Don't worry, most people know we're not trans

Discussion of fashion elements and looks that are traditionally considered somewhat "femme" but are presented in a masculine context. This is NOT about transvestism or crossdressing.
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Um.... PEOPLE - Notice the current responses from the Original Poster.

I agree, this thread has started to become a "bashing" thread.
Let's get it back On-Topic, shall we :?:

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Uncle Al wrote: Fri Jun 07, 2024 2:12 am Um.... PEOPLE - Notice the current responses from the Original Poster.

I agree, this thread has started to become a "bashing" thread.
Let's get it back On-Topic, shall we :?:

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Elisabetta wrote: Fri Jun 07, 2024 2:28 amYou rock 😊
:bow: Thank You, you're very kind :D

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I agree with you, Grok! Band uniforms and those classic dress uniforms really are exceptions in a world where fashion trends have evolved. There’s something timeless about them, and they do stand out with their bold colors and details. Tuxedos and kilts also fall into that category, where tradition and a bit of flair still play a big role in the look. It’s fascinating how these old styles continue to make an impact, even in more modern settings.
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neo wrote: Fri Jan 03, 2025 7:02 pm I agree with you, Grok! Band uniforms and those classic dress uniforms really are exceptions in a world where fashion trends have evolved. There’s something timeless about them, and they do stand out with their bold colors and details. Tuxedos and kilts also fall into that category, where tradition and a bit of flair still play a big role in the look. It’s fascinating how these old styles continue to make an impact, even in more modern settings.
Uniforms and formal wear all stand out from the dull clothes that the average human wears. However there is no reason why a skirted man cannot wear a bright coloured skirt with ruffles and show off around town that he is alive and interesting.
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This is an interesting topic. I visited a friend a few weeks ago and I was wearing a long black skirt, black tights, doc martens and a short biker leather jacket and she said that she doesn’t see me trying to dress as a woman or as trans. She said that what I’m wearing is actually me and I look as if I’m dressing different to any other guy but not trying to look like a woman. I was quite flattered by her comment.

However, just recently I’ve had some negative comments like “hey look at him he’s half man half woman” from a couple of guys walking past me in town and one guy walking past muttering “he’s a man, he’s a man!” So far those have been the only negative comments.

For some reason the only positive comments I’ve had about my style with wearing skirts and dresses are from women. As I’ve said before I got a lovely comment from a girl passing me at the university and my art tutors who are both female and the girls at my guitar group and of course my lovely partner.

I personally am not trying to look trans or a woman. I dress that way to look different and I think skirts and dresses look smart on guys and they are very comfortable and I am at my most happiest when wearing skirts, dresses and tights.
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It doesn’t matter if someone says that we look like women. Take it as a compliment.
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No. It's never a compliment. A long time ago Waylon Jennings commented on precisely this problem in Turn the Page. Look it up.
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I dont care what gender they use.

How I would describe my look today.
  • 6'3"
  • 275lbs
  • Balding with Full beard
  • Sweater, Oversized bulky.
  • Maxi Skirt
  • Work Boots
If I had on Sweat Pants I could pass as a Homeless guy.
As a general rule of a trans person, make some effort to look feminumum.
Woman have Fashion, Men have a Uniform.
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jamie001 wrote: Tue Jun 04, 2024 12:01 am I believe that the average Joe is badly dressed because of what options are available to them! Just drab shlt that has been around for the past 100 years.
In my younger years I would save tags from purchased garments. When they wore out I would use the information on the tags to purchase identical items. Didn't want to bother with trying different items. There was little incentive to experiment because almost all the options were boring.
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Grok wrote: Sat Jan 11, 2025 2:55 am
jamie001 wrote: Tue Jun 04, 2024 12:01 am I believe that the average Joe is badly dressed because of what options are available to them! Just drab shlt that has been around for the past 100 years.
In my younger years I would save tags from purchased garments. When they wore out I would use the information on the tags to purchase identical items. Didn't want to bother with trying different items. There was little incentive to experiment because almost all the options were boring.
Very similar Grok. I did not care about clothes. Why would I care? My clothes meant nearly nothing to me.
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I have to say my clothes meant a lot to me, just not in how they looked. I lived in two pairs of jeans(both womens) a couple of very large band tees and two sweaters. A little like a cartoon character. I wore them to rags and hated getting replacements because they were never the same.

There was no point trying to dress as I wanted to in public so I just found what was comfortable and acceptable that would not draw attention.
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For more years than I care to remember, I just bought the same Levis black jeans year after year. I knew the model code, waist size and leg length. Shopping for a new pair was easy when one pair got shabby. The only thing that stopped me was the hike in price which one year made me look at other brands. I then bought the same black "Next" jeans for the next few years.
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Seb wrote: Sat Jan 11, 2025 2:42 pm There was no point trying to dress as I wanted to in public so I just found what was comfortable and acceptable that would not draw attention.
I spent roughly 18 years in that mode, followed by another 15 begrudgingly conforming to the same while at work.
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Regarding typical drab clothes assigned to men....

I recall my mother commenting that I had so few clothes.

In my younger years my wardrobe was meager in terms of quantity. I didn't much like spending money on boring clothes. I would have just a handful of each type of garment, just enough to get by. And generally wear the same few garments till they wore out.
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