Dressinglike a man makes me feel more of a woman

[Sinned]

Wow, if there's more of a headline that strengthens our case this must be it. Here's the link:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... woman.html

I feel like a similar article coming on "Dressing like a woman makes me feel more like a man" except that it isn't quite like that is it? The picture shows her wearing a suit and shirt cut for a woman so it isn't really a man's clothes but male attire styled for a woman.

Quotes:
"Ninety percent of the time I'm the one wearing wearing trousers."
"It imbues you with instant authority."
"According to Debenhams, sales of trouser suits have soared 157 per cent in recent months."
".... Cara Delevingne's predilection for androgynous dressing ...." ( meaning feminising of masculine clothes not the other way around )
"I'm not trying to make a feminist statement by the way I dress. It's simply that to feel my most feminine, I need to feel compfortable."

I could go on and on but to do so only adds to my frustration. MOH must read the article but will she get from it what I see? I doubt it.

Contrarywise if you were to make a dress cut for the male figure it wouldn't quite work would it? And if the material was a flowered pattern then it would be even worse!

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[partlyscot]

I don't know that it does strengthen our case. Well, for some it might. I have an issue with the very definition of certain styles or types of clothing having a gender, or an attribute. (i.e. masculine or feminine) The way they talk in the article about the pants suit "giving a sense of power" Why? Because of the association with masculinity? I object to the sharp suit being the ultimate form of male display full stop. To my mind, it's attractiveness is associated with the idea that the wearer has more money, or "power." The appeal is that the wearer is in a position to provide for you and your offspring. And what is the reverse? "Look at this body!" "Good genes here, I can give you good strong children"

I don't say that there is anything wrong with that attitude as such, it came about because of the way things are, or were, but to continue to perpetuate it, in the face of a changing world, when there are children who might not want it to be that way, is not something I am comfortable keeping as a rigid formula.

I am at long last in a committed relationship. We are of the age, and in a situation, that children don't make sense, and are rapidly becoming unlikely. Neither of us is terribly keen on them either. (nieces and nephews are great fun, but you can give them back!) So, what are we building here? Do I try to insist that she becomes the homemaker while I am the breadwinner? (Not gonna happen, I'm not going to earn enough, and she would tell me where to stuff it even if I could) So why are we restricted to those roles? Without the idea that one is building and supporting a family, it reduces the woman's role to something not a million miles away from some kind of maid, or worse, prostitute. Honestly, I would prefer if she did dress up a little more, I have no objections with her overall style, but it is done with an eye for practicality for the most part. Whereas I have come to like dressing for physically visual appeal. She barely notices, unfortunately, but that's OK. In the same way that a woman can go out dressed up without her partner, the display is not about attracting a new partner, it's about how it makes her feel inside. My clothing is about how it makes me feel inside, and no, it doesn't make me feel like a woman, you could say it makes me feel the way some woman feel, but why should they have all the fun? I don't try and tell her that it isn't appropriate for a woman to enjoy a job where she gets her hands all greasy and has fun pulling stuff apart and figuring how to get it back together in working order. She doesn't tell me how it is appropriate for me to feel.

[skirtyscot]

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Most articles in the Daily Wail have that effect on me. The trick is not to read it.