Becoming too obsessed

[DrFishnets]

I was talking to my partner today asking her if she feels I’m getting too obsessed with skirts, dresses and tights because I feel I talk about it too much with her and I look online at skirts and dresses all the time and I always tell her I seen a dress I really like and want to buy. She said that she thinks I am becoming obsessed too even though she supports me and loves me wearing skirts and dresses. I feel the reason for this could be I’m going through a midlife crisis but I’m not sure. I have never been as obsessed as I am now since I have started wearing skirts and dresses. Have any fellow skirt wearers experienced the same issues?

[Belember]

I can understand how this would be a bit frustrating and annoying. My greatest enemy is myself. Some things that I am learning about Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT) might be helpful:

* Accept that you are feeling this way; however do so without judging yourself or others or placing blame
* It is what it is
* Stop what you are doing and,
* Distract yourself: Go for a walk, do some puzzles, engage in a hobby, something that will fully occupy your mind (do not do this to avoid)
* Practice mindfulness: count the number of blue items in the area, name five things you see, four things you hear, what do you smell, touch. Take a shower and focus on the water dripping off of your fingertips
* Identify things that might trigger this issue and counter act with facts
* Cope ahead: Make plans for how you would deal with an upcoming stressful situation
* Schedule a set amount of time to shop for skirts with your partner
* Ask for professional assistance with learning DBT and taking classes

For more information about DBT:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectic ... or_therapy

[DrFishnets]

Thanks for the advise.

I have hobbies. I love playing guitar and piano to relax and making music on my Mac and doing art and model making. I also enjoy photography and walking and I’m thinking of taking up cycling again. It’s just that I’ve become so obsessed with skirts and dresses that I talk about it a lot to my partner and I fear it’s taking over.

[moonshadow]

In my experience, the obsession passes eventually. It's probably been well over a year since I purchased a skirt. I don't wear them constantly anymore, but I do still wear them. I just got to the point where my skirts were just one part of my overall expression. They are a part of who I am, but far from the complete picture.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. I think this kind of obsession is a normal human response to something new and uncharted for the individual.

Just try not to obsess over being obsessed....

[JohnH]

Nobody ever accuses any woman of being obsessed with wearing trousers. Then why do people accuse men of "obsession" for preferring unbifurcated garments?
And I saw on crossdressers.com men feeling they had to get counseling for wanting to wear skirts and dresses. I don't recall any time when women felt they had to get counseling for wanting to wear trousers.
What we have are DOUBLE STANDARDS.

John

[Fred in Skirts]

Do not fret over being obsessed! We ALL get obsessed at one time or another. When I first started to wear skirts All I could think about was buying more skirts and dresses and trying to wear them all. I now have a closet full of skirts and dresses that would take me over a year to wear a different one each day. I have not bought a new skirt or a dress in over a year.

So sit back and just enjoy having a supportive wife and all of the skirts you have, DO NOT FRET or worry about being obsessed it will pass!

[JohnH]

Imagine: 365 dresses and skirts to wear a different item each day for the year. No, I haven't acquired that many unbifurcated garments. I think I have enough to wear a different item each day for a month.

John

[DrFishnets]

Nobody ever accuses any woman of being obsessed with wearing trousers. Then why do people accuse men of "obsession" for preferring unbifurcated garments?
And I saw on crossdressers.com men feeling they had to get counseling for wanting to wear skirts and dresses. I don't recall any time when women felt they had to get counseling for wanting to wear trousers.

I remember I mentioned to my mental health counsellor that I was concerned about my obsession with wearing skirts, dresses and tights and she told me the obsession was healthy as I am wanting to show my real identity and to escape the trap of being limited to wearing mens clothes which I told her I found drab and boring.

I told her I found wearing skirts and tights good for relaxation and a grounding technique for stress and anxiety. She then advised me to join LGBTQ groups but I told her that I am a heterosexual guy who is only interested in wearing skirts, tights and dresses because I liked the look of those items of clothing and I find them very comfortable to wear. She understood and encouraged me to wear them as a form of stress relief. It wasn’t until I found this forum that it gave me the confidence to finally wear skirts and dresses in public.

[moonshadow]

It sounds like you've got yourself a pretty good counselor.

[denimini]

I just call it enthusiastic.

[Mouse]

I just find my life is more interesting and fun, now I wear skirts all the time. I do the same things I did as before, but now I feel a little bit special, independent, bucking the system and just plain fun to have a skirt on than a pair of trousers. Not sure if you would class me as obsessed? The kicker is, I am happy.

[rode_kater]

In crossdressing circles this is known as Pink Fog. Once you've broken free of the box your mind starts going wild with possibilities and to others it can seem like obsession.

It will pass eventually. It's just a new phase of your life.

[yardstick]

I think we've all been too obsessed at some point or another, probably made worse by all the years we have been missing out with skirts.
I myself have bought far too many summer skirts recently now that i'm getting more confident wearing them so even that could possibly count as a obsession but why should I worry when MOH is always buying clothes too.

In a way its no different to an adult getting back into model railways or motorbikes after a few decades absence as for those people that will also become a main topic of their conversation for a while until the novelty wears off and it settles to become part of daily life.

[Jim]

I don't want to be too graphic, but sometimes sexual relief also relieves odd thoughts.

[STEVIE]

I don't want to be too graphic, but sometimes sexual relief also relieves odd thoughts.

On the other hand Jim, the lack of it will cause all kinds of problems, but yes, that's for another place.
Dr F, since I started wearing skirts and dresses full-time, they are my go to option every day, every time.
Trousers are the standby for compromise, practical and no choice days.
Obsessed, if that's someone else's opinion, fine by me, but personally, I see it as a turnaround, my choice.
One, other point, women wearing trousers should have no relevance, have fun, do as you please.
Steve.