Becoming too obsessed

[JohnH]

Yes, trousers have their uses such as going up on a roof to replace shingles or to change the oil in your vehicle.
I haven't worn trousers in over a month.
And why have so many women succumb to Trouser Tyranny?

John

[STEVIE]

Woman wear trousers because they fought for the right to in the first place.
A female wears trousers by choice, not coercion, there is no tyranny.
Men have all the same freedoms, but most don't know it.
In the main, the conditioning of boys into trouser only mode is very subtle and they develop into "freedom loving" men who have no damned idea what has been done to them.
At the most practical level function should rule form, in all other circumstances, do what satisfies your soul.
Have fun too, life is short and there's only one.
Steve.

[SkirtsDad]

She said that she thinks I am becoming obsessed too even though she supports me and loves me wearing skirts and dresses.

Perhaps a pertinant question might be does that disturb her?

I have never been as obsessed as I am now since I have started wearing skirts and dresses.

Are someone who has become obsessed with things in the past, for instance your hobbies? You mentioned the idea of a midlife crisis. Do you feel that anything is missing in your life, be that attention or direction etc.?

For me I am someone that can become "obsessed" with things i.e. things can often take over my life. Currently I am into indoor climbing, that I do about 15 hours a week. I regard this as a healthy obsession as it's a very sociable sport, particularly in the climbing gym where I go. My clothing obsession was not so healthy. Yes I definitely had one, to the extent that had to keep buying hanging rails and filled my spare.room with them and didn't have much space between them. My bedroom also had too many. I have since got rid of about 500 pieces of clothing. Although I still have over 200 skirts left.

[timemeddler]

with anything new, coming across as a little obsessed isn't unheard of.

[DrFishnets]

Perhaps a pertinant question might be does that disturb her?

I don’t think it disturbs her because she always asks me to dress up in skirts and tights when we are at home at night for a laugh and she seems enthusiastic about it. When I told her that I have started wearing skirts and dresses out shopping she gave me a lot praise and told me she was proud of me. To be honest it’s hard to read what she is really thinking. She could be saying all this just to keep me happy but I’m sure she is genuine about it. I hope.

[DrFishnets]

Are someone who has become obsessed with things in the past, for instance your hobbies? You mentioned the idea of a midlife crisis. Do you feel that anything is missing in your life, be that attention or direction etc.?

For me I am someone that can become "obsessed" with things i.e. things can often take over my life. Currently I am into indoor climbing, that I do about 15 hours a week. I regard this as a healthy obsession as it's a very sociable sport, particularly in the climbing gym where I go. My clothing obsession was not so healthy. Yes I definitely had one, to the extent that had to keep buying hanging rails and filled my spare.room with them and didn't have much space between them. My bedroom also had too many. I have since got rid of about 500 pieces of clothing. Although I still have over 200 skirts left.

When I mention midlife crisis I was thinking of on the lines of I’ve always (since I was a kid) wondered what it would be like wearing tights paired with a nice skirt. I always looked at the outfits the opposite sex wore and envied them in it because men’s clothes are so drab and boring. Now that I’m getting older the obsession is becoming so that I have started wearing those items of clothes myself and the feeling and comfort as well as look is amazing that it makes me feel good and it’s good therapy for my anxiety and depression that I’ve had since my 20s.

With me being a bit of an artist I love the possibilities womens clothes have with designs that are involved and I am thinking of designing and making my own skirts and dresses which would be good. I have other hobbies which include playing guitar and synthesizer, composing music and music technology as well as art, drawing, painting, walking and cycling and I have a keen admiration of architecture.

I am a bit of loner and I live in my head most of the time but I’m trying to get out of that state by attending guitar groups where I am socialising with other people but I get very nervous and paranoid when I mix with other people.

[denimini]

with anything new, coming across as a little obsessed isn't unheard of.

I think that there is a lot in that statement. I called it enthusiasm which is common with new interests.
I have been wearing skirts for about 10 years and the enthusiasm hasn't worn off. I think it is because I am making up for feeling deprived of wearing skirts for most of my life, admittedly no fault but my own having not previously recognised them as a viable option.

With me being a bit of an artist I love the possibilities womens clothes have with designs that are involved and I am thinking of designing and making my own skirts and dresses which would be good. I have other hobbies which include playing guitar and synthesizer, composing music and music technology as well as art, drawing, painting, walking and cycling and I have a keen admiration of architecture.

I think that part of my interest in skirts is because I am a designer in profession and at heart, offering a whole new realm of creativity in clothing that previously I had found rather limited. I have had sewing machines since my teens but now have upgraded to one with and electric motor and can do zigzag and other stitches, a 1965 Singer 328P assembled in Australia. I hope to endulge in a bit of creativity when I get time.

I am not sure where being obsessed becomes "too obsessed". Perhaps when you can't afford to eat and a lack of sleep?
I have accumulated 589 skirts so far, all catalogued on a spread sheet, however I still have plenty of time for other things and is no doubt cheaper than if I had a smoking or gambling habit. I get a lot of joy from collecting even if I can not wear all of them.

[Modoc]

I was talking to my partner today asking her if she feels I’m getting too obsessed with skirts, dresses and tights because I feel I talk about it too much with her and I look online at skirts and dresses all the time and I always tell her I seen a dress I really like and want to buy. She said that she thinks I am becoming obsessed too even though she supports me and loves me wearing skirts and dresses. I feel the reason for this could be I’m going through a midlife crisis but I’m not sure. I have never been as obsessed as I am now since I have started wearing skirts and dresses. Have any fellow skirt wearers experienced the same issues?

Dear Dr. Fishnets, You have heard from many wise men on the subject, so my two pennies' worth is surely of little consequence. But I'm feeling a bit spendy today. I once went on a skirt-collecting binge until I finally realized I was doing it just because I could. Now that I've realized it's no big deal, I haven't brought any in a while and have been actively thinning out my supply. You're doing all that anyone could ask, and that is questioning your practices and motives and discussing with your partner who might be impacted.