Guilt

[Barleymower]

We often feel guilty for our love of skirts. "Men don't wear skirts" so there is a feeling that if you do that, wear a women's skirt, you are letting the side down, not being a proper man. This is compounded by the feminist movement constantly chastising menkind for something we had no decision in. We are men, sorry, we didn't mean it. Can I wear a skirt? No you can't, don't be ridiculous.

My point is this: No matter what people say it's not easy being a man. If we want to extend our wardrobes with a few skirts leave us be. We have enough on our plates.

Is it actually better to be a man or a women?
This is straight out of the web, by Vivian:

On average, women tend to live four years longer than men.

Studies indicate that women really do have a higher pain threshold than men. While women have been looked upon as fragile, weak and overly sensitive to any ache or pain, the opposite is actually true.

One of the best advantages of being a woman is the limitless wardrobe possibilities. There's no doubt that women can dress in a pantsuit, evening gown or even an old t-shirt and still look stunning. Men are pretty much limited to pants and shirts and need to put effort into making it look good.

Women are looked at as less of a risk when they are behind the wheel and this mean a low price for car insurance. Women are 50% less likely to drive while intoxicated and are overall more cautious drivers.

It is no secret that most places you go will have nicer women's restrooms over the men's room. A number of them come equipped with couches or chairs, smell better, and have a variety of hand soaps and fragrances. Well, however, you may complain not enough restrooms.

Women have higher HDL cholesterol levels which are associated with having a healthy heart. Throughout the “childbearing years” of a woman's life, these cholesterol levels increase and once they have gone through menopause, the levels continue to rise.

While there is no evidence that suggestion why women are able to recall things much better than men, it could be due to lower blood pressure and less risk of cardiovascular disease. Women have fewer memory issues throughout their life than men up until they are well into their old age.

This may be hard to believe but unlike their male counterparts, women do not tend to have excess fat in their midsection. While they may have bigger butts, hips and thighs, excess fat around the belly leads to an increase chance of heart disease and certain cancers.

Women take their education seriously and don't slack off when it comes to getting their degree. Most women who enroll in college right after high school graduate by the time they are 22. So, one of the advantages of being a woman is that they tend to get a head start on creating a career at a younger age.

When it comes to being in a serious accident, women tend to have a higher survival rate than men. This could be due to a number of reasons but you might be feeling pretty thankful for being a woman if you ever find yourself in a serious fender bender.

Men are limited with how many styles they can experiment when it comes to their hair. Women, on the other hand, have endless options when it comes to the color, cut, and style of their hair on a day-to-day basis.

Most men will begin to be at a higher risk of heart disease once they hit their 40's, women, on the other hand, have ten extra years before they are considered at risk. Heart disease is the number one killer of both men and women but women have some extra time to change their lifestyle to a healthier one before they are at risk of developing heart disease.

When a man cries, they are often ridiculed and laughed at, but when a woman cries, she is comforted and consulted. Men often have a tough guy image they have to fulfill while women are able to get their emotions out without being made fun of.

Women Are Less Likely to Be Labeled as a Pervert
Think of it this way, would you be more concerned about a woman sitting by herself in a playground full of kids or a man sitting in the same playground full of kids and neither seem to have children of their own there? Women are less likely to be viewed as a predator or pervert in many situations.

People Do More for Women. Having doors held open, items reached from the top shelf in the grocery store, morning coffee bought for them, people tend to do more good deeds towards women, which they never consider doing for men. You know one of the advantages of being a woman is the ability to smile and ask politely to get a lot of things at no cost.

Have fun, wear a skirt, don't listen to.anyone who would give a hard time for it.

[jamie001]

You forgot to mention the main problem of men. Men are pack animals and believe that they need to conform. I know a lot more women that march to their own drum than men. Men create their own very small box to live in and operate from and this directly causes all of the issues that you mentioned in your post.

Also it is not shameful to emulate a women as women are superior in many ways. Your post highlights this fact.

Dont be a pack animal and be proud of your feminine proclivities.

[Seb]

Ironicly I think most of the differences stem from how we raise our kids - boys are allowed to be wilder and rowdier while we tell girls of for the same things "is just the way boys are". Just like we tell our boys what to wear, "boys dont wear that" but girls seem to get away with almost anything theese days(even hotpants and crop tops when its well below freezing). Ironicly I see this still going on with parents that have both gender in close age kids, they will tell their daughter to play quietly while letting their boy run around screaming.

Most of the life expectancy difference I suspect comes down to boys and men taking more risk and caring less about themselves(both health and appearance). I see a lot more men involved in "accidents" getting hurt than women at work (I work in radiography).

In that respect, its also socially inherited guilt - and getting rid off it will be better for all.

[Mouse]

Is it actually better to be a man or a women?
This is straight out of the web, by Vivian:

This question has to be asked after defining the location. There are so many places/religions/cultures where rules are in place to limit a women's life options.

Have fun, wear a skirt, don't listen to.anyone who would give a hard time for it.

Quite right, no guilt.

[STEVIE]

BM,
"Guilt" is society's way of ensuring that its members conform.
If you aren't a good God, insert name of choice, you will suffer some dire consequences dependent on that deity's earthbound spokesperson.
More generally, you may be ostracised or mocked for any number of "misdemeanours", many of which will vary with time and culture.
Sure, women get it differently laid on them, but they are no better off than men, they also have different coping mechanisms.
Jamie and Seb are right in one respect, we have to break the pack instinct which is instilled from birth in many boys.
There isn't any answer to this society will be what it is regardless, the guilt trip may change but it will never end either.

Have fun, wear a skirt, don't listen to.anyone who would give a hard time for it.

You could just say, have fun and live your life, tomorrow may be too late.
Oh, and smile too, you never know what it could get you.
Steve

[Barleymower]

The post wasn't about bashing man. I wanted the men on this forum who are supported and still feel trapped by circumstance to break free and do their own thing.

Everything Jamie says about women can be said of men. Men and women are equals.

I can't argue with Mouse. It depends where you live. However, those places where women are not shown equality probably would not tolerate MIS either.

I agree with Seb, it's all down to how we treat our children. I've said it be before:
The Only Reason Women Feel They Have Ownership of Certain Clothes is Because They Were Dressed in Them Since Birth.
Allow children the freedom to wear what they want and encouge them to do it. It would end the anguish of many men.

Stevie has thought this through and makes astute observations. There's another method of control yet unmentioned:
Belittle the activity and exaggerate the consequences.

I should definitely smile more. That's something I often forget when I'm grumbling.

[Modoc]

Ironicly I think most of the differences stem from how we raise our kids - boys are allowed to be wilder and rowdier while we tell girls of for the same things "is just the way boys are". Just like we tell our boys what to wear, "boys dont wear that" but girls seem to get away with almost anything theese days(even hotpants and crop tops when its well below freezing). Ironicly I see this still going on with parents that have both gender in close age kids, they will tell their daughter to play quietly while letting their boy run around screaming.

Most of the life expectancy difference I suspect comes down to boys and men taking more risk and caring less about themselves(both health and appearance). I see a lot more men involved in "accidents" getting hurt than women at work (I work in radiography).

In that respect, its also socially inherited guilt - and getting rid off it will be better for all.

B I N G O