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A story about a friend of my grandson, age 14. His auntie asked him what he wanted for Christmas and he said he would like something he could hang on the wall of his freshly-decorated bedroom. Like what, she asked? He suggested a dreamcatcher; he's always liked them and my grandson has one in his room. OK, she said and she bought him one and he was happy enough with it so he fixed it to his wall. His mother noticed that some of the feathers on it were ... PINK!!! So she looked up the item on Amazon and found it was marketed as for girls and so told him he had to remove it and "put it out of sight or something". OK, I admit that it's not the same as the one my grandson has which is a bit more masculine, but if the kid is happy with it ... so what? What does she think having that is going to do to him? For those who don't know what I am talking about, here's an idea (I can't guarantee it's the same item he has but I guess it's something similar and it is specified as being for girls).
Some people take this gendering thing WAY too far.
Last edited by Stu on Thu Jan 08, 2026 6:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.
This sort of idiocy is one of the reasons that our society is headed straight down the loo at this point in time. So it's got pink in it. So bloody what? Are dreams "masculine" or "feminine"? How do we police those? [0] Does it matter that pink was at one point a boy's colour being a desaturated red (the colour of blood and of warriors)?
IDIOCY! Pure and simple. Resist the stupid. Before it's too late (unless it already is, and I have strong suspicions on that latter point).
[0] Don't worry. Those who would police are already designing ways.
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Stu wrote: ↑Thu Jan 08, 2026 4:47 pm
His mother noticed that some of the feathers on it were ... PINK!!! So she looked up the item on Amazon and found it was marketed as for girls and so told him he had to remove it and "put it out of sight or something".
Some people take this gendering thing WAY too far.
Here is the problem; dreamcatchers are suppose to be gender neutral. In the community I live in the Cherokee tribe arrives annually every Oct. in our local festival. They bring their souvenirs as such dreamcatchers and tons of other Indian goods. They don't sell certain one for one sex. They have hundreds of dreamcatchers hanging on display and they are not segregated for any particular sex. Claiming pink for a girl is a personal thing, if that is what you want it to mean.
I take it the boy must be forbidden to wear anything pink also, because pink is a girl color.
This gendering is "BS" on Amazon and agree they are taking it to far. The real sales pitch is simple; tell prospective buyer they can make these pink feathers means for girl or anything else you choose. You make it personal by claiming what the colors you want it mean, it's that simple.