Hallo I agree wholehartedly with you, Christopher, women clothe themselves rather uninhibited, unlike men, and women and men can also both be "handsom" but wheather or not they always have "sexy" in mind when they dress up is the question. You can look very good, and want attention of the other sex, but you can look the same just because you like to look that way. Sexy is also when you are pleasing to the eye of others. Also it can be that when your intentions are clear, then you can see wheather you are sexy or only look sexy. Something like, "look at me, aren't I just something, you like?" Still there?
Many men often think any woman that looks "healthy" is worth going after, and then.... I don't want to be sexy in a skirt if it means that men go after me.
That is where we have to think about what it means to US. When a woman puts on a short skirt, wears high heels and a revealing top, that doesn't mean anything but that she chose to put that on. ( We men can clothe the same
and also look good. But ofcourse we generally under normal circumstances don't want to attract attention to the same parts of the body that women may do when dressed that way, or at least where men often only think about).
She might be a good looker and enjoys the attention she gets. It's the attention that satisfies and is acchieved by dressing suitably to others satisfaction. She might just be doing shopping. Yet when she is like that in a bar, and looking at you in a special way, giving signals, that is sexy.
The problem with the word sexy is that it can be interpretated in different ways. For a man to look sexy, can mean that he is looking really good. It does not have any reference to being feminine, or wanting contact with the other sex.
So when we can define what we mean by sexy, it is easier to see if people conform to that definition. You can look "sexy" ( meaning attracting positive attention and appraisal ) in just nearly any clothing. It is your whole presentation that shows how you are and then gets the appreciation it deserves.
One thing comes to mind, don't think that being "sexy"makes you the deer instead of being the hunter. That is a misconception and is Macho thinking ( nothing wrong with that ) but does the hunter realise that often the deer stalks the hunter?
All the things mentioned about women are also for men.
If anything, these forums on men wearing skirts, and also pantys ( as another form of soks) puts to light the shortcummings of words that describe in what category people you belong to. And there should be new words thought out, and existing words redefined to fit the modern times we live in, especially with regards to men acting differently than expected of them in the past century. You have men and women, cross dressers and travestites. That is about it. So what do you call a man who wears a skirt? A Freestyler? People need to know what certain definitions mean now, in 2007, not what they thought they meant in 1900. When there is a more sensible meaning to some widely used words, people can relate to them and give what they see a place in the right context.
This is something that we in Holland are trying to address also.
I hope what I have said makes sense to others, I do go on sometimes.
But when it is important to you that is what you do.
Peter v
A man is the same man in a pair of pants or a skirt. It is only the way people look at him that makes the difference.
