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Every now and then somebody brings up pronouns or some variant of gender thingy. I usually laugh and say I don't bother with any of that. Sometimes I might tell them my adjectives are terrific and awesome.

The only times I believe have been purely an incidence of inadequate vision from a distance if they only catch a glimpse of my skirt--& nada above as there is a bald head; a full beard, with a gait that would never pass for a sashay and nothing but perhaps a purse to suggest otherwise--hence my answer is "No". I am solely a MIS. The feminine honorifics have never been repeated once the party saw more than their first flash of unbifurcated cloth.

IF you are seeking to "pass" as a women; or have indeed embarked on the trans train; or wear a dress, jewelry, wig, makeup, painted nails, have boobs, are small in stature, or walk with loose hips -- perhaps there is reasonable doubt and calling out Mame is then perhaps a good bet, or even a compliment -- but for most of us MIS, there are too many clues to be misgendered. And I doubt it is cast as a pick-up line or insult.

Many of us 'Quakers' align with Seb and cultures that don't discriminate, and we eschew honorifics. Given I don't find folks who are female, GLBQT+ or of a different hue or stature any less worthy, I see no reason to let it disturb me.

In my collective memory, no one's ever asked me if I were transgender, though, like JohnH, I've had people call me "Miss" or "Ma'am". I've always found that amusing.