M vs. F behaviour at clubs, and other social places
M vs. F behaviour at clubs, and other social places
Something I was thinking about, why are girls so comfortable say going to a club and dancing with each other and holding hands, yet most guys wouldn’t want to be caught dead holding another guy’s hand or dancing with him?
Most women/girls also go to clubs just to have fun, and guys go there to try and get the women, maybe this Is just the natural procreation of the species but it seems strange. I wonder if as many guys would get hit on or approached if they had no interest or desire in hitting on anyone, and just went to have fun.
Most women/girls also go to clubs just to have fun, and guys go there to try and get the women, maybe this Is just the natural procreation of the species but it seems strange. I wonder if as many guys would get hit on or approached if they had no interest or desire in hitting on anyone, and just went to have fun.
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It's still amasing how being "gay" is the worst possible thing for a guy to be perceived as in any social situation. I don't see what's wrong with someone being attracted to the same sex/gender.
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Re: M vs. F behaviour at clubs, and other social places
This is quite common in a lot of New England venues, especially those with a younger crowd: Dance Flurry, Greenfield (Shining Star Grange), NEFFA, Dawn Dance, etc. You'll see men with men, or people swapping roles any time they like as they advance down (or up) the set. You'll also see threesomes (three people dancing as one couple) and other crazy things. Not recommended if you have a lot of beginners, as they're already confused enough as it is.SkirtDude wrote:Once in a while I really mess with people's heads by swapping gender roles with an opposite sex partner.
There are also "gender-free" Contra dances, where men dancing the woman's part (among other things) is explicitly encouraged.
I also find less resistance to men dancing with men at events where people really want to dance, and where everybody knows everybody else. I think it's more often about being afraid of being ridiculed as being gay than actual homophobia (though there's some of that, too.)
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I'm more amused than bothered if someone thinks I'm gay. I don't mind, as long as the guys will take "no" for an answer -- and the ladies aren't too offended when they find out I'm not [gay]Bri wrote:It's still amasing how being "gay" is the worst possible thing for a guy to be perceived as in any social situation. I don't see what's wrong with someone being attracted to the same sex/gender.

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Cool! I'll dance whatever way makes sense to me but if the male role is a leading one that will surely be best as I learn.SkirtDude wrote:Once in a while I really mess with people's heads by swapping gender roles with an opposite sex partner.