dillon wrote:[... W]hen you look at some of the photos you see that skirts, coupled with fem tops and fem shoes, and a few dresses, some guys are just a wig and lipstick away from full-on crossdressing. That represents a liberalization of this site, in a way, which is not necessarily bad, just an evolutionary change. It certainly would have been criticized and roundly rejected when I first joined.
Indeed. Let's face it: the full formal kilt is here to stay and is under no perceptible threat whatsoever. That leaves everything else.
This puts me, as the "uber-moderator" in a bit of a conundrum as I fight my way through various baggage I've managed to accumulate over my lifetime (and I've been shouted down by my fellow mods on occasion, and which I've learnt from). At the moment, my personal inclination leads me to let stuff go in which the person wearing a rig solidly identifies as male and does so unabashedly. So long as we identify as men, we're OK on the grounds of "Gender Honesty".
Now, to be perfectly honest, I do have foibles and things I don't really understand. Of note here is that I enjoyed a fairly staid upbringing which, no doubt, colours my viewpoint. So, here are a few, offered in the sense of openness and honesty, that I fail to grasp in no particular order:
Bare feet, sandals, and especially "flip-flops". These are fine to my mind when within 50 yards or so of a beach or public shower, but not beyond.
Birkenstocks (see sandals). I swear that the manufacturer held focus-groups on how to design hideous footwear.
"Tank tops" (aka "wife-beaters" here in the US, "singlets", if I'm not mistaken, in the UK). These are pieces of underwear. Even women don't look particularly good in them.
Tattoos and piercings (save for one or two holes in the ears).
Insanely high heels. These can be hazardous to the uninitiated and likely have long-term problems related to them. Unless you're 4-foot-nil, why bother?
Denim. Originally it was a hard-wearing fabric originally descended from sail-cloth; today it's been so dumbed down that one frequently buys it in already trashy condition.
Shoes without proper backs, save for some clog designs. Why risk falling off the thing -- especially if it has a heel -- if you change direction quickly?
Hyper-short skirts, aka "belts". Unless you're out to "advertise your wares", why? I'm no prude, but modesty does have its place.
"Going 'commando'". OK, I can "get this" from a comfort perspective, but there's a whole shed-load of other stuff to be aware of as well. (I'm actually not comfortable with doing so personally. It's a "geometry thing.")
There are a few (and there are likely more), but note that I try extremely hard not to let those interfere with my professional duties here. I, too, am human. (Although I'm sure that there are folks who disbelieve that assertion.)
Whatever... if I weren't already married and I thought I had to dress that way to get a woman... than single I shall remain!
