Men in Skirts gaining acceptance

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Men in Skirts gaining acceptance

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I just found this over on reddit.com seems most women are in-favor of men having the freedom to wear a skit.
Seems the only thing really holing anyone back is their own thoughts about it.

http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes ... ng_skirts/
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The comments are very positive, possibly due to a targetted audience - those reading (and responding to) the article are probably already going to be accepting and positive anyway.

Personally I think that society is not so much accepting, but rather non unaccepting if you know what I mean. Many people male and female would see men wearing skirts as largely a non issue when viewed from a distance. For example, many women won't have an issue with this in society general, but they tighten up a bit if it is their husband who is the skirt wearer..... the NIMBY effect (Not In My Back Yard).

I agree with you phathack, it's only our own thoughts (and fears) that hold us back,

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I agree that there may just be apathy about this rather than acceptance. My wife has accepted me wearing a skirt around the house but is resistant to me being seen outside in one. I would be oprepared to say, go to the supermarket in one but I think my wife would be uncomfortable. I have thought that if anyone asked then I would simply say that it is a result of a dare or a bet that I lost. I have loads of nice skirts and am starting to make my own ones. I would like to see more acceptance but since I have not seen any other man in a skirt I would be in a group of 1!!!!
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Sinned wrote:I would like to see more acceptance but since I have not seen any other man in a skirt I would be in a group of 1!!!!
First off, Welcome aboard!

As far as being "in a group of 1" goes, one has to start somewhere and this is likely not something that anybody else around you is likely to do -- possibly because they'd feel like they're in a group of one! So, the key is to go with what's in your heart and what you're comfortable with -- and in -- and don't make any excuses or apologies. If asked about it, simply say that this is what you're comfortable in and either leave it at that or continue with a conversation. You never know; you might give somebody else the courage to give it a go!
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Sinned wrote:I would be oprepared to say, go to the supermarket in one but I think my wife would be uncomfortable. I have thought that if anyone asked then I would simply say that it is a result of a dare or a bet that I lost.
It's pretty unlikely that a stranger would start talking to you about your skirt in a supermarket. More likely to be someone you know. And what would you say to them the second time they saw you skirted? You'd be backtracking and looking less than clever. Much better to tell 'em like it is, first time. After you've told a couple of people it will get easier!

And you won't see any acceptance of men in skirts until you let people see one. So go for it!
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We each gain acceptance in our own ways and, if sensible, at a pace that's right for the individual.
Yes, you may feel lonesome, but some day, some place, somebody else may also be encouraged by your example.
Conversations, not in a supermarket, but in my hometown main street, I've had 2 that are noteworthy. Both started off on the subject of kilts, no surprise there, being in Scotland. The surprise is that on being enlightened as to my skirts, both strangers were most interested and complimentary.
There aren't many on this site who haven't agonised over appearing publicly skirted, I wasted too much time on that.
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Phathack said: I just found this over on reddit.com seems most women are in-favor of men having the freedom to wear a skit.
I didn't see anyone else mention this, I may have missed it, but to me, not mentioning it, is accepting it as correct..I've DONE skits, also known as "plays", but I've never worn one. :faint:
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Skip, you are so sharp you will cut yourself!
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I don't think we will ever get accepted as such, in the UK we have been wearing kilts for some time now as also in other country's, but a while back I was stood in a queue at a supermarket in my Anderson kilt with all the trimmings, and two females came behind me and one said to the other “what's that in front” “a weirdo” from the other, I looked around to see two fat bitches and I said to both of them “at least I can buy cloths that fit me unlike you”.
There will be always someone who will put you down what ever your wearing and sometimes it is better not to “remark” as I did, because it will only make the matters worse.
I sometime think as all of us as gays, years ago it was all done behind closed doors, but being gay now is not a sigma, but we still hear of guys being assaulted and even killed for being gay so all we can do is our own thing and hopefully some people will except us as men and not a freak show.
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Richard,

I think that may be an overly bleak assessment. There will always be idiots and morons and it sounds like you encountered a couple. However, the majority of people are smarter than the media give them credit for and are quite capable of making up their own minds if provided with information and the germ of an idea.

Acceptance is a nefarious concept anyway; what constitutes acceptance? Is it everyone actively supporting your right to dress as you choose, or simply being ignored on the basis that they don't care? My own view is that acceptance is folks not getting hot under the collar about how I choose to dress and, apart from the occasional idiot; that is the current situation.

I've frequently encountered folks who simply don't understand why I'm skirted; people who have simply never considered the possibility of a guy wearing a skirt. Even a simple reply to the "Why?" question is enough to start them thinking and generally they will just shrug and get on with their lives. To me that is acceptance and I'm happy with that.

The imbeciles are vanishingly rare and I choose not to let them impact my life.

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Milfmog wrote:I've frequently encountered ... people who have simply never considered the possibility of a guy wearing a skirt.
This surely is the vast majority of people. For most strangers who see you, you will be the only man they have ever seen presenting a skirt as menswear.
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I've worn my kilt to the supermarket many times. Usually there's been no comments from anyone. I do recall one occasion when one woman gave me usual "Nice kilt!" Another woman said she wanted her husband to wear a kilt but he refused. That same day the grocery bagger commented on my sporran and the bagger at the next register asked wherre he could find a kilt locally.
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Sinned wrote:I agree that there may just be apathy about this rather than acceptance. My wife has accepted me wearing a skirt around the house but is resistant to me being seen outside in one. I would be oprepared to say, go to the supermarket in one but I think my wife would be uncomfortable. I have thought that if anyone asked then I would simply say that it is a result of a dare or a bet that I lost. I have loads of nice skirts and am starting to make my own ones. I would like to see more acceptance but since I have not seen any other man in a skirt I would be in a group of 1!!!!
I've got the same problem with my wife. I'm hoping to wear her down eventually...

When people ask me what I'm wearing I reply "a MAN-skirt".
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I think any woman who prevents her husband from wearing a skirt publicly should not be allowed to wear pants or shorts in public.

I lay down the gauntlet with my wife when she insisted I not wear skirts publicly. I said, "Fine honey - then you should not wear pants or shorts publicly". That shut her up. :D

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JohnH wrote:I think any woman who prevents her husband from wearing a skirt publicly should not be allowed to wear pants or shorts in public.

I lay down the gauntlet with my wife when she insisted I not wear skirts publicly. I said, "Fine honey - then you should not wear pants or shorts publicly". That shut her up. :D

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I agree, LAY DOWN THE QAUNTLET. I respect that we must all be careful when it comes to our wives but at the same time we must not be afraid to stand for our rights. For me, I made it clear at the beginning. I said, that a a mans right to wear skirts is NO DIFFERENT from a womans righs to wear pants, a mans right to fight for skirts is NO DIFFERENT from when women fought for their rights to wear pants, REGARDLESS of the fact that woman fought for their right 60 years ago, it changes nothing. I made it clear that she owes her right to wear pants without prejudice because of a few woman who did what I am doing today, and to not accept my right to fight for skirts is a double standard and therefore she has not right to wear pants!!! If my wife has a right to have pants and shorts then I have equal right to have skirts and kilts. I make it a point to highlight the double standard. Woman didn't ask for permission or care what men thought when they started to wear pants, they just did i, It is no diiferent for us men. We have one rule or guide line which is, I need to look masculine in skirts (and she has the right to say no if its to feminine) and visa versa she needs to look feminine in pants.

I understand that marrage is hard but us men today in this post femininst world always get the short end of the deal. I respect that we need to be diplomatic but at the same time not a push over, instead we need to demand out rights also. We are not talking about changing our gender, we are simply talking about men wearing skirts as men, just like woman wear pants. All I see in todays society is woman demand their rights but refusing to accept their resposibilities, while all I see is men being reminded of our reponsibities and told we no longer have rights. Well, I don't accept that, and thats not they way things happen in my house. Call me old fashion but I am the head of my house, not the TV and its propaganda!
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