Question - Spouse support.........

[imadube]

I was wondering what kind of hold backs are we getting spouses?
Mine actually is afraid of conflict as in she don't want to get in trouble for defending my honor.

Any other stories out there?

[crfriend]

I was wondering what kind of hold backs are we getting spouses?

From my position, none. Precisely zilch.

Sapphire had her few moments of wondering what was going on, but that was mainly because she felt she had to. Once that was over, and I never had to deal with the "phase" because it was over in only a few minutes' time, everything's been clear sailing.

Mine actually is afraid of conflict as in she don't want to get in trouble for defending my honor.

Isn't that your job?

[sapphire]

OK. I'll speak out, again.

When Carl announced that he wanted to wear skirts, I thought it was kind of odd. I spent a whole 15 minutes worrying about it and realized that I wasn't really worried, but had thought I should worry. That seems like a waste of time so I stopped worrying.

What has happened since Carl started skirting has been nothing short of incredible. Carl used to not care about his appearance. In fact, he looked like he lived in a dumpster. Now he cares about how he looks and what goes with what. We can discuss fashion and clothing (a long term interest of mine).

Carl is no less of a man and probably more of one.

He's happier and more relaxed, I'm happier and we're doing better.

Hey, whatever you choose to wear, it is only a piece of cloth. Why sweat the small stuff? Be happy together.

[Sasquatch]

My wife isn't wild about my fashion interests, but then she didn't like my fashion choices when all i wore was pants! Luckily she tolerates me. I get the biggest objections from my teenage daughter.
Sasq

[Bri]

Not quite a spouse yet, but she fully supports it. At the time I first started she thought it was weird when I tried on one of her skirts, but I reminded her that I didn't want to be a woman nor did I want to look like one, and they were comfortable, bla bla bla. She now thinks I look better in them than she does, and helps me shop for them when I want to.

[Uncle Al]

Bri,

I'm happy for you

My wife still thinks of pants only for men. She tolerates my
kilts in public, skirts around the house-but not in public.
She still thinks that, being the spouse of a teacher, I must
maintain the 'image' of the 'prim and proper' educators husband.

Now that she will be 'retired' by the end of this coming week,
I hope that some of her 'view points' will be changing.

A couple of weeks ago, she was on a new medication, she
started to cry and ask why I was cross-dressing. I emotionally
resonded that she has been cross-dressing for years. This took
her aback a few steps. Then we got her med's changed. She is
no longer having the major mood swings since the med's
were changed.

I hope this summer, our 'choices' will not cause friction between us.

Have you set a wedding date yet?
I hope you have a grand event for the both of you.
Granted, the wedding ceremony is primarily for the bride,
but Bri-make the most of it, so that you BOTH are sharing
Equally in the event and festivities!

My best wishes for the both of you!

Uncle Al
Duncanville, TX

BTW-Our wedding anniversary of 36 years is this Wednesday, 4 June.

[dragonslain]

My girlfriend has always been supportive of me wearing Utilikilts since I started wearing them and she seemed to be OK with skirts (jean and plain cargo). Then about 2 years ago she flop over to a total hatred of me wearing skirts. She still loves the UKs but not any skirts. I don't know what caused the change.

[Departed Member]

Mine actually is afraid of conflict as in she don't want to get in trouble for defending my honor.

Something similar, I suppose with my 'other half'. She's been only too aware of the increasing problems (of a medical nature) that I have which are caused/exacerbated by tr*user-wearing, especially when the temperature 'goes through the roof', say 65F! I've usually gone 'unbifurcated' at home since we were married. When the kids were young, I wore a knee-length towelling sarong ('til it literally dropped apart!), but generally feel 'obligated' to conform to 'social norms' when they (+ grandchildren) call home nowadays.

She was perfectly OK with 'at home', but not 'out & about', until when some so-called friends of hers (at a local pub) made fun of her because they claimed they'd seen me, "parading around in women's clothes". She was extremely upset (knowing I donned a skirt at home, of course!) by all this. I was perplexed, to be honest, as the only times those particular folk had ever see me wearing anything remotely 'unconventional' was if I were wearing stirrups while cycling. It took me quite a while to discover they had confused me with a TS who lives but two streets away! If I'd donned a wig, glasses, high heels and 'old maids' clothing, then, I confess, there could have been a striking resemblance! It was a month or two before I saw this person again, while we were shopping, and pointed them out to my other half. Unfortunately, 'she' just does not 'pass' very well, not just because of height (6ft + heels), but their 'dated' (1950s?) style of clothing. My wife was at least partially re-assured, but the whole experience has continued to make her very concerned.

We ended up separating for a while (not directly related to apparel!), and during this time, I often went out and about, the tr*users dumped for a skirt, so everyone around the neighbourhood will, at some time or other, have seen me skirted. With no adverse reaction, other than on rare occasions, the odd cough or grunt (their problem, not mine!). So nowadays, I do feel obliged to compromise when she's around, if only for the fact that I would not expect her to feel she had to 'explain' to any third party, the effects of my pretty horrible medical condition!

[Bri]

Have you set a wedding date yet?
I hope you have a grand event for the both of you.
Granted, the wedding ceremony is primarily for the bride,
but Bri-make the most of it, so that you BOTH are sharing
Equally in the event and festivities!

No date yet set because we're still getting money for things. We also don't know what season we want it in. We've already talked about this in detail that this wedding will be about us, not her, or me. I told her that if someone starts treating me like a credit card or bank account, I will simply leave the wedding and have it when people realize it's not about one person. Then she said no, if they treat you or I like only one of us is getting married, We will go and elope somewhere, not just you, or me.

[Sarongman]

My "spouse", after a quite worried few days, totally accepted my skirting but--- therre is a line that I just won't cross and I think that is a comfort to her. Whilst I applaud Peter V for his dress (um) flair I could not venture there and, if I did, a certain female person would probably kill me

[Colin]

My wife is generally happy with me wearing a blue denim Unionkilt in public. She was very keen to order a traditional kilt for my 60th birthday which was last month. We ordered the kilt in Scottish National tartan and it should arrive in August. I remember my wife saying that she would love to see me in a kilt, years ago, long before I had any interest in kilts and skirts.
My wife bought me my first towelling sarong for "in the house" use, some years ago (with "Colin" embroidered on). This was a Christmas present which I wasn't expecting. I have enjoyed this and several other similar more recent towelling sarongs since, some embroidered "VXR" in recognition of my love of Vauxhall VXR performance cars.

[Sarongman]

Oh Colin! Vauxhall haven't made a real performance car since they stopped making that hairy chested monster, the 30 98 It also had a nicer gearchange than the blower Bentleys. Me Luddite, you Jane

[MtnBiker]

Mrs MB started out as coldly ambivalent (gosh that was 8 years ago) and quickly shifted to acceptance and then the embracement, culminating in her current state of enthusiastic encouragement.