I've been married 36 years and if my wife knew she would leave. Fortunately I have a sales job that takes me places where I can wear skirts in public without issue of running into someone I know. Today was the first day I wore suntan pantyhose with a distressed denim mini-skirt, a nice t-shirt, a brown jean jacket and cap, and brown hiker boots. I stopped at many convenience stores, a large shopping mall, and a few bars on the way home. Again I had no negative comments or displays but some double-takes from gals and guys and a great time at the bars with the gals wondering if I shaved my legs for this, I did,. I don't think I'll ever be able to wear a skirt around someone I know for fear of being totally laughed at and my wife leaving me but this experience has left me feeling like it's about time for this to become mainstream! SKIRT ON!
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I'm glad you're having a good time, however I'd be wary of the secrecy. People have a way of finding out, even across vast distances. If I were you, I'd be scheming a way to out this to the wife asap. You'd hate for her to find out ten years from now, and discover this long held "secret". That might make it worse.
Maybe "feel her out" a little on the subject of men in skirts. There are numerous news articles pertaining to men wearing skirts, (see the News and Advocacy section). Pull an external article one day, bring it up to the wife and see how she feels about it. If she's receptive to the idea then go from there. If she shuts it down pretty fast, then again, decide from that point.
If she shoots it down, you might ask her "why?" Let the conversation evolve and see where it goes. It might not be as bad as you think! Members here have had mixed results. Some supportive, some not so much. Remember the "ace in the hole"... WOMEN CAN WEAR TROUSERS!
Now if your wife wears skirts and dresses exclusively, especially for religious reasons, then the ace described above is a dud and probably won't get you far... In that case, I'd say you're pretty well screwed.
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You dress up for Halloween? OK, are there any Renaissance Fairs or Celtic Festivals or Highland Games events within easy distance of home? We have plenty of good clean family fun, music, plays and the like at our local events. And...it's a perfect excuse to go in period costume....
Kilts? Check Stillwater Kilts. Thrifty Kilts $30, Economy Kilts $50, Standard Kilts $90 and Wool Kilts $150. I have 3 of the Standard kilts for church and formal events, and 3 of the Thrifty kilts for everyday wear.
If musically inclined, are there any pipe and drum groups around you might join?
Scottish events, Irish events, Welsh events...parades, festivals, dances...one might fabricate a number of excuses here and there....
And if you can persuade her to join in the fun..."Lady Goldpeak" or something.....
It was a new day today with a new ensemble. Stopped at buffet in a small town with 30 people watching me get up to load my plate. Some smiles, extra attention from the waitress and cashier! Half of the group were construction guys.
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I'd say that "leggings with a long top" is actually worse than an outright skirt. The look may not be as "in your face" as a skirt, but positively screams " '80s fashion victim!" Essentially what you're putting together with that "look" is a very short dress with entirely awkward tights that have a nasty break at the ankle -- an entirely ungraceful combination. I've got no idea why she tolerates it, unless she knows in her heart of hearts she's never wear such a rig.Rocketdawg wrote:A few years ago my wife caught me wearing a denim skirt I made out of my ripped out cutoffs. It wasn't good to say the least. I have gotten her to accept me wearing leggings with a long top in public and with friends showing up at our home. It took 3 years!
It's not. Full stop.This however will not sit well as she deems it GAY.
What we garb ourselves in actually has very little to do with what our sexuality is. It's likely more down to what our own personal sense of style is, what we think may look good one us, and what we like wearing. The sooner we can disabuse the detractors on the sexuality side of things the better. (Note that "GAY" tends to be used as a catchphrase for anything that an observer cannot immediately get his head around.)
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Who the hell is 'society' anyway?
Good one.Mike wrote:I was at a bar once, shorts and suntan pantyhose on, wife sitting next to me, and a guy asked me if I was gay. I said, "What, because of the pantyhose?" He affirmed, I said, "No, but I have a gay friend and he has a shirt exactly like yours." He got the point.
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Good reply. I've never been confronted but would like to borrow your response modified as follows: "No, but I used to have a lesbian co-worker who had a shirt like yours."Mike wrote:I was at a bar once, shorts and suntan pantyhose on, wife sitting next to me, and a guy asked me if I was gay. I said, "What, because of the pantyhose?" He affirmed, I said, "No, but I have a gay friend and he has a shirt exactly like yours." He got the point.
I worked for about 15 years with a male dressing lesbian complete with buzz haircut. It was an interesting office to work in. My last boss, who was a very straight Mormon and also wore his hair short (but not as short as my co-worker), would ask her what number clippers she was using to get the fade look she sported. He was only my boss the last three or so years I worked and lived without comment with my colored nails and occasional skirt wearing on Fridays.
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I try to make it less Femme. I take the idea of that yes women wear pants but they have their own twist to it to make it look more femme than what us guys wear. So I'm taking the skirt and make it less femme and pair it with some good looking shirts, jackets, leggings and boots. I've learned that it's about accessories that help tie it all together. I like to wear a black leather studded belt around the top of the skirt with a wallet chain hanging on one side. Again, not something the gals would wear. I tend to be a little avantgard with my looks. I've come up with some pretty good-looking outfits that rock in my opinion. And I don't look the least like I'm trying to cross-dress which I am not. I have visited a few bars dressed this way and after the initial shock of figuring out that I'm wearing a skirt I get lots of attention and conversation from both straight men and women. More than once I have gotten comments from straight guys saying they wish they had the balls to do it and they would wear a skirt in public too. Gals have commented that I wear the look well. I guess it's all a confidence-booster. It makes me want to be able to wear what I want, when I want, and where I want within the constraints of the moment. Great experiences!