Attracting the Better Half?

G.Shaw · Post by **G.Shaw** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 7:07 am

Folks;
A little background:
1) My wife "tolerates" my skirt wearing.
2) She is only vocal about what she "doesn't" like.
3) She doesn't get involved in my skirt purchases other than stating she "doesn't like that style" on me.

Here's the question: "How do I attract my wife to me based on my clothing choices if I can at all?"

I realize it is all dependent upon what the relationship is and not what it could or should be.
I also realize that none of you know her.

What I'm trying to ask is how do those of you who have reluctant wives attract her to you?

Greg

iain · Post by **iain** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 10:24 am

My girlfriend is a lot younger, so she is more open minded and has already started to find skirts for me which she likes. She's confident in herself so she doesn't rely on what other people might think.

She offered a cautionary, "I don't think I'd like it if you wore skirts every day," but I would agree.. I wouldn't like it either.

My girlfriend started seeing me in kilts and she liked it, so it worked out fine, over time. But if she hadn't liked it, and had refused to join in, I think we'd have split up because my personality is not going to change and I'm not going to try and cut bits out of me to fit in with what someone else wants.

That kind of identi-kit relationship just doesn't work for me. I would sooner have found another woman who accepted it; I was lucky this time but it was a long time coming.

There's plenty of guys out there who shun skirts and she could have easily found one of those instead.

Post by **Milfmog** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 5:13 pm

When I asked my wife whether she minds me wearing skirts, she replied "No, why should I?"

So I tried again and asked whether she thought I looked "Great, OK or utterly ridiculous in a skirt". She replied by throwing back a line I've often used on her; "I don't care what you wear, it's the filling in the clothes that matters to me."

Why do I tell you this? Because I've always used that line to say that I love my wife, not her looks or her clothes or anything else that will fade with time. Attraction of your wife is more likely to be effective if you focus on how you treat her, instead of being self centered on your mode of dress. Anyone who loves you will do so whatever you wear.

Have fun,

Ian.

Don · Post by **Don** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 6:32 pm

G.Shaw wrote: Here's the question: "How do I attract my wife to me based on my clothing choices if I can at all?"

I hear two questions here...

Your clothing choice is a pretty trivial matter, and the parameters of your marriage things far more significant. A really sloppy dress style can turn a woman off, but NO dress style can form the basis of a relationship!

You CAN figure out precisly what is DISattracting her to you, though! Is it a doubt about your own sexuality? Or, more likely, is she worried about the "fallout" of your (and by implication, her) joing the crusade?

What is it that attracts YOU to the men's skirt notion, Greg? Is it an attractive but off-beat look and style? Is it a desire to be an eccentric, an iconoclast? Is it a desire to challenge society's silly rules? Whatever it is that is attracting you, might it not attract her as well, once she fully understood the motivations? My own experience is that the vast majority of women "get it", provided that the skirtsman ISN'T her husband!

What I'm trying to ask is how do those of you who have reluctant wives attract her to you?

Treat her with ALL the respect and affection she deserves, and let her know that she IS NOT being threatened!

G.Shaw · Post by **G.Shaw** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 3:46 am

Don wrote: Your clothing choice is a pretty trivial matter, and the parameters of your marriage things far more significant. A really sloppy dress style can turn a woman off, but NO dress style can form the basis of a relationship!

True that clothing choice is trivial when compared with our marriage. She certainly is much more important to me than my skirt/kilt wearing or I would have left long ago.

You CAN figure out precisely what is DISattracting her to you, though! Is it a doubt about your own sexuality? Or, more likely, is she worried about the "fallout" of your (and by implication, her) joing the crusade?

I do not believe it to be confidence about my own sexuality, as I feel very confident in whom I am. She and I have actually discussed the fallout potential and it's affects on her life but more so on the 'children'. She feels much more narrow-minded folks will not take the time to understand what my skirt wearing represents. These people would restrict their children from being friends with mine. Which is hurtful and we refuse to allow that. We have also found that children parrot what their parents say thus we don't wish for our children to be hurt by any such string of comments.

What is it that attracts YOU to the men's skirt notion, Greg? Is it an attractive but off-beat look and style? Is it a desire to be an eccentric, an iconoclast? Is it a desire to challenge society's silly rules? Whatever it is that is attracting you, might it not attract her as well, once she fully understood the motivations? My own experience is that the vast majority of women "get it", provided that the skirtsman ISN'T her husband!

Ah that's a problem isn't it. The real truth is folks can handle diversity if it isn't close to home.

But really what are my motivations? Good question. I don't know that there are readily available boxed answers to that question. I personally find skirts simpler, and more comfortable. Yes there is a renegade part to that but it isn't that large, I think. These thoughts I have shared with my wife in open dialog yet the 'Maternal' instinct to protect the children takes first stage. Misplaced or not.

treat her with ALL the respect and affection she deserves, and let her know that she IS NOT being threatened!

I do this on a daily basis. I am positive she knows how much I need, love and respect her.

You've got me thinking a little differently than before.
Thanks Don!
Greg

Skirt Chaser · Post by **Skirt Chaser** » Tue Jan 16, 2007 11:28 pm

There are some unexpected benefits of knowing a skirting guy even apart from their attractively different attitudes. In the past week my guy came to my rescue when I had nothing nice enough to wear to a memorial service. A black skirt of his was perfect and it dressed up a top I had enough to make do. As I exclaimed how helpful it is to have this benefit and that everybody should have a skirted man of their own Quiet Man pointed out the skirt sharing worked so well because it was a skirt sold to fit women. If he had bought it from a skirt as menswear manufacturer my hips would never have fit into his skirt. For now then buying his skirts on the womens section of the store is a bonus for me.

Getting back to help for you, Greg, do you also ask for her opinions on the other kinds of clothes you wear? If what you wear was never a particular attractor for your wife it doesn't really matter if you are wearing skirts or other clothes. Alternately, if it was a certain look she liked on you nothing else is going to wow her in the same way so there is little use competing for that same reaction from a skirt. Enjoy all the other ways she finds you attractive instead.

Quiet Mouse