Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Discussion of fashion elements and looks that are traditionally considered somewhat "femme" but are presented in a masculine context. This is NOT about transvestism or crossdressing.

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby Ralph » Wed Jan 02, 2019 12:24 am

FranTastic444 wrote:I've posted before about a piece I read from a psychologist who reckoned that some guys dressed in the female clothing that they like to see women wear (definitely the case with me).


Eh, there are as many reasons as there are skirts! I suspect for most of us there are several interconnected deep psychological mysteries combining to create the urge. I tend to favor the ultra-feminine, modest styles of a bygone era (which makes it next to impossible for me to blend in as just a regular bloke in a regular skirt). Absolutely, I wish women still dressed like, for example, the women and girls in "Little House on the Prairie", but *why* specifically do I want them (and me) to dress like that? What itch does it scratch? Gave up trying to guess years ago, but possible contenders are it reminds me of a happier childhood, brings me closer to a long-gone relative who doted on me, it puts me in a more submissive frame of mind so there isn't so much pressure to "act like a man" all the time, maybe some deeply suppressed autogenyphelia (look it up if you're not familiar with the term), etc. Maybe one or all of those, maybe something unrelated.
Ralph!
Ralph
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 266
Joined: Wed Jun 26, 2013 9:07 pm

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby STEVIE » Wed Jan 02, 2019 12:56 am

Hi Sinned
Congratulations with regard to your Grand-Daughter,she sounds cool but how old is she?
On the subject of tops, my take would be similar with regard to skirts.
If it suits, wear it, clothes do not have gender.
On the subject of autogenyphelia and yes, I had to look it up. I had it as a stage of my development but it came later.
At infant/primary school, I suffered from skirt-envy. I just never got my head around not being allowed to wear one.
Steve.
STEVIE
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 1651
Joined: Fri Sep 17, 2010 11:01 pm
Location: North East Scotland.

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby weeladdie18 » Wed Jan 02, 2019 2:47 am

perhaps this is where the young male gets confused....Does he want to be a school girl in her skirt, ..or does he wish to be
a boy in a skirt ?.........or in the case of the young Scotsman ....does he wish to wear The Kilt instead of his shorts....?

However in some communities the Kilt is the exception to the rule..................
weeladdie18
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 1014
Joined: Thu Apr 05, 2018 3:17 pm

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby Sinned » Wed Jan 02, 2019 8:58 pm

Steve, she's 14 so still starting out on the road of discovery. She's the closest to myself and wife and stays with us a couple of nights a week. Still girlish and definitely not fully grown up yet but then not without some worldliness. I haven't got the top yet, but that's not the point, the fact that she would even consider it is the point. I get the impression that she would go out with me whilst I was wearing a skirt and she has certainly seen me many times in a skirt.

As for autogynephelia, no I haven't got it. I'm not sexually excited at the thought of myself as a female. I like the skirts, tops and so on but unlike some I wear them because they suit me, at least I think so, they're comfortable and so on, but excite me, no. Yes, I've always liked girls/women's clothes right from Primary school, but there is no sexual link for me.
I believe in offering every assistance short of actual help but then mainly just want to be left to be myself in all my difference and uniqueness.
User avatar
Sinned
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 3442
Joined: Sun Aug 19, 2012 5:28 pm
Location: York, England

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby STEVIE » Wed Jan 02, 2019 10:24 pm

Hi Sinned,
I never meant that there was any sexual connotation and I certainly would not discuss that here anyway. It was a part of a phase that I went through many years ago and equally I was never dysphoric or confused regarding my gender. It was simply that I became more acutely aware of the differences in clothing standards beteween male and female clothes in very early primary. I felt rebellious about it even then, I just couldn't give it voice.
To return to your Granddaughter, it sound as if she has wisdom beyond her years. Some adults could learn a lot from such as she.
I find your take on tops interesting because I tend to stick to the Guy's aisle for mine. I do cross over on occasion but I just never seem to find the "right" look in that respect.
My own goal for 2019 is to develop a "dress" look that is Guy Conducive. I utterly give up on masculine/feminine.
Steve.
STEVIE
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 1651
Joined: Fri Sep 17, 2010 11:01 pm
Location: North East Scotland.

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby Sinned » Thu Jan 03, 2019 3:22 pm

Steve, the tops I mainly have are camis with spaghetti straps or vests, both from the female aisle. I have one or two other tops which I purloined from some bags of clothes given to MOH for our grand-daughters to look through. I bags first choice. I am early on the journey of sporting such fare but interestingly MOH hasn't voiced any objections to the tops I wear. Which has surprised me.
I believe in offering every assistance short of actual help but then mainly just want to be left to be myself in all my difference and uniqueness.
User avatar
Sinned
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 3442
Joined: Sun Aug 19, 2012 5:28 pm
Location: York, England

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby STEVIE » Thu Jan 03, 2019 4:56 pm

Hi Sinned,
Our better halves certainly differ in that respect.
Mine has come to a grudging acceptance of the skirts but a strappy top, no chance.
I guess that half full is better than nothing which is where I was ten years ago.
Steve.
STEVIE
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 1651
Joined: Fri Sep 17, 2010 11:01 pm
Location: North East Scotland.

Re: Ladies' tops that are not feminine

Postby weeladdie18 » Sat Jan 05, 2019 8:59 am

I prefer tops which are a longer style and keep the male torso warm underneath his skirts....
The whole winter clothing warmth is achieved with multi clothing layers...........weeladdie
weeladdie18
Member Extraordinaire
 
Posts: 1014
Joined: Thu Apr 05, 2018 3:17 pm

Previous

Return to Freestyle Fashions

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Bing [Bot] and 2 guests