My first real outing
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Re: My first real outing
Well done midwest4455. As many have said it does get easier from now on. The secret is to feel confident and believe in yourself. Like many say on this forum, I, others and you will get some stares, apparent talk even giggles. Don't we all stare at times, hopefully not that obvious, the apparent talk could well be positive as society members regularly demonstrate that if one doesn't agree they will say it at you, and with regards the giggles, well you have made someones day at least be happy for them at that moment in time. all moments are just that, a moment.
If you walk around as a man in a skirt with strength and conviction that will come other to those who see you and then only a small minority show them for who they are. They are the small minority and all walks of life have a similar small minority.
All the best. Keep up the skirt wearing in public.
If you walk around as a man in a skirt with strength and conviction that will come other to those who see you and then only a small minority show them for who they are. They are the small minority and all walks of life have a similar small minority.
All the best. Keep up the skirt wearing in public.
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You should be rightly proud of the skirt you made. It does look extremely professional, certainly something I could not do.midwest4455 wrote:Here's a picture of the skirt I made. I have done some previous attempts at sewing skirts, but this is the first one I made that I'm willing to wear out.
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Re: My first real outing
One of the replies spoke to the fact that wearing a skirt or dress leads to people opening up conversations with you.
Boy and how! Shortly after the first time I went to church in my sweaterdress, I went to my pastor's wedding in my maxi sundress ( we had some crazy temperature swings this summer). Even though she was marrying another woman, I was concerned about the reaction I'd get in the rural town where she was getting married. I shouldn't have been; as the pastor there she must have brought in every gay and lesbian in the county. At the wedding I had met up with a couple friends from church and we went to the reception together.
After they left I went to the bathroom. When I came back to my table a married couple had taken my friends' places. The wife apologized to me and started to move to leave when I told to not worry my friends had left. I then complimented her on her dress and she returned the compliment on mine and before you knew it we were chattering away like new BFFs.
All of a sudden I looked to my left and saw that her husband wasn't quite glaring at me, but his expression was clearly asking, "Just what the Hell do you think you're doing with my WIFE?!"
After giving my very best imitation of a deer caught in the headlights I started chatting HIM up with all of the Mano a Mano charm I could muster. Just as he was beginning to offer me more than a syllable or two at a time I glanced over at his very befuddled wife whose expression seemed to ask, "what just happened here? Did I just turn into chopped liver? ... I don't even like chopped liver!" So I started glancing over at her as often as I dared. In time, we got to the point where had a very nice, relaxed, 3-way conversation.
I guess the moral of the story is, as in all social situations, don't forget the other person's spouse. You will find you have more fun in skirt or dress.
Boy and how! Shortly after the first time I went to church in my sweaterdress, I went to my pastor's wedding in my maxi sundress ( we had some crazy temperature swings this summer). Even though she was marrying another woman, I was concerned about the reaction I'd get in the rural town where she was getting married. I shouldn't have been; as the pastor there she must have brought in every gay and lesbian in the county. At the wedding I had met up with a couple friends from church and we went to the reception together.
After they left I went to the bathroom. When I came back to my table a married couple had taken my friends' places. The wife apologized to me and started to move to leave when I told to not worry my friends had left. I then complimented her on her dress and she returned the compliment on mine and before you knew it we were chattering away like new BFFs.
All of a sudden I looked to my left and saw that her husband wasn't quite glaring at me, but his expression was clearly asking, "Just what the Hell do you think you're doing with my WIFE?!"
After giving my very best imitation of a deer caught in the headlights I started chatting HIM up with all of the Mano a Mano charm I could muster. Just as he was beginning to offer me more than a syllable or two at a time I glanced over at his very befuddled wife whose expression seemed to ask, "what just happened here? Did I just turn into chopped liver? ... I don't even like chopped liver!" So I started glancing over at her as often as I dared. In time, we got to the point where had a very nice, relaxed, 3-way conversation.
I guess the moral of the story is, as in all social situations, don't forget the other person's spouse. You will find you have more fun in skirt or dress.
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Re: My first real outing
Your ease and confidence being out in public is admirable. Keep it up!Pdxfashionpioneer wrote:One of the replies spoke to the fact that wearing a skirt or dress leads to people opening up conversations with you...You will find you have more fun in skirt or dress.
And as to interesting conversations, yes, those surely do happen. Just don't get stuck on naive questions like, "Are you Scottish?" Take those as an invitation to talk more, and not as stereotyping.
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I'd say that probably won't come up much unless wearing a tartan kilt. Although I ran into a grocery checker once who insisted on calling my calf length blue skirt a "kilt".Caultron wrote:Just don't get stuck on naive questions like, "Are you Scottish?"
She kept saying "well it looks like a kilt to me".
I replied "no, it's just an ordinary run of the mill skirt".
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You'd be surprised.moonshadow wrote:I'd say that probably won't come up much unless wearing a tartan kiltCaultron wrote:Just don't get stuck on naive questions like, "Are you Scottish?"
Well, there you are.moonshadow wrote:Although I ran into a grocery checker once who insisted on calling my calf length blue skirt a "kilt".
She kept saying "well it looks like a kilt to me".
I replied "no, it's just an ordinary run of the mill skirt".
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I'm a Scot, I live in Scotland and I have had the same conversation:
Q; "Is that a kilt"?
A; "No, it's a skirt"
Q; "Are you sure"?
A; "It was when I put it on this morning".
Response, "Well, good luck to you"!
We shook hands and parted, went our separate ways.
At the time, I had on a denim midi, no resemblance to any kilt ever.
However, a good chat that would never have happened if I'd been trousered.
Steve.
Q; "Is that a kilt"?
A; "No, it's a skirt"
Q; "Are you sure"?
A; "It was when I put it on this morning".
Response, "Well, good luck to you"!
We shook hands and parted, went our separate ways.
At the time, I had on a denim midi, no resemblance to any kilt ever.
However, a good chat that would never have happened if I'd been trousered.
Steve.
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Yes, some people do think any skirt worn by a man must be a kilt. I guess they have no other frame of reference.STEVIE wrote:I'm a Scot, I live in Scotland and I have had the same conversation:
Q; "Is that a kilt"?
A; "No, it's a skirt"
Q; "Are you sure"?...
The, "Are you sure?" is priceless.
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I chuckled at "It was when I put it on this morning".
Perhaps we should redefine what a "kilt" is. Sort of like a meteorite isn't so until it hits the ground, maybe a skirt isn't a kilt until it's donned by a man?
J/K
Perhaps we should redefine what a "kilt" is. Sort of like a meteorite isn't so until it hits the ground, maybe a skirt isn't a kilt until it's donned by a man?
J/K
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Last time I flew from Glasgow airport was the first time anyone commented on my knee length denim cargo skirt. One of the security scanning dudes asked if it was a denim kilt, I said No, a skirt, he seemed slightly bemused but said no more (that I can remember).
I also got an interesting brief conversation with someone I know in the village recently, I was in my car, wearing an ankle length version of the same skirt, I stopped to collect something from him, he asked what I was wearing, I told him it was a long denim skirt, he said,"I wear something similar at home but never in public", I wonder how many men do so?
I know one other person who knows me saw me later that day wandering around Glasgow in the same skirt, they said they saw me and did give me a bit of a quizical (how is that spelt?) look, but didn't mention my skirt.
I also got an interesting brief conversation with someone I know in the village recently, I was in my car, wearing an ankle length version of the same skirt, I stopped to collect something from him, he asked what I was wearing, I told him it was a long denim skirt, he said,"I wear something similar at home but never in public", I wonder how many men do so?
I know one other person who knows me saw me later that day wandering around Glasgow in the same skirt, they said they saw me and did give me a bit of a quizical (how is that spelt?) look, but didn't mention my skirt.
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Some time ago when I had to attend several meetings in Broadstairs (Kent - SE corner of Englandshire) flying from Edinburgh to London, I wore a short khaki cargo skirt (approx 17" long) and was frisked by Security (I could not go through the metal detectors as I have a pacemaker). No comments were made but he did give me a smile and another on later occasions. He did take his time feeling round the hem though...Big and Bashful wrote:Last time I flew from Glasgow airport was the first time anyone commented on my knee length denim cargo skirt. One of the security scanning dudes asked if it was a denim kilt, I said No, a skirt, he seemed slightly bemused but said no more (that I can remember).
I also got an interesting brief conversation with someone I know in the village recently, I was in my car, wearing an ankle length version of the same skirt, I stopped to collect something from him, he asked what I was wearing, I told him it was a long denim skirt, he said,"I wear something similar at home but never in public", I wonder how many men do so?
I know one other person who knows me saw me later that day wandering around Glasgow in the same skirt, they said they saw me and did give me a bit of a quizical (how is that spelt?) look, but didn't mention my skirt.
Like you B&B, I wonder how many men are just house-only skirted and haven't gone out there wearing it.
(And I think quizzical has two "z"s in the UK at least - not sure about across the pond)
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Based on responses I've seen here, likely a lot; it takes a certain amount of courage to actually head out the door the first time. However, as has also been shown here, once out the door and the nervousness under control it's really not a big deal, and can actually help one meet folks they otherwise might not.skirtingtoday wrote:Like you B&B, I wonder how many men are just house-only skirted and haven't gone out there wearing it.![]()
Two "z"s on this side of the pond as well.(And I think quizzical has two "z"s in the UK at least - not sure about across the pond)
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Well we can't go agreeing on spelling, so I hearby propose that henceforth the correct UK spelling of the word shall be qwizzical (even though that looks more American than English).crfriend wrote:Two "z"s on this side of the pond as well.(And I think quizzical has two "z"s in the UK at least - not sure about across the pond)
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Re: My first real outing
Ian,
Kwisikal?
Just enkwiring?
Steve.
This has gone off a bit, let me bring it back a little bit. A very old lady told me that I was "doing the right thing", she made my day.
Kwisikal?
Just enkwiring?
Steve.
This has gone off a bit, let me bring it back a little bit. A very old lady told me that I was "doing the right thing", she made my day.
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Like Will Rogers once said "Nothing you can't spell will ever work."
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