - and so they didn't react - how would we ever know?
On the London Underground, in the middle of the carriage between the main double doors, there is an open area with a grab pole right in the centre. A skirted man has been known to rise from his seat, way before the station he wants to get off at, and hang onto that centre pole. As the train moves, the skirt flows and moves, thus showing all in the carriage, that this man is wearing a skirt!
Not sure what this says about the man, but the man is having a ball and people do notice....
Stu wrote: ↑Tue Jul 29, 2025 7:58 pm
We need to remember that not everyone is like us. Because the issue of men wearing skirts is a particular interest to us means our "guy in a skirt" radar is always operating, consciously or otherwise. Also, if someone has been in view of a skirted man but it didn't register - and so they didn't react - how would we ever know?
We don't unless
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Kieran wrote: ↑Sun Jul 27, 2025 7:21 pm
In a way, you notice peoples reactions more if you're active looking for it.
or actively seeking that moment in the spotlight.
I can honestly say that I know that more people are aware of my choices than I thought possible.
I have that on good authority, first and second hand.
Steve
I’ve just come home from a 7 nights hotel holiday in Fuertventura, I spent the whole seven days wearing a skirt, not ONE person said any comments to me in all this time.
I would say hundreds of other guests noticed me and what I was wearing, some nudged each other, some smiled or simply stared for a few minutes . But no one openly laughed or shouted any criticisms.
All in all it felt perfectly natural to wear a skirt as a man, I didn’t attempt at any time give the impression that I was trying to impersonate a woman.
I found the whole experience fantastic, I even travelled there and back through the airports skirted as well.
So yes people do notice but don’t care.
