Difficulties with partners

[tesjolts]

Hi Highlander,
the skirt looks great with the front pleats. It resembles somehow one of the original Utilikilt skirts that is now no longer sold.
Keep up the skirting. I'm sure your wife will get used to it.
Cheers
Tes

My wife objects to my wearing skirts, but still goes out with me while I am in a skirt: shopping, restaurants (currently in Florida on vacation), visiting family (spent the weekend with my son, his wife and two grandsons (youngest just 9 weeks old).
Recently purchased a skirt from H&M (https://www2.hm.com/en_us/productpage.1044163005.html) Pleated denim skirt.


I will keep it, wear when out without her, maybe get her to come around eventually (knock wood).
Ken

[STEVIE]

Guys,
Yesterday marked my 41st wedding anniversary.
My wife has known about my skirt wearing for around 43 years.
Skirts aside, many marriages flounder simply because one, or both of the parties expects some future "change" from the other.
Perhaps your other halves reckon your skirts are a passing phase and that you just have to get it "out of your system"?
Sorry to be pessimistic but that is equally valid and misplaced as expecting your partners to eventually "come around" to your way of thinking.
Simple fact is that my wife's acceptance simply equates to ignoring what I wear and pretty much me. along with it.
Good luck and I wish you more success than I!
Steve.

[Faldaguy]

by STEVIE » Mon Mar 14, 2022 9:02 pm

Guys,
Yesterday marked my 41st wedding anniversary.
My wife has known about my skirt wearing for around 43 years.
Skirts aside, many marriages flounder simply because one, or both of the parties expects some future "change" from the other.
Perhaps your other halves reckon your skirts are a passing phase and that you just have to get it "out of your system"?
Sorry to be pessimistic but that is equally valid and misplaced as expecting your partners to eventually "come around" to your way of thinking.
Simple fact is that my wife's acceptance simply equates to ignoring what I wear and pretty much me. along with it.
Good luck and I wish you more success than I!
Steve.

Hola Steve;

Yours's has been such a painful journey, especially given there have not been any 'surprises' or deceptions involved. And while I truly can feel your pain, I do wonder if some of the "skirt" issue is displaced anger -- with the skirts taking the blame for other things? It does not appear at this time that regardless of what the issues may be -- they are there, entrenched and not giving either of you much comfort.

It is also true from the limited sample we see on this forum that few of us have S.O's in support. Many are single; some hide their preferences and skirt wearing; some persist with grudging acceptance from their spouses, and a few of us are lucky enough to have S.O's that stand by us. Despite this seeming imbalance from our S.O's, might it not also be correct, and helpful, to allow that though it is often a challenge to bring a spouse around, that too does happen -- sometimes.

I hope you both find some relief in your new together but apart arrangement; as arose in your recent meeting with an old friend, and more comfort will derive from neither of you working so hard to impose your will on the other. I've actually known two long married couples whose relationships were failing, come to much greater appreciation and support for one another after the, in their cases, divorce. One going so far as to be the best man at his ex's remarriage! Anyway, I'm hoping you both may grow/change in ways that brings out your best, and a few of us will help more women come to honoring 'their' man in a skirt.

[denimini]

Stevie, you made that paragraph about your 41st wedding anniversary seem like a sentence.

[STEVIE]

Stevie, you made that paragraph about your 41st wedding anniversary seem like a sentence.

There have been some good times along the way, we produced two fantastic kids who are now well adjusted adults.
The current situation casts a shadow over past memories I guess.
Besides, murder would have meant an even briefer sentence.
Steve.

[Kirbstone]

Nah! Stevie, Murder is a messy business and my freezer is full anyway.

Tom

[STEVIE]

Nah! Stevie, Murder is a messy business and my freezer is full anyway.

Tom

Ah bur there is more than one way to skin a cat,
My dear departed Mother told me that!

Thanks Tom, you brought a smile.
Need as much cheer as possible.
Steve

[Sherkhan]

I will just consider myself Extremely lucky . Was commenting on my wife's hiking skirt and wondering if I should try one. She just said - go for it, now I am hardly ever wearing anything but... home or out shopping.

[mishawakaskirt]

This post will be about skirts and difficulties with partners.

But first. Shortalls!!
I'm amid a Goofy personal challenge started on July 1st and going the entire month of July to only wear Shortalls. Atleast in my free time. They are something I can't wear at work, as we must wear proper safety clothes and gear.

This Will probably be a easy challenge as I just about wear them 75 percent of the time in warm weather anyway.
The only out would be if there is a funeral or wedding, then I will opt for something more formal.

At the end of the month I m also curious to see if my view point of short alls shifts any. Will they become an annoyance or mondaine at some point?
I'm also curious to see if and when my wife makes any sort of comment about my continuing wearing of Shortalls.

*** I may break away from this to temporarily wear a skirt some evening if given the opportunity, and I'm completely alone***

As of late and mentioned in another thread some weeks back. I mentally can't handle the stresses of my wife s continuing negativity towards my clothing (skirts and kilts).
Since 2017 there has been absolutely no progress with her

I have no plans to permanently hang up my skirts for good.
I am going to evaluate myself during this month of shortalls. And see how to proceed out the other side. A break from the having to worry about finding a good hiding place for a skirt will be nice. As I can put them all into deep hiding places, for the rest of the month. I'm weary from having to hide skirts to keep the peace. ( I have multiple places throughout the house where I hide skirts fully believing in the don't put all your eggs in one basket. Hoping upon discovery I would not loose my entire lot of skirts. A bunch of years back she found and destroyed something of mine. That action really hurt our relationship and has in some ways made me bitter toward her regarding that action. I think it is now nearly impossible for her to find every skirt I own. I'm almost certain I don't even know where all my skirts are.
As mentioned recently it seems like there is no change of stance on my side or her side ( we are both dead set on opposing sides.)

[Faldaguy]

This post will be about skirts and difficulties with partners.

But first....

*** I may break away from this to temporarily wear a skirt some evening if given the opportunity, and I'm completely alone***

As of late and mentioned in another thread some weeks back. I mentally can't handle the stresses of my wife s continuing negativity towards my clothing (skirts and kilts).
Since 2017 there has been absolutely no progress with her

I have no plans to permanently hang up my skirts for good.
I am going to evaluate myself during this month of shortalls. And see how to proceed out the other side. A break from the having to worry about finding a good hiding place for a skirt will be nice

A bunch of years back she found and destroyed something of mine. That action really hurt our relationship and has in some ways made me bitter toward her regarding that action.

As mentioned recently it seems like there is no change of stance on my side or her side ( we are both dead set on opposing sides.)

This post, and those like it hurt so much. The notion that any adults, especially married, can be so intolerant and inconsiderate to their partners, seems to be a regular theme on SC. A couple of times I proposed the creation of a SC manual with insights on this particular problem as it is so wide-spread and painful to those within the maelstrom.

Many members have at times articulated bits of advise, mostly giving way in the end to saying everyone's issue is a bit different, and personal to the extent that there is no Ann Landers to settle the matter for MIS -- leaving many to never try, and many to give up their skirts ostensibly in favor of preserving the relationship -- but at what cost, and what on-going hurt and deterioration? For some the choice of attire is a minor matter and can be tossed aside with little residual anger; for others it festers and makes a sham of what a marriage offers.

Preferred attire certainly should not be a matter of shame, but compelling other's to follow our wishes goes beyond respectful. Having to hide as an innocuous an item as a skirt is truly sad; and to think another person, spouse or not, has the temerity to take it upon themselves to toss someone else's items is at best childish, likely cruel, immoral, perhaps illegal. But law aside, it is the harm to the relationship that endures for both parties. I do suspect that if you are going to be a man in a skirt, you need to grow a pair -- and flatly pronounce, that though you may still disagree, these are your chosen clothes and the other has no unilateral right to their disposition. Then, continue to work on dialogue, to hear the concerns in a respectful manner. For anyone to have to hide their clothes is destructive to their core.

[DrFishnets]

Fortunately (as I have said many time on this forum) my partner is very supportive about me wearing skirts and dresses and when I told her I went out shopping in a pinafore dress she told me she was very proud of me and proud that I’m starting to show my real identity that I am a heterosexual man who loves wearing skirts because I like the look of them and they are comfortable and to wear a skirt doesn’t mean that I’m trans or part of the LGBTQ crowd.

I remember when I first met my partner she had a friend over and while I was in the bedroom I could hear my partner mention to her friend how she would react if I was to wear skirts and dresses and her reply was utter shock and disgust. I remember she screamed “Oh no” and let out a big scream. I felt really humiliated.

Anyway, a few days later we were planning a kinky night in with her wearing stockings and suspenders (garters) but she was feeling very tired and she was feeling not in the mood. For a laugh I thought that I would wear them instead and when I did she laughed and thought it was great and good fun. I’ll tell you that the feeling of stockings and suspenders (garters) on my legs was amazing and the fact she approved it was even more thrilling.

My partner doesn’t wear skirts or dresses or even tights. She wears jeans, socks and slip on shoes and she is a bit of a Tomboy and she thinks me dressing in skirts and tights is brilliant.

I really feel bad for fellow skirt wearers whose partners or wives aren’t as enthusiast and supporting but it is good that you are still keeping up with the skirt wearing regardless. I fear if me and my partner went seperate ways it is going to be difficult finding another woman who is as understanding.