About those who are shy to wear a skirt in public ...

[CJFMix]

I have read in many posts , here , and on other forums , that many men are just shy to wear a skirt in public !!!

Can you guys explain why and how this happens ???

For myself , as soon as I slip on a skirt , I become possesed by an urge to show myself to the world . I become an exhibitionist .

I like to show how masculin I can be , wearing a skirt , and a beard ... Without having to compromise my virility !!!

Like Margaret Mead would say " Theese men do it , simply to distinguish themselves from the others" !!!

[RichardA]

I have to say that I'm too shy/scared to go out in a skirt in broad daylight, I have done it at night time, when I wear my kilt with all the accessories is a different matter for I feel good in it and people are very friendly towards me even in my little village, but if I wore a skirt I'm sure I will be classed as very weird and I'm sure my few friends I have will distance from me.
I know I have not changed as a person, but other will not see it that way specially as I live on my own (divorced) and do not have any girl/lady friends and I don't want to be "labelled" I just want to be me. I'm not too sure why I want to wear a skirt in the first place to me it is all most "a dare" to do something different and not main stream, but at the same time blend in with the crowd at the sometime, this can not be, I don't go along with the saying that a "denim skirt is invisible", yes I know that guys wear denim shorts and people will see it as a pair of shorts as the brain will say "guy shorts" "girl skirts", but guy beard skirt Ahhhhhh.
I'm sure given time I will come to teams with it as I have bought a nice denim skirt here http://tinyurl.com/35t2l2
and will try it at night time first and take it from there.

[JRMILLER]

Richard,
I checked out that skirt earlier when you listed it. The size is listed as up to 22, do you know if that's the same sizing used in US skirts? A 22 usually fits me and I would like to have one.

-john

[RichardA]

Dresses sizes
American 6 8 10 12 14 16
British 8 10 12 14 16 18
It seems that USA are a size smaller than the UK ie USA 6 is our 8
hope this helps

[JRMILLER]

Richard,
Thanks, I suspected they were different.

It means I gotta loose some of this American bread basket before I try on one of those skirts!

Nice choice, it really does look like a pair of shorts! Perhaps you will try this one in public!

-john

[shropshire steve]

[quote="RichardA"] I'm not too sure why I want to wear a skirt in the first place to me it is all most "a dare" to do something different and not main stream,
, I don't go along with the saying that a "denim skirt is invisible",

I think men go through many stages of feelings about wearing a skirt, so it is difficult to know where you are for a while. But once you've got over all the 'funny feelings' if you find you just want to wear a skirt because you like them, feel comfortable in them and feel yourself in them, then you've arrived, skirt nirvanha. These days I seem to have the confidence to wear a skirt anywhere anytime, no problem to me however, why i do hold back is out of deference to the feelings of friends and family who struggle to come to terms with my clothing style. I can sympathise with their struggle over this and as long as we can meet half way I'll compromise a bit as long as they can compromise a bit.
Denim is not invisible, but it is very casual and easy on the eye and thus that much easier for others to accept.

[Peter v]

I have read in many posts , here , and on other forums , that many men are just shy to wear a skirt in public !!!

Can you guys explain why and how this happens ???

For myself , as soon as I slip on a skirt , I become possesed by an urge to show myself to the world . I become an exhibitionist .

I like to show how masculin I can be , wearing a skirt , and a beard ... Without having to compromise my virility !!!

Like Margaret Mead would say " Theese men do it , simply to distinguish themselves from the others" !!!

Very nicely said, I agree fully, and although I dress more freestyle, I do the same. But you only do so when you have full confidence, and if you don't wear often in a short period, it may take eons before you get the confidence needed.

So my advise is whenever you can, wear and wear and wear as long and often as possible, to build up the confidence and really and truly shrug off the old "just put on trousers, it's no hasstle" way of thinking.

Peter v

[Peter v]

I have to say that I'm too shy/scared to go out in a skirt in broad daylight, I have done it at night time.
and will try it at night time first and take it from there.

Your feelings are quite normal. I suspect many of us have the same feelings and situation. Don'ask why you even thought about wearing skirts, NOBODY has the answer. Rather ask yourself how you're going to go further on. As I have read, you wear a kilt, so that's no problem. Wearing you're very nice denim skirt won't be either. Make sure the whole concept looks right, the better it looks, the easier others find it to look at and accept. I would compare a denim skirt in function to a pair of denim pants. (shorts) as a less fussy daily skirt. I think people will have to adjust more to seeing a man's bare legs under the skirt than the skirt itself. A lot depends on what people you are in contact with. But always try to be your self. Other people will adjust to you, and eventually accept you as you are. So don't start by adjusting to them. Being the person you think the others want you to be doesn't work. That's no life, that's a prison.

Enjoy your denim skirt (I've seen it) and take it step by step, but keep the momementum going. Should be easy, as you already wear a kilt.

Friendly regards,
peter v.

[Stu]

I don't go along with the saying that a "denim skirt is invisible", yes I know that guys wear denim shorts and people will see it as a pair of shorts as the brain will say "guy shorts" "girl skirts", but guy beard skirt Ahhhhhh.

Richard

I can only think you have never been out anywhere in a denim skirt. I have. Last summer, I spent a whole day showing some Danish friends around York in a denim skirt. We went around museums, the Minster, shops. We had lunch in a restaurant, a coffee in a cafe mid afternoon, too a boat trip, relaxed in the park next to the river (among thousands of people) and then, in the early evening, went to a bustling pub for a couple of beers. Finally, we caught the train home. I sensed a couple of people doing a double-take on me but that was it, but there was no reaction. No problem whatsoever! I would bet my pension that, for the vast majority of people who clapped eyes on me that day, my skirt just didn't register. I may as well have been wearing denim shorts.

I don't have a beard, but I'm a muscular bloke with a very short haircut and I always wear masculine styles with or without a skirt. You really should try it - you'll be pleasantly surprised.

Stu

[RichardA]

Many thanks for all the encouragement I will give it a go

[JRMILLER]

Richard,
I have had four outings so far in a demin with lots of flounce, nothing like the number you just bought. Only on the last trip did I encounter a nitwit who yelled out "SKIRT". It was what I needed at the time and I probably should have thanked him. It screwed down my resolve to yet a new level!

Thus, have no fear mate, even the less likely negative situations will help you grow -- perhaps even more than the positive ones!