Difficulties with partners

[Caultron]

...Maybe it's my age, but I don't much care if the world approves of me or not.

Yes indeed, one good thing about being an old man is that you get to be a crazy old man.

And that works for women as well.

And why wait until you're old?

[Caultron]

...Maybe it's my age, but I don't much care if the world approves of me or not.

If you can't have your fun now, then when?

[denimini]

Maybe it's my age, but I don't much care if the world approves of me or not.

I have reached that point too and it is very liberating. I am just not sure if it is a sign of increasing wisdom or dementure.

[Fred in Skirts]

Maybe it's my age, but I don't much care if the world approves of me or not.

I have reached that point too and it is very liberating. I am just not sure if it is a sign of increasing wisdom or dementure.

Oh it's wisdom for sure!!

Fred

[pelmut]

I am just not sure if it is a sign of increasing wisdom or dementure.

Is dementure when your false teeth are driving you mad?

[dillon]

I am just not sure if it is a sign of increasing wisdom or dementure.

Is dementure when your false teeth are driving you mad?

I think it's a hybrid of dementia and adventure...like when a senile old fart wanders away from the nursing home... He's off on a dementure...

[Sinned]

I had the usual disagreement with MOH about skirts today before we went out shopping and she said something about my birthday next month so I said to her that I was going to wear a skirt during my non-working hours on my birthday. I wanted to invite my children and grand-children to my birthday meal at a local restaurant but tell them as it is my day I shall be wearing a skirt and ask that they are welcome on that basis and to please show some support for me in this. MOH keeps on about how my children wouldn't want to be with me outside skirted but to me they say they have no problem and this would be an opportunity for them to put their money where their mouth is so to speak. I just want to clear the air a little and know where I stand with them all. It's a risky venture I agree but I'm just getting fed up with it all and I'm hoping it may make MOH think a little more and that they can see the lack of reaction to my dress choice. In case you are wondering I have already told her that I am thinking of doing this and while she hasn't agreed she has taken it calmly and hasn't as yet raised any objections. I have a few weeks before I need to tell them. Of course the worst outcome would be that the others support me and MOH doesn't and doesn't want to attend and I just don't know what I will do about that. Any thoughts before I open my mouth and put my foot into it up to the knee?

[Caultron]

Just the usual. Tell 'em this is something you've found you enjoy, and it's your birthday, and so please take humor.

And good luck!

[Reaper_Man]

from personal experience i think you'll be surprised to find that your kids won't be bothered at all by your skirt wearing and will happily attend.

as for TOH it's difficult because unless you can convince her to go out in public with you skirted she will never accept that it is a non issue, it took me a while to convince my (now late) wife to go public with me wearing a skirt and even when she did the first time she insisted on choosing the skirt (an above the knee black cargo skirt), after 2 or 3 outings (in different skirts) she realised that nobody really cared and she was soon more than happy to be seen with me in a skirt or dress, it got to a point where she actually encouraged it, often suggesting that i wore a dress when i suggested that trousers might be the right choice on certain occasions, she would often say that she loved it when i wore a dress and how good i looked in them

[Fred in Skirts]

Here is my .02 cents.

Wear the skirt your kids already say they have no problem with it and if SHMBO says she will not go with you just tell her she is being foolish. And you have made up YOUR mind and she should accept it. By the way I have had three wives and they all tried to control me in one way or another. None of it was about what I wore. So do what you really want to do wear the skirt.

And have a

Fred

[dillon]

I try not to give advice to anyone regarding his spouse, except to say that if you don't respect yourself, do you expect your spouse to respect you? Marriage is compromise, not capitulation.

[twowheels45]

Well said Dillon. My first wife was in effect a bully for 23 years till I ditched her. Mrs2 knows about my dressing and is fine with it.

[hairy]

Sinned, could it be that Your other half does not want your children to except you skirted because she would be out on her own! Get them fully on your side then your well over half way, then get them to have a chat with her. If all fails you could try telling her your going naked if you can't wear a skirt, or tell her you won't be seen with her if she wears trousers. WE are behind you mate.

[Sinned]

On Thursday evening I had a chat with a family friend who has known my wife since she was knee high to a grasshopper and he is fine with me being skirted and would come to the meal. I have just come back from a barbeque at my youngest son's house and he, his fiancée and our granddaughter would come to the meal. I just have to have a word with my daughter now to confirm that she, her partner and our grandchildren will attend but, whilst I am fairly certain that they would come, I am not counting my chickens so to speak. Hairy, I think that you are right and she doesn't want my children to accept my attire and I think they do even though they may not be entirely happy about it. I think that if MOH could think about it clearly enough she would realise that she IS on her own in this. BUT emotional reaction isn't conducive to logical thought and, having put up such determined opposition for so long, she probably doesn't want to now appear wrong in her opposition. This pride in itself can be a difficult to overcome and MOH, showing some of the characteristics of a Leo, can be very obstinate at times. I have been wearing skirts when I can now for nearly four years so it should be obvious too that it just isn't a fad. There have been times on holiday when I have eaten alone skirted while my wife, daughter and family have eaten together in another part of the restaurant which has really hurt me that they could do that and couldn't offer some support. Maybe they thought that being loyal to their mother more important and I didn't make a fuss about it at the time so as not to cause any unnecessary friction. So assuming my daughter says yes then sometime later this month I will invite MOH to my meal and inform her that all the others will be there and see what answer I get. Ny feeling at the moment is that if she refuses to go then yes I will be hurt and sad but will still go ahead. The trousers thing wouldn't work, tried that tack. Anyway, I'll let you know what happens; I know that I have a lot of support on the site and thanks for your explicit mention so watch this space.

[moonshadow]

There have been times on holiday when I have eaten alone skirted while my wife, daughter and family have eaten together in another part of the restaurant which has really hurt me that they could do that and couldn't offer some support. Maybe they thought that being loyal to their mother more important and I didn't make a fuss about it at the time so as not to cause any unnecessary friction.

Dennis, as I don't really know you, or your immediate family at all really, I'm really having to hold my tongue on how I feel about this blatant disregard for your feelings, self respect, and confidence.

But I can't hold this back.... you do what you want, and far be it for me to advise another man on how to handle his life... but if it were ME, I'd saddle up my pony and ride.

But that's just if it were me. Sorry if I overstepped my bounds, but life is too short to be treated that way over a damn blasted skirt! They are treating you like some type of monster. It's NOT cool.

*sighs*.... Sorry Dennis... you probably shouldn't listen to me on that. 40 years is a long time to be with someone, and I know it's not easy. I just have a hard time reading these stories, it makes me want to ring someones neck. There is no sense in people acting this controlling... ah.. there I go again....



Man, one way or another, you've GOT to get control of your own life buddy.