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ambisextrous
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A little about me. I am soon to be a big 50. I am married to a woman and have been for 19 years, but I am bisexual - not transitioning, questioning, or anything else - just equally attracted to both sexes and have been since birth. I am also gender fluid. I am comfortable with having am male body but my brain is almost certainly female. I have ADHD and I think it is connected and I was born this way spending a lot of time playing with girls and boys, including playing dollies with my sister and stealing her clothes. I used to be a cross dresser in my 20's and that was seriously taboo back then in my community. The world has become more liberal and I know loads of gay married men. My wife has known about my sexuality for a while but not my gender. I decided to come out and be completely clear with her. Initially she was shocked but is now supportive. So she is taking me shopping and helping me create a gender neutral look. As part of that I have decided to step out in skirts, tee-shirt dresses, androgynous underwear and androgynous clothing. I am also planning to go on a night course to make my own clothes as I just can't really find a shop that sells what I want. If that goes well I might open an online shop on Etsy and see what happens.

By day I am a pin stripe suit wearing consultant but I tend to add my own touches to my dress through cufflinks, scarfs, cravats and flamboyant ties. I run my own successful consultancy business.

Some people who feel gender fluid get hot under the collar about pronouns. I could not give a stuff. I am find with people calling me him, he, his, himself or her, she, hers, herself or the gender neutral equivalents. I answer to Steven, Stephen or Steph. Also I could not give a stuff of what people think of me in the street, if they judge me or whatever. I have learned to ignore ignorant half-wits. I used to be in an infantry regiment and know how to look after myself if someone wants to try it on. I am completely cool shopping in the women's department and so wish more shops and changing rooms would go gender neutral. The shop assistants were very understanding 20 years ago and I am sure they will be the same when I go shopping with my wife or on my own.

I live in Leicester but it is looking very likely I am going to be living in Edinburgh for a while. Occasionally I go to Cork in Ireland for a client. London too.

I would love to meet more people like me.
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Welcome to SkirtCafe, ambisextrous. It's a blessing your wife is so accepting. Keep us informed.
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Welcome Steph. Tell people your name and they will know how to call you.
Doing a course on making clothes would great as most clothes, new or second hand, are based on current or past fashions. No a lot available for unconventional personal tastes. Many here make their own clothes and I envy their time and skill.
I am amazed how long it has taken you to wear skirts (confessing I took longer). Skirts are great and I am sure you will have a lot of fun with them.
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Most of us here picked up skirt wearing later in life. I did and wished I had found skirts a lot earlier. But life is what it is. MOH is tolerant to a degree but doesn'[t like me wearing a skirt out of the house, even though she knows I do and tends to ignore that issue. But I love skirts and am becoming used to dresses though I know that that would just be too far for MOH. Welcome to the cafe.
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Welcome to the Skirt Cafe Ambisextrous!

I expect you've seen that there is quite a variety of folks here.

All things considered, I'm surprised you don't wear skirts or dresses to work. At least with some of your clients. Good for you that you've developed the kind of relationship with your wife that you can be so open and acce4pting with one another.
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Welcome aboard, and thanks for sharing. I'm just a straight guy who likes the comfort of skirts and pushing the envelope a bit. Numerous gay, lesbian, and bi-friends; a few trans acquaintances including one in the family. Nice to meet someone who doesn't get hung up on the pronouns as that is hard for the rest of us to keep straight for whom! Enjoy the site, lots of variety of material, opinions, and even a few smiles along the way.
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Also a straight guy here. I love the comfort of really short mini skirts at hot weather conditions. I have something with comfort, so not so interested in female clothes if you may call it like that, but I don't like to sweat.
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A warm welcome to the café, Steven.

I’m a bit like you. Suited and booted during the day in my role as partner of a national accounting practice, alternatively dressed when it’s my time. My suits (mostly semi-bespoke) are colourful: aubergine, rust red, purple windowpane, and it’s obvious in cooler times that I’m wearing knee highs or opaque tights. I hate boring suits!

I’m in the county next to you - Warwickshire.

Stick around, contribute, tell us of your experiences. We’re a diverse bunch, but you’ll get different (and well-argued) perspectives on things here.

Ray
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A welcome here from the Emerald Isle, that little lump of damp rock just out of sight to the West....if you're a Round Earther. If you're a flat-Earthter you can easily see the whole place!

Having married a native lass from Surrey and spent nearly a quarter of a Century resident in Sasannachshire struggling with the language I leave that to my extended family nowadays scattered at various locations in Brexitistan.

My hemlines are 17" down to knee-length (24") and nothing tight.

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Love the descriptions!

And you live in RainyCraicistan..? ;-)
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Welcome to the club if i may say it that way.

I to am one that got into skirts later in life and enjoy them immensely-

From the US Midwest Central Illinois to be exaxt.

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Hello all !! Newbie to this community !!
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Welcome mj, meander over to the potted palm with a cerebral brew in hand and indulge yourself in the surreal atmosphere that is the skirtcafe. The more that you contribute the more that you will get out. Tell us a bit about yourself, where you are, how you came to be here, what you wear, any opposition and whatever else you feel free to tell us. We discuss a lot more than just skirts. Look at some past posts and feel free to add to the flow of dialogue.
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Hi Ray,

Rainy Craickistan indeed! As the very first major outdoor gathering since easing the strict lockdown, the Muslim feast of Eid is to be held at Croke Park, Dublin on July 31st next. It will be attended by government officials and leaders of other faiths as well, so there will be plenty of 'craic' without any alcohol fuel.

The place has a normal spectator capacity of 83,000 souls, but I fear the Eid organizers will have their ticket-admitted participants strictly limited by the Government. A figure of 500 has been suggested. Let's hope that day isn't rainy, as the place isn't covered.

Tom
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melvinjoe wrote:
Tue Jul 21, 2020 10:15 am
Hello all !! Newbie to this community !!
Hi there!

You should probably make your own introduction thread, just adding it in this one will probably mean it gets a bit lost. Tell us a bit about yourself, do you wear your skirts outside, why you wear them, how long and so on. You don't have to share anything you're not comfortable with of course.
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