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The biggest point I was trying to make in my original post here is that I've had a very "legitimate" reason for wanting to or even needing to wear skirts in my lifetime. The concept for me began as a need. To avoid a worsening of my rash I had to wear a skirt for several weeks as a child. After getting used to a skirt I enjoyed it. Actually I wore dresses too, at that time. From that point on I never understood what the big issue was when my Dad came home and I could no longer wear skirts.
This was confused even more by my mother making suggestion constantly about how "pretty" I looked as a girl and sending me out every Holloween dressed as a girl. Sometimes people didn't even realize I was wearing a costume.
Then as an adult, when I felt I should have control over my own life and I tried to re-establish for myself my right to wear a skirt I found that our culture and my ex-wife and my parents treated me like I was sick or a freak. Even my 2nd wife, whom I married 24 years ago doesn't like seeing me wearing a skirt. She's marginal if I wear a kilt. But a skirt is still something she doesn't like to see me in.
So I've tried to get along and not upset too many people.
In the past it was easier not to push the idea of skirt wearing because I couldn't wear them at work. But now that I'm retired and don't have to worry if they fire me I'm thinking of starting over with my wearing my favorite garment, a skirt or kilt every day.
But I do have to gear myself up to it again. I have to squelch my life long paranoic fear of what people are going to do or say to me.
I think there are a lot of men, like myself, stuck in a sense of fear over wether or not they can be brave enough to wear a skirt.
I read posts about people seeing other men wearing skirts. But, except for a Renaisence Farie or a Celtic Convention, I have never seen one other man out on the street in regular, daily life, wearing a skirt. I'd like to see some.
I wish we could hold a convntion of skirt wearing men in the town I live in, Carpentersville, Illinois. That way it would break the ice and I wouldn't feel so alone.
That is the biggest problem for anyone "in the closest" and I think they're are far more secret skirt wearing men then there are brave ones dashing about in their skirts or kilts.
How do we get out for that first time?
How do we get over the paranoid dread of "something bad" going to happen?
Dennis A. Lederle
Hiding inside during the winter! BRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!

DALederle wrote:...except for a Renaisence Farie or a Celtic Convention, I have never seen one other man out on the street in regular, daily life, wearing a skirt. I'd like to see some.

I too would like to see more men out and about in skirts but part of the cure for that is to do it myself. That way I am helping others to see men in skirts in everyday life and hopefully they will see that nothing bad happens, the world does not stop turning nor the sky fall in, and maybe, just maybe, they'll try it for themselves.

DALederle wrote:....I think they're are far more secret skirt wearing men than there are brave ones dashing about in their skirts or kilts.
How do we get out for that first time?
How do we get over the paranoid dread of "something bad" going to happen?

Unfortunately there is no cure other than to get out there and do it. You could try a visit to a shopping mall well away from home or somewhere that you will not be recognised. This could help but will still leave the fear of being seen while skirted by someone you know nearer home so ultimately it may not help in your everyday life at all.

I still have occasions when I feel nervous however walk tall and look confident and it is very unlikely that anyone will trouble you at all.

Give it a whirl, until you do you will never know how others will react (or, more probably, not),


Ian.

I have never been a fan of blue jeans.
I once owned jeans when I was a teenager but I did not find them comfortable and have never owned any since.
Though since I have discovered denim skirts and kilts I wear these a lot nowadays.

They just feel great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I pray that soon my wife and I can get work that will allow us to get ahead of our bills and I can get a few good low cost kilts. I feel in my country setting of Tobacco Farm America that the kilts will be easier on me to go out in.