JoePublic wrote:...rode an up escalator or walked up stairs wondering if the people behind me were trying to look up my skirt...
Unless you're wearing a very short skirt this shouldn't be a problem. You can verify this by noticing (discretely) how little extra women show in the same situation. With a skirt ending anywhere the knee, you'll be showing much less than if you were wearing running shorts.
JoePublic wrote:I've had people in a passing bus look through the car window and see my skirt rode up my legs a little (never felt the need for so much moisturizer for my legs if I don't have tights on) As for the escalator, I feel conscious of people looking up my skirt, and of low seats or sitting opposite someone on public transport without crossing my legs or keeping knees together. Feel a little uneasy uncrossing my legs when I need to get up in case of exposure, but I guess it's something women just deal with...
Yeah, when you're sitting across from someone it's definitely best to keep your knees together or cross your legs. I find crossing my legs to be more reliable, but you will
get a few more people looking at your legs and thinking you're sitting like a woman (which will confuse them). But don't let that get to you. Instead, take credit for expanding their universe. If you want even more attention, try dangling a shoe.
It's normal to tug at your hem a bit when sitting down or standing up. Particularly with short skirts, women do it all the time. Keep a discrete eye out and you'll see what I mean. If you're weren't watching, you probably wouldn't have noticed at all.
And to guard against total exposure meltdown, it's best to wear dark underwear.
JoePublic wrote:I find myself looking for a stall to pee and always sitting down when nature calls.
I usually stand at a urinal, even though it's a bit nervy when there's a line of guys waiting behind.
With short pencil skirts, though, pulling up the front enough pulls up the back too much, and then I use a stall. Same if I need to pull up my tights or whatever.
JoePublic wrote:Wondering how to coordinate my skirts and tops, and also tights
Avoid items normally intended for different occasions. Like, no formal tops with grunge skirts, or the reverse, or whatever.
Avoid mixing patterns, such as two different plaids or half polka dots and half plaid.
Don't let almost-matching colors touch, because that throws off the eye. For example, don't wear a skirt and top of almost
the same color.
Think of the shirt, skirt, legs, and shoes as four color areas, then alternate two or three colors among them. Today, for example, I'm wearing a black sweater, olive skirt, black tights, and olive shoes.
When you see a woman's outfit you like copy it, substituting a men's top the same fabric or color. Or start with a men's outfit and substitute a similar skirt.
But ultimately, there are no rules but to wear what's pleasing to the eye.
JoePublic wrote:(does this look okay?)... the constant addiction to eBay for something new and losing so much wardrobe space as a result
Your outfit looks fine to me. However, unless that's a dress shirt (which it doesn't seem to be) I'd wear the bottom out rather then tucked in, to hide the just below around the waist.
Courage, conviction, nerve, verve, dash, panache, guts, nuts, balls, gall, élan, stones, whatever. Get some and get skirted.