Confidence

[SkirtRevolution]

We can all agree that wearing skirts in public is all about confidence. Each of us are at different stages when it come to wearing skirts. Some still trying to make a win on the home front and some of us are full time in public.

How do you build confidence? Do you do something or tell yourself something, or maybe it is because you have realized something from you skirted experience that has made you confident. This is the time to tell to encourage the rest of us.

Personally, two things make me confident. Firstly, what I am wearing is important, If I look manly and cool, I feel confident. Secondly, Sunglasses can be an amazing tool for confidence. When people cannot see my eyes and only sun glasses then I look 10x more confident, and when I look confident people seem to care less.

I also find that once I take that first step then things get easier, the hardest thing is taking that first step.

[crfriend]

Confidence can spring from several sources, and usually it's best if one cultivates more than one.

Firstly, in most of the modern western world, wearing a skirt is not explicitly illegal, and it's not even ethically questionable if one's intent is not to deceive (this is the fundamental difference between "orthodox cross-dressers" and "skirtsmen"). If one retains one's modesty (i.e. doesn't deliberately "flash" the onlookers) then one cannot be considered "offensive", but only mildly "odd". This, from experience, was my first crucial test -- and it wasn't all that difficult a hill to climb.

More complex problems can come with what styles one is comfortable in -- and therefore confident in. These problems encompass the entire range of problems with lengths, styles, colours, and cuts. Does the outfit (for the look is more than just the skirt) have elements that tip it too far into the overtly feminine realm (which makes lots of blokes uneasy)? Is it a look that you can embrace at a deep personal level? This is a good bellweather of what one tries to do; if one looks in the mirror and sees a stranger staring back at him, that's not a good sign, for you need to be you in order to be comfortable and confident.

Finally, there's the notion of actually having the intent to transmit a message with one's attire, and that takes an almost revolutionary zeal. Some will have that, and some won't; there is no disgrace in not having it, and sometimes it won't be there in even the most ardent revolutionary.

For me, the key is to primarily never contravene by look what I am inside. If I look in a mirror (or test snapshot) and comment to myself, "Who is that?" or "What is that guy thinking?" then I know I have failed in a look and that it's not something I should ever wear out the door.

Finally, there's the basic practicalities of the matter. One needs to know how to handle the garment and how to go about all the basic bits that we humans go through during the course of a day. These are things like walking up or down a flight of stairs, dealing with the occasional gust of wind that will make light skirts billow and blow, how to use the loo gracefully, and how not to get tangled up in the garment. If you're fighting with the thing, you will not look confident or comfortable, and if you're really inept with it, you'll look like an object of ridicule to those observers around you.

Yes, the hardest step is always the first, but it's worth recalling that even journeys of a thousand miles are begun with the first step.

[skirted_in_SF]

Yes, the hardest step is always the first, but it's worth recalling that even journeys of a thousand miles are begun with the first step.

Boy is that ever the truth. The first ten steps on the sidewalk outside my apartment building are the most difficult. By the time I get a few blocks from home I've almost forgotten that I am wearing something non-traditional. Unless a gust of wind blows my skirt up of course.