You guess correctly Carl. Even now, I am not absolutely sure if "Sara" was my invisible playmate or a name that I invented for the feminine side of my nature. At 5, I was Stephen, at 15, I was using Steve or Stevie but she was still around then. Name wise, I really came to Steve proper around 50 and Sara, well she is still in my head somewhere, but in no danger of staging a coup.crfriend wrote: ↑Tue Feb 14, 2023 8:48 pm If I might hazard a guess, "Sara" was a mental construct that would have "allowed" you to wear the "forbidden garments" and little else. Face it, at five, none of us were terribly aware of what the future might hold, and children are very, very quick to pick up on inequalities around them. We don't get jaded until much later and our immature minds try to work out "remedies" to the problem.
For what it's worth, I also figured out quite early in life that I was not "trans", girl clothes yes, actual girl no.
That was reached by about 11 or so but it was also in the absence of any real information either.
It was really around then that it started to cause mental stress which would have consequences for me in the future which could have been avoided
had I just been able to tell and get positive support.
Anyhow, here I am today, nearly 65 and just trying to decide on a skirt outfit for the office, how lucky am I?
Actually BM I will disagree, a lot has changed but not all for the good I'm afraid. From a complete lack of information we have come to an overload of it. As we already know, much of that is b******t too. The problem is that everyone "thinks" that we have an understanding of everything and that just is not true. Men in skirts, fluidity and transgenderism are aspects of a much wider problem.Barleymower wrote: ↑Tue Feb 14, 2023 8:56 pm There's a thread nearby from 2015 asking how will things have changed in 10 years. Well we are nearly there and not much has changed.
However, I honestly believe that there is still a 5 year old kid out there who will be too afraid to tell anyone that he would really like to wear a dress or a skirt. Ten years, maybe maybe things haven't changed all that much in sixty.
Not conforming as an adult is one thing, as a kid it is something else.
Steve.