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Hi,

I just like to write a couple of lines since I am new here. For a very long time I have liked to wear skirts and dresses. I have mainly done it in the privacy of my home. Recently I thought "what the heck can happen" and started to wear skirts in public. Yesterday I wore them for the better part of the day and today I plan on wearing a skirt the whole day.

Maybee I will actually switch over to one of the dresses I have. A couple of day ago I moved to a new apartment and hanging up my clothes I could se that I now have more skirts and dresses than shirts and trousers. That tells me something

Have a nice day.

/Stefan

Welcome, Stefan. It's good to hear that you're getting up the courage to head out into the world in your new attire. From the experience of most of the folks here, people will either not notice, not say anything, or sometimes react positively. Bad experiences seem very rare, which is happy news.

Stefan, the biggest problem for a man starting to wear skirts/dresses/sarongs/floral or printed clothing is between your ears. My first time out in a skirt in public back in 2005 had me darting furtively around cars and telephone poles worrying that anyone that saw me would beat me to death. I wanted to go into a 7-11 store to buy a coke. I hid outside for 2 hours waiting for the store to be empty. FINALLY the clerk was in the back, the store was empty of customers and I shot thru the front door as if I was on a string. ZzzzziP to the single sodas cooler, grabbed one, Zooooomed to the cash register, dug around in my fanny pack for a dollar and as I handed it to the clerk heard a large gruff voice behind me say:::Hey Skip, NICE SKIRT! Is that a kilt? I was dumbstruck, umm, ahh, I,I,I, phloop, ahh hi Bobby...He took over the conversation, Yanno I've been thinking of buying one of those. My son has one. "He says they are becoming the rage at Key West High.." Where did you get yours? ....I'm standing there the whole time trying to think of something to say..I stammered out, "I bought it online at Ebay" Then he completely shut me up with his next statement. "They sell skirts for men on ebay?"....Ummm well, umm they sell skirts...(thinking, thinking, thinking ) for anyone that wants them!! Thanks Skip..Looks nice. Seeya!! and it was over...NOW, I never think about it anymore..

Skip.

Thanks for the encouraging worlds.
I guess I can see 2 big hurdles in the future.

Wearing skirts when meting friends / family
Wearing skirts for work

/Stefan

Welcome aboard Stefan!

Welcome to the Café Stefan.

stefan wrote:I guess I can see 2 big hurdles in the future.

Wearing skirts when meting friends / family
Wearing skirts for work

How you deal with these will be a decision you have to make for yourself but I will share my experiences and maybe they will help you in a small way.

Friends and family were just like the rest of the world in that the fear was far more of a problem than the reality. Let's face it, what we wear does not change us so if we have friends when in jeans they will still be friends when skirted. However they will almost certainly want to tease you about your attire for a while . I simply refused to rise to the bait, made a point of referring to my skirt (even when kilted) and pretty soon they got over it and, if anything, became too inclined to jump in and defend me if somebody else wanted to join in the mickey taking (at 1.95m (6'3") and 104Kg (230Lbs) I generally don't feel the need for others to stand up for me). Family were just the same, apart from my wife who was a little harder to convert. This is because she felt that how I dressed might reflect on her to some degree. I simply wore kilts or skirts at home and restricted myself to kilts when out with her as she seemed to find that less problematic. Over time she got so used to the skirts at home that she did not notice me wearing them when we went out together. Problem solved.

Work was a different situation. My colleagues were just like everyone else and so no problem, but my boss was concerned about how the company would be perceived by customers so he was not happy for me to wear a kilt. I compromised and stuck to the company dress code while he was paying me but dressed to suit myself (or the task in hand) when I was in the office in my own time and while travelling to locations such as our overseas offices. This was accepted, although I had a few curious looks from guys in the Spanish office and eventually one asked why I wore a skirt when arriving or leaving ("because it is more comfortable"). No further comment was ever made since it was obvious I was comfortable and did not see it as a big deal.

In summary, your two big hurdles may not be as insurmountable as you think, just like wearing skirts in public wasn't.

Hope that helps.

Have fun,


Ian.