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Faldaguy wrote: ↑Thu Apr 29, 2021 12:27 am
I've had a number of compliments about my skirts, mostly from women but rarely from men who seem to try to 'not notice'.
Interesting--I thought it typically is women who are more averse to male skirt-wearing than men are. Were any of the women complimenting your skirt wearing skirts/dresses themselves?
I believe the great majority, if not all, of the compliments I have received are genuine -- from either men or women; but far more women comment than men. I get the impression many more men would like to say something, positive or negative, but don't have the courage to do so -- or perhaps they just have reservations about commenting on other peoples clothing period -- "something (real) men don't do"?.
I really do not have a sense of if more women, or more men, are adverse to men wearing skirts; but I clearly feel it is still a rare event when a man compliments another man's skirt.
Faldaguy wrote: ↑Sat May 25, 2024 5:08 am
I believe the great majority, if not all, of the compliments I have received are genuine -- from either men or women; but far more women comment than men. I get the impression many more men would like to say something, positive or negative, but don't have the courage to do so -- or perhaps they just have reservations about commenting on other peoples clothing period -- "something (real) men don't do"?.
I really do not have a sense of if more women, or more men, are adverse to men wearing skirts; but I clearly feel it is still a rare event when a man compliments another man's skirt.
I appreciate compliments about my skirt from women more than I do from other men. While visiting Edinburgh a couple summers ago one of the locals complimented my kilt, and herself was wearing a dress. The fact that we were both wearing skirts really gave me a sense of gender equality.
I think it is easier for a woman to compliment your skirt since she knows about skirts and is comfortable talking about them. A man is normally stumped at what to call it without offending you, never mind if it is nice or not.
I filled my bike up in Costco today so in trousers. In the next pump to me was a man in a long denim skirt. What to do? I took my helmet off and thought I can't just stare and walk off. So I went and said hello. I asked him if he was wearing a skirt, he said "er yes". I said it's very nice, more men should do it. He agreed and escaped in his car.
Did you mention that you wear skirts too? I doubt he'd have stopped for a chat about it, a petrol pump isn't really the place, but it would have been a moment of solidarity for you both.
Jim wrote: ↑Sun Feb 04, 2024 12:03 am
My wife had to be hospitalized in Peoria for about 8 days for neck surgery. I stayed with her, but got to go home once and changed into this dress for comfort. I wore it day and night about 4 days. A lead nurse (male) and a head doctor (female) mentioned it. The nurse thought it very practical and the doctor thought it looked good and wondered where I got it. DSCN4079cs.jpg
Catching up on this thread, I've just seen your picture for the first time. That looks comfortable and stylish!
skirtyscot wrote: ↑Sun May 26, 2024 7:10 am
Did you mention that you wear skirts too? I doubt he'd have stopped for a chat about it, a petrol pump isn't really the place, but it would have been a moment of solidarity for you both.
You are right, I could/should have but I didn't. He looked so alarmed by me approaching him, so I kept it short.
It's a step in the right direction for me. Before I've looked and said nothing and kicked myself afterwards.
Edit
Although presenting as a MIS I thought he might be trans by his demeanor. I am also a trans ally so didn't want to make any assumptions
Barleymower wrote: ↑Sun May 26, 2024 7:58 am
Although presenting as a MIS I thought he might be trans by his demeanor. I am also a trans ally so didn't want to make any assumptions
It is easier when you meet another MIS, in a skirt, since you can duck the whole MIS/trans issue by connecting in both wearing a skirt. I did this to a guy in South Kensington while crossing the road. I say a guy since he had a moustache, but who knows and it didn't matter. They were wearing a skirt and appeared interesting, so I told him about this site and us.
At a church camp picnic yesterday a young man I sometimes work with told me "nice overalls." I was wearing a corduroy jumper that I had picked up at a garage sale on Saturday for $1.00. (brand: Ellison, size M, US usage of "jumper").
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A couple hours ago, while shopping with my wife at our local village 'center' a three-some of young people, two of whom we have seen about but don't know, and a young man I subsequently learned was on his first visit to Monteverde for his 26th. birthday, were coming past us on the sidewalk when he spoke out "I love your outfit" followed the young woman's comment "I was just about to say the same". (Maroon dress-T shirt; maroon full mid-calf pleated skirt and maroon thigh high stockings; plain eco-tech dark sandals.)
Just stepped out to a local restaurant for dinner; tossed on a 'jacket' for warmth as the evening cool was coming in -- got another compliment from another guy, the establishments owner. Maybe does not count as we are well acquainted, but a chap willing to step outside the restraint of the male box about complimenting another male -- especially in a skirt. I grabbed a quickie in the mirror shot just now of what I'm wearing.
Since I started to wear skirts and dresses full time I've had a a fair number of compliments, mainly from women. Today I had the oddest compliment from a man. We're spending a few days sightseeing around Salisbury and Winchester before boarding a cruise ship in Southampton (south coast of England). We had just had a meal at a Toby carvery and were making our way through the beer garden back to the car when we were approached by a man. He said to me "I'd like to shake your hand". As we shook hands all I could think of to say was "Why?" Without answering he turned round and walked back to his seat in the beer garden! Oddest experience so far but taking it as a compliment! Was wearing black and red short skirt (6 inch above knee) and red, almost pink top. Should have taken pic for posting but didn't think at the time.
Today I crossed the channel from Newhaven to Dieppe. On the crossing something happened that has never happened before.
I was leaving the cafeteria with three drinks and thre glasses. In the hallway I was stopped by a crew member (a man).
"Excise me" he said. I immediately said "oh the glasses" thinking I was being asked to return the glasses.
"No" he said "your".. looking at my skirt. "I like it very much".
I said "Thanks, you should try one"
He continued "I'm going to wear one as well, one day, I will".
I said "once you get over the shock it's easy". He carried on saying "I will do it" and moved away.
Good luck to him, I hope he plucks up the courage to go out there.
