An unexpected comment

[Milfmog]

Yesterday I had to visit a local supermarket to return some defective goods. On this particular occasion I was wearing a camouflage (DPM) kilt with a chocolate brown fleece over a black t shirt and black suede shoes with rolled down grey/green socks. When I got to the customer service desk the assistant (mid 50's female) said:

"Someone was winding me up about you the other day. He told me he'd just seen a man dressed as a woman but with a beard, when I saw you I told him it was just one of our regular gentlemen who often comes in in a kilt. Of course we do get lots of those transvestites in here... we see them all."

I just grinned and asked whether anyone had noticed all the other crossdressers; the women in jeans. That raised a laugh and then a thoughtful look. There was no further comment on my attire.

I don't think I've been into that store in a skirt other than a kilt more than one or twice in the last three years, so the chances are that I was kilted when the observation was made. I was a little surprised at being described as "a man dressed as a woman" but at least I raised a smile for someone.

Have fun,


Ian.

PS I was not bothered by the comment at all, however had my wife heard it she might well have gone very "sensitive". She is far more concerned about how others perceive me (and, by implication her?) than I am.

[Uncle Al]

Ian,

Seems like all went well. You certainly handled that in a very diplomatic way.
You even got her to stop and think a bit with your 'women in jeans' comment.
I also understand your comment about your wife's "sensetivity". [Boy-do I ]

Well Done

Uncle Al
Duncanville, TX

[Sasquatch]

Isn't it amazing how the skirt, even sans any other acouterments of female gender, just blows people's minds? Some just can't get past that one garment, no matter how male you obviously are. It's as though they believe that without an inter-leg bifurcation your genitals may at any moment fall off!! It has actually become a bit pleasurable to me that, upon receiving the stares and accompanying whispers, I know I have just left some social automaton intellectually fried!

sasq

[RichardA]

I've never seen a crossdresser,
nor a another guy in a kilt
and as for a guy in a skirt
I think I'm alone

[JRMILLER]

I have seen one crossdresser, it was a guy dressed in a woman's blouse and woman's jeans. Had the wig and the makeup to go with it. Overheard "her" talking on the cell phone as she was moving through the aisles shopping, didn't make any attempt to mask her baritone voice (at least on the phone). It's interesting that the one crossdresser I saw chose jeans isn't it?

About a year and a half ago, I wore a jeans skirt complete with pleats into a Barnes and Noble. Otherwise dressed as any other guys in a polo and sandals. On the way out of the store, a couple was entering. The woman scanned me nose to toes. As she began the scan at my nose, there was no particular expression on her face. However, when she scanned the skirt and it "registered", her jaw literally dropped. It was a good moment and did make me smile.

I have seen several men in kilts, however, this has always been limited to the Ren faire and the local Irish Festival. The majority of kilts spotted were of the contemporary variety, no plaid. This tells me they are "out there" and there is interest. It's just the vast majority of would be kilt wearers are not quite ready for prime time yet....

We are not alone...................

[Departed Member]

PS I was not bothered by the comment at all, however had my wife heard it she might well have gone very "sensitive". She is far more concerned about how others perceive me (and, by implication her?) than I am.

Ain't that just so? What became a major rift between us started with some folk, hellbent on causing trouble for the sake of it, sneeringly telling her, they'd often seen me, "parading around in women's clothes". They'd actually seen a TV/TG who lived (still lives?) two streets away from us. And to be fair, if I had donned a wig, 'big' glasses, my Great Aunt's clothes and high heels, I might have made a passable imitation - but not of a woman! It was many months before I was able to discreetly point out this individual to my wife. Although she was now re-assured it wasn't me, those ignorant folk had seen, she has remained deeply concerned about 'other folk's opinions', and that despite now having a greater understanding of why blokes (well, and lasses, too!) would find 'skirt-wearing' so much more beneficial to their nether region's health!

[shropshire steve]

[quote="merlin"][quote="Milfmog"] Ain't that just so?

Indeed it is. This factor is far and away my greatest problem with regard to skirt wearing. It has got nothing to do with rational argument or logical discussion. It is down to feelings, reactions and sensitivities and much as I try to play down male/femal differences, i wonder if this strikes at something of a male/female difference.

The popularity of programmes about helping women look better seem to play on an underlying anxiety about appearance, whereas men in general seem to have much less concern. Whereas I can happily go anywhere wearing a skirt and just ignore any adverse reaction, my wife is mortified by any such response to my skirt wearing. She does not know why? it is just an in-built automatic and very strong reaction. Which does make for a rather intractable problem and very slow progress.

[bareman43]

I was recently asked at the health club if wearing a skirt was a European thing. I replied that the skirt was very comfortable. He asked where he could buy a skirt and I said any whear that sells skirts. Then he said it looked good and shook my hand.
Even though I have worn skirts sporatically for some years I find the more I wear them, the more I want to wear them. And I'm very lucky in having a partner who supports my wearing anything I want to wear as long as I look good.
Bareman

[Brandy]

So I had "an unexpected comment" today also. It is overcast, drizzle, etc. here today. It was laundry day for me. Since it was such an grey day I need some personal cleanup also, excess hair removal. Upon cleaning up I thought -long skirt day. I have several ankle length skirts they are an eight panel skirt with a flare at the bottom, JNY calls them trumpet skirts. Shirt was one of the off white cotton kilt shirts with the leather lace. Shoes were over-calf boots with 3" heels. Jacket was leather cut like a lapeled sport coat.

I went to my local Chinese carry out. There is one lady there who seems to keep track of my wardrobe. She never really makes a comment unless I come in wearing trousers, then "just come from work?" I normally come in wearing a UK running shoes, or sandals. Today the shirt, skirt, boots, jacket looked much dresser, than the normal UK kilt outfit.

As I paid; her comment was "now you are headed home", "yes". It took me a minute to realise she thought I was just coming home from work as it was just after 5PM!!! Work is usually trousers as those computers can be a bit cold and windy.

It made my day!

[Bryan]

My wife's grand daughter aged 10 used to call me dodgy shorts man when I wore shorts in the summer. Then after getting married in a kilt she called me dodgy skirt man. However since then, whenever I see her, she wants to know why I'm not wearing a "skirt" if I'm wearing trousers!!! Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Bryan

[Since1982]

Bryan said: However since then, whenever I see her, she wants to know why I'm not wearing a "skirt" if I'm wearing trousers!!! Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Sounded and looked like a good idea to her obviously. It's amazing how easily the very young can accept anything "new" they see with no umbrage. It's the 30 to 50 year old's that have the biggest problems with men in skirts. If they were all English it would be a case of "It's just not done, old boy!" I don't know exactly what the same thing would be in American English. I wear a skirt probably 98% of the time in public and the only time I don't is when it's verrry cold and I wear fleece jogging pants that someone gave me years ago for just that reason.
I go to Bingo in the summer, (too many touristas in the winter, crowds the Bingo hall too much for me and my special chair) and all the regs in summer are used to me and my skirts, they're mostly women and very supportive. Nearly all there are over 50 and up to 80 years old. I fit right in at 67. Even when I have a weekend at the Miccosukie Resort for poker, the Indians that run Miccosukie don't care what I wear as long as I bring money with me.

Traditional Miccosukie dress included a skirt for men. There is a statue of a Miccosukie warrior just outside the front entrance. Spear, shield and skirt included. Makes me feel right at home.

[miniskirt07]

Just wear what you like and keep using - i already wearing skirt and keep going and ingore if people stare or bad comment - I already stopped by cops last time to ask where Im going and they didnt care about me in mini skirt (I wore black tights and denim skirt).. People need to check this site and understand and I would think women are still in xdress for wearing jeans or trousers. I already seen lots of women students at unviersity - wearing jeans and other wearing tights and skirt as men wear jeans only that all boring - need to mixed to make look cool... dont you think?

I dont find men wear skirt as xdress - its still normal clothes we like to wear. so keep wear and enjoy yerself