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DALederle wrote:...another case of women stealing our fashion and clothing for themselves and now, making men feel wrong by wanting to try out this for themselves.
Really? Another case? Do you have an example of this either on this topic or another? Will you share it with us?
Sorry Dennis, but I really don't feel that women are trying to make men (certainly not me) feel wrong for wearing skirts (at 6'3" I don't wear heels). In fact no one has ever shown signs of trying to make me feel wrong. My mind may have lead me to believe that others would show disapproval (or worse) but, apart from a very occasional comment* from someone anxious to prove himself or herself incapable of thought, I have never received any negativity from people I meet out and about.
Outside of the work environment, no one is stopping me from dressing as I choose and the sooner every man who wants to choose his own clothing realises that for himself the better. So let's stop blaming others for our own hesitancy shall we?
Sorry, rant over.
Have fun,
Ian.
* These comments have only ever been overheard, never directed at me.
Edited to correct typo in final paragraph - Ian.
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[...]Outside of the work environment, no one is stopping me from dressing as I choose and the sooner every man who wants to choose his own clothing realises that for himself the better. So let's stop blaming others for our own hesitancy shall we?
Bravo for that, Ian. Well put!
Whilst we sometimes need to "defer to authority" in the workplace, there's no reason to believe that the same "rules" apply outside the workplace. Face it, the world really doesn't care what we wear so long as the basic rules of decency are followed. Like Ian, the only comments I've received have been either good and supportive or honestly curious. While the nice comments are great for making one feel good, it's the curious ones that give one a chance to possibly expand another's horizons -- and that's important.
Bottom line: Get out there and wear it!
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I would wear heels all the time if I could. I like the way it makes my ankles look thinner and my calves look shapelier and longer.
The flexibility of the shoe is most important- it has to bend. If a shoe is flexible, it will be easier to walk on a heel no matter how high or thin. Always bend the shoe in half before buying it.
I agree that only we are preventing ourselves from wearing what we want. The reactions I receive out and about vary from positive comments to curiosity to a "so what" attitude. Rarely do I notice any negativity.
Whilst I choose not to wear high heeled shoes (not really my thing), I have several pairs of mid calf to knee high boots with heels ranging from 2 to 3 inches. I choose them because I don't particularly like the look of a skirt with traditionally male footwear when trying to dress up a look; I just don't seem to find the right shoes. The right skirt looks fine when paired with walking/mountain boots or beach/casual sandals, but I find few mens dress shoes that complete the look to my satisfaction. Obviously this is neither right nor wrong as others here have proven that they have the ability to find and pair their skirts with the perfect footwear for them.
Well, I finally found a pair of heels I can wear full time with littl or no problem at all.
First of all, they are larger then my first pair. Those turned out to be WOMEN's size 16 which are men's size 14 and they really pinched. I hadn't realised what I was buying when I got them.
So I looked again at All Heel For Men and found a pair called the "Barbara" which is a good joke because that's my wife's name. They are square toed, not point and have wider, square or block heels. They are only 1-3/4" high. The larger size meant that I put them on and adjusted to them right away.
These are shoes I can wear full time, anytime I want and have no ill effects. I'm thinking of selling the other pair on e-bay now.
They're not any kind of "sexy" shoe but that isn't what I bought them for. They look very "office" wear tone down. Or even slightly old fashioned. But I like them. They do what I want.
Which is mostly to re-experience a moment out my childhood when I was allowed to wear my mother's high heels to play in. Her way of letting someone else "break in" her shoes.
And these are very comfortable and I really enjoy the way they feel.
I think being the closer size helps.
Dennis A. Lederle
They were I think 3 1/2 inch stilletos. Very tricky to walk in at first, and slightly painful too. But I got used to them and liked them. I found it very fun when having them part of my Rocky Horror costume ( went there usually in a black oufit consisting of a skin tight spandex mini dress, black hose, and the heels. It was a true crossdress outfit, but damned was it fun. I went for a gothic "beauty" from hell look (and yes I passed), since I found the actual costumes of the show horrible. )
The highest "heel" I wear these days are at most 2inch, if not 1 1/2 inch.
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