An oddball question

[crfriend]

I have the most amazing shot of me that was taken back in 2013 sitting next to the console of one of my very favourite types of computers of all time, and it's in ridiculously high-resolution. It's good enough that I'm contemplating getting it professionally printed and framed for my wall at home.

The question: In the photograph I'm wearing the wedding band I wore when I was still with Sapphire. With that relationship betrayed and dead I'm wondering if I should simply edit the band out of the image (it's blatant as my hands were crossed on my lap with my left one atop the right) or leave it in place as a reminder of what could have been? (The image is a couple of pages back in my "Pics and Looks" thread.)

Any ideas? I'm torn on it.

[Sinned]

Carl, if I remember rightly you had some really good times with Sapphire that are in various posts so could you not leave the ring in the photo as a commemoration of those good times and forgive the bad. The fact that the relationship went sour may have not have been entirely her fault as you hinted that there may have been something medical. Not having a photographic memory I would have to re-read the post on this. To digress, we had something in the same vein happen with the wife of our son who died of leukaemia. She was a sociopath and tried her best to intervene in our relationship with our son and made his last days miserable to the extent that we are convinced that he simply gave up on life. He had an RAF funeral which we attended but we weren't invited to the crematorium afterward for that ceremony. Having seen the wicked witch recently and received no recognition of my existence from her we prefer to remember the good times we had with him.

In the end I guess it would depend upon how much the breakup has affected you and if you are really that hurt then take it out. Events happened and you can't undo that part of your life.

[moonshadow]

My honest opinion,

I'd leave it. We can't hide from our past, it's part of us, for better or worse. Let it remind you of the good times. Besides, frankly, and this is just my personal opinion, altering images as a result of a breakup.... well it just seems juvenile.

But that's just what I would do.

[Milfmog]

Carl,

I'm guessing that this is the image in question. Personally, I'm with the others who have already posted. A photograph is a historical record of the time at which it was taken, at that point you were wearing the band and I would not try to edit it out of history. Whether you edit the picture or not, you will always have memories of your time with Diana, as the years pass the bad ones should fade and leave the good ones for you to enjoy. I see no reason to believe that photoshop will accelerate that process.

Have fun,


Ian.

[Kilted_John]

Carl,

Like everyone else here, I'd leave it as is. I could see cropping the image, if she was present, but, otherwise, I wouldn't edit it.

-J

[crfriend]

Thank you, gentlemen, for your well thought-out and sensible answers. I'll admit to being in a bit of a funk when I posted that, and now being of a (slightly) clearer mind, agree that I should leave history alone.

I have vastly more good memories than bad of my time together with her, and those are memories I cherish. The bad ones I'm trying to let go of gracefully.

I haven't worn the ring since early last July although I sometimes contemplate getting a chain and wearing the ring on that. Another option is to hold it in reserve in case I have an electronics project that'll require some gold, and then use the ring as the donor source. Memories won't be sacrificed that way as they would if I simply sold it for its intrinsic value.

She, of course, kept the multi-thousand-dollar ring I gave her in the late '80s. (It's considered bad form for the guy to ask for such things back, but what's the protocol when it's the woman who abrogates the relationship?)

[dillon]

I have the most amazing shot of me that was taken back in 2013 sitting next to the console of one of my very favourite types of computers of all time, and it's in ridiculously high-resolution. It's good enough that I'm contemplating getting it professionally printed and framed for my wall at home.

The question: In the photograph I'm wearing the wedding band I wore when I was still with Sapphire. With that relationship betrayed and dead I'm wondering if I should simply edit the band out of the image (it's blatant as my hands were crossed on my lap with my left one atop the right) or leave it in place as a reminder of what could have been? (The image is a couple of pages back in my "Pics and Looks" thread.)

Any ideas? I'm torn on it.

Idk, Carl...that's your call. Personally, I tend to think that history is a set of facts that shouldn't be edited. Wouldn't editing the photo be a bit like all the Universities succumbing to the pressure to rename their institutions to eliminate the names of slave owners and segregationists? And cities removing statues of historical figures whose thoughts and actions offend many in the light of modern-day interpretations of their image? Will we erase everyone whose imperfections do not comply with the values we wish to instill in the world? History is always associated with pain; no figures therein, with the possible exceptions of Stalin and Hitler, and perhaps Mother Teresa, are either all good or all evil. I personally think we should not vanquish or revise the past. Having it around helps us shape the future.

[moonshadow]

Wouldn't editing the photo be a bit like all the Universities succumbing to the pressure to rename their institutions to eliminate the names of slave owners and segregationists? And cities removing statues of historical figures whose thoughts and actions offend many in the light of modern-day interpretations of their image? Will we erase everyone whose imperfections do not comply with the values we wish to instill in the world? History is always associated with pain; no figures therein, with the possible exceptions of Stalin and Hitler, and perhaps Mother Teresa, are either all good or all evil. I personally think we should not vanquish or revise the past. Having it around helps us shape the future.

Those who don't know history are doomed to repeat it!

[hoborob]

More like "Those who refuse to learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them." Moon.

[moonshadow]

More like "Those who refuse to learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them." Moon.

One must first know history before one may refuse to learn from it.

[dillon]

More like "Those who refuse to learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them." Moon.

One must first know history before one may refuse to learn from it.

Tell that to the historical revisionists making education policy in southern states...and when you consider the influence of the Texas Schoolbook Commission, perhaps for the nation.

[moonshadow]

More like "Those who refuse to learn the lessons of history are doomed to repeat them." Moon.

One must first know history before one may refuse to learn from it.

Tell that to the historical revisionists making education policy in southern states...and when you consider the influence of the Texas Schoolbook Commission, perhaps for the nation.

Dillon.... due to the politics of your state, I haven't seen any sunlight shining out of your ..... lately.

*just teasing*

[dillon]

Don't worry, my friend. I may be a bit constipated at the moment, but when we throw those puppet boobs out of Raleigh, I'm gonna poop a big load of solar illumination!