Grok wrote: ↑Mon Feb 15, 2021 6:28 pmThe most elegant outfits aren't seen if the office setting. I am thinking of what women wear to those rare special occasions, such as evening gowns and wedding dresses. In the office setting, the expectation seems to be for formal but not overly beautiful.
I am not sure that the notion of elegance even exists any longer in the modern lexicon. It's all been swept aside in the cold hard face of neo-conservatism, brutalist efficiency, and casual grunge. Perhaps the last vestiges may be seen at weddings, and occasionally funerals, and every so often attempts at it at high-school proms [1]. Other than "events" such as those, there is never, ever, occasion to don anything other than common grunge -- denim, mainly, and t-shirts. Such is the world that has been made for us.
I'm flattered by Moon's remarks about me and my style, but what he misses is that I am vastly more at home in the engine-room making steam and keeping the engines running than I am at the Captain's Table. I am an anomaly. But I miss -- profoundly miss -- occasions where elegance might be encountered, because I never do now, and haven't in a long time indeed. I recall being invited with my late ex- to assorted galas where the "stops got pulled out" -- and I was fully allowed to be "me"; but that was a time long in the past.
Which might make it easier to make people fit in/conform?
A relaxation in the Rules might be a good starting point.
[1] I have more than a few hilarious notes from real life where I've been around teenage girls in their prom gowns and who have had no clue how to handle them. One thing I know is that they positively
hate it when a guy in a long skirt sweeps past without missing a beat and recedes into the bar. My late ex- commented on that phenomenon a number of times as the place we used to hang out at was also a local function facility. She'd dawdle behind a bit to take in the scene just to see how things unfolded -- and then tell stories.