Skirt Cafe is an on-line community dedicated to exploring, promoting and advocating skirts and kilts as a fashion choice for men, formerly known as men in skirts. We do this in the context of men's fashion freedom --- an expansion of choices beyond those commonly available for men to include kilts, skirts and other garments. We recognize a diversity of styles our members feel comfortable wearing, and do not exclude any potential choices. Continuing dialog on gender is encouraged in the context of fashion freedom for men. See here for more details.
For some reason the last few weeks everything has just "clicked" into place and now it doesn't bother going out into public in a skirt...
Can't wait to get my 2 new ones - calf length pencil skirt and a calf length denim skirt...
Social norms aren't changed by Congress or Parliament; they're changed by a sufficient number of people ignoring the existing ones and publicly practicing new ones.
Tackleberry wrote:For some reason the last few weeks everything has just "clicked" into place and now it doesn't bother going out into public in a skirt...
Congratulations! You've arrived!
Courage, conviction, nerve, verve, dash, panache, guts, nuts, balls, gall, élan, stones, whatever. Get some and get skirted.
Good for you, Tackleberry! Once you realize that it's no big deal for a guy to go out and about in a skirt, you'll come to enjoy your outings all the more. Have fun!
I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman.
Go for it Tackleberry, I did and it sure has been a really fun trip.
"It is better to be hated for what you are than be loved for what you are not" Andre Gide: 1869 - 1951 Always be yourself because the people that matter don’t mind and the ones that mind don’t matter.
For me, after a while my mind grew accustomed to me wearing a skirt. Once it was a known experience, and I'd had no bad reactions, I no longer perceived my skirt wearing as a huge social transgression, but just an unusal fashion choice. And I didn't have the mindset anymore that people would react with shock or revulsion. But that change was only in my mind; how the average person reacts to a man in a skirt, of course, did not really change in that short time period. Was I too pessimistic before, or am I too optimistic now? Either way, it's interesting how many things are "all in your head."
finrod wrote:For me, after a while my mind grew accustomed to me wearing a skirt. Once it was a known experience, and I'd had no bad reactions, I no longer perceived my skirt wearing as a huge social transgression, but just an unusal fashion choice. And I didn't have the mindset anymore that people would react with shock or revulsion. But that change was only in my mind; how the average person reacts to a man in a skirt, of course, did not really change in that short time period. Was I too pessimistic before, or am I too optimistic now? Either way, it's interesting how many things are "all in your head."
Same here. I've always liked my skirts and rapidly decided I wanted to wear them instead of trousers as often as possible, but for a while I was hindered by being nervous of people's reactions. For example, I would avoid any unplanned social interaction, especially anything mildly confrontational, such as complaining about something in a shop or restaurant. Although I knew there was no reason why a man should not wear a skirt, I suppose I was half expecting a bad reaction, half worried that I would not be taken seriously in a skirt. A perception of my social transgression - that was it exactly. But at some point I stopped worrying about that, probably because it never happened. Now I couldn't give a toss!