Ziggy,
ziggy_encaoua wrote:Oh yeah there's this Dressing Service which also offers a bit more then the usual but can't say ithat's surprising
I took a look at both of the links you provided, with the caveat that I had to bail from the first one in a darned hurry as it demanded a Flash download, and Macromedia's site crashes my browser, and cannot find any reason why these services should be reviled; they seem to provide a needed service for the narrow segment of the population who desire said services. Whilst they're certainly not for us lot, who are looking for "fashion freedom" (read, "the option to dump tr*users in favour of skirts"), they do seem to cater to a specialised need. I see no harm to the "male who simply wishes to ditch tr*users" in such notions.
I certainly intend no offence in this, but I don't completely understand your seeming fascination with separating "men in skirts" from out-and-out "want to pass" transvestites; the two are fundamentally different, and are different enough that even a layman on the street should be able to tell the difference. You mention that you're a "gruff Afrikaner with a f**king big bushy beard"; that's a sure sign that you have no desire "to pass" and are in the game for other reasons. Do you, perhaps, live in a part of the world that's, shall we say, "less enlightened" than most?
We're at one point of the "skirted bloke" spectrum (the assorted avatars point this up); the folks who "want to pass" are at another. The two aren't even peripherally related to one another because they're coming at the notion from entirely different perspectives. All that said, I've never met even a single "wants to pass" transvestite, but if I did, I suspect I'd approach him as I would any other bloke -- with respect and sensitivity.