Does anyone assume you are transgender?

[timemeddler]

Every now and then somebody brings up pronouns or some variant of gender thingy. I usually laugh and say I don't bother with any of that. Sometimes I might tell them my adjectives are terrific and awesome.

[Faldaguy]

The only times I believe have been purely an incidence of inadequate vision from a distance if they only catch a glimpse of my skirt--& nada above as there is a bald head; a full beard, with a gait that would never pass for a sashay and nothing but perhaps a purse to suggest otherwise--hence my answer is "No". I am solely a MIS. The feminine honorifics have never been repeated once the party saw more than their first flash of unbifurcated cloth.

IF you are seeking to "pass" as a women; or have indeed embarked on the trans train; or wear a dress, jewelry, wig, makeup, painted nails, have boobs, are small in stature, or walk with loose hips -- perhaps there is reasonable doubt and calling out Mame is then perhaps a good bet, or even a compliment -- but for most of us MIS, there are too many clues to be misgendered. And I doubt it is cast as a pick-up line or insult.

Many of us 'Quakers' align with Seb and cultures that don't discriminate, and we eschew honorifics. Given I don't find folks who are female, GLBQT+ or of a different hue or stature any less worthy, I see no reason to let it disturb me.

[JeffB1959]

In my collective memory, no one's ever asked me if I were transgender, though, like JohnH, I've had people call me "Miss" or "Ma'am". I've always found that amusing.

[Ganesaunine]

I get mis-gendered all the time... drives my wife crazy. I don't think it ever bothered me, and I'm used to just responding to the speaker without bothering to correct their erroneous assessment of my biological gender. There was a guy in a local Walmart who came up to me and said "excuse me ma'am, do you work here", then stopped, looked really hard at me, and I swear his expression changed to that of a person who had discovered a glitch in the matrix and no longer trusted his senses. He wandered off looking very confused before I could answer him.

Funny thing is that I've not once (never ever) been misgendered while wearing a skirt! I'm always recognized as being a male as long as I have a skirt on. Go figure!

[STEVIE]

A random thought has occurred to me.
My soon to be ex-wife does.
Steve.

[crfriend]

A random thought has occurred to me.
My soon to be ex-wife does.

If anybody attempts to inform me that I'm trans-anything (other than transgressing societal norms) I will correct them, in strong language if need be -- because I'm not and regard it as a throw-back to the bad old days of the school-yard and the "faggot" slur.

Your soon-to-be-ex- viewing you so, and commenting that way on it is precisely that school-yard behaviour that we need to move beyond. It's called basic civility, and should be practised in public. It is seldom useful to be gratuitously uncivil. In simpler times, the answer to incivility was usually a quick punch in the nose -- and, as a result, we were usually polite. Now it's all P.C. BS and the basics have been tossed aside.