First Step

General discussion of skirt and kilt-based fashion for men, and stuff that goes with skirts and kilts.
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Nolyn
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First Step

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I had the chance to be in the department store yesterday. I was out and about with my wife. My wife wanted to go to a different store first and then we agreed to meet at the shoes department. This gave me some time to look inside the the racks as I was advised to do (by milfrog). I did not have time to try something on though (and I haven't talked with my wife about wearing a skirt yet, other than fashion inequality), but I was glad to (as a first step) discover where to look. Now I need to plan some time to go to the store on my own and start trying something on.
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Re: First Step

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Nolyn,

It may be an idea to broach the subject with your wife before you leap out of the changing room and say "Surprise!". Mention Skirt Cafe, maybe. My own wife was much relieved when I showed her the site banner, as she thought she would have to get her head around a guy who wanted to be a woman; the "this is NOT a transvestite or crossdresser forum." was a great comfort to her mind as we learned to drop the bull we had been fed for our whole lives.

The "skirts equals woman" idea is more sexist than it first seems. The fact that it's (mostly) OK for a woman to do historically male things and wear historically male clothing but not the other way around is sexist against men who may want to do these things or wear those clothes; it is also sexist against women, as it furthers the notion that women are enhanced by expressing maleness yet men are diminished by expressing femaleness. If women were truly viewed as men's equals, we could borrow "their" clothes as freely as they borrow "ours".

Anyway, I sort of fell off my point there. This is clearly a new thing for you, talk to your wife about it and involve her in the process. This should make the mental shift that she has to undergo rather easier, and reduce the magnitude of any shocks she may experience.


By the way, welcome to the cafe.


Paul.
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