I've been wearing Utilikilts and similar garments in public for a decade or so. Nowhere near full time, but when I can.
While I'm new to posing on the cafe, I spotted this site years ago, and would read a bit, walk away, come back again after a while. Interesting discussions, so I finally decided to register and see I can add a bit, at least if I have anything to add. I don't agree with everything I've read here, but this place seems remarkably civil and thoughtful, which is great, and quite rare. I plan to read a lot more than I post, and hopefully add a bit down the road.
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Welcome Dust to the cafe. We are a friendly group of folks that like to wear skirts and or kilts. And even a few of us wear dresses. In a group as large as ours there will be things we don't agree with but we try not to be mean about it. We have conversations that are quite pleasant to discuss them.
So tell us more about yourself and do join in your input is always welcome.
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If you put more than one person in a room it's almost a certainty that they will not agree on everything. 'Tis the way of the world. How they handle disagreements is key. As one of the moderation team I can quite proudly say that this is one of the more civilised places on the 'Net. We disagree on lots of things, sometimes vehemently -- where the genius comes in is that we're mature enough that we can "agree to disagree" and still remain civil to one another.Dust wrote:I don't agree with everything I've read here, but this place seems remarkably civil and thoughtful, which is great, and quite rare.
Ideas are open to debate, and sometimes vigorous debate. What's not open game is personal invective, and the place is astonishingly good at observing that dictum. We have a world-wide viewpoint with voices scattered so far and wide that the sun never sets on us. So there's a lot to read and, perhaps, learn from. Sometimes we wander from the topic at hand, but conversations in the physical world do that too; it's healthy.
Read, certainly, but do not hesitate to make yourself heard. The place is peopled with surprisingly open minds, but, as in any wide setting, expect some level of disagreement. It's a reflection of real life.I plan to read a lot more than I post, and hopefully add a bit down the road.
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I think you will find that we have a pretty diverse population.
WE have our agreements and disagreements For the most part we have been friendly and extremely helpful as many of us are exploring a completely unique area.
Please post your Ideas and comments.
What part of the world are you from.
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Not sure what sets us apart from the rest of the internet population. It's ironic that the theme of this site is "men in skirts" including freestylers. Many out in the real world would consider us somewhat "freaks of society", "sissies" and so forth... and yet the members on this site are some of the most gentleman like men I've ever read....
Though the site has thousands of members, I'd say only 15-20 are active at any given time. 80% of that 15-20 have been active for several years and probably aren't going anywhere. I won't mention names because I don't want to accidentally leave anyone out... but yes, this is a great little online space, which is why I spend so much time here.
"Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation." - Benjamin Franklin
It is interesting to see how styles of skirting vary from location to location.....I am pretty much on my own , following my own
" Man in a Skirt " styles in S. W. U.K. .....I have not personally seen another " Man in a Skirt " for over a year.
In one of the recent popular threads we described how we individually became interested in our skirting or Kilting activities.
Some of the younger members are more active than many of us were forty years ago when we were young.....best of luck...weeladdie
I'm from, and still in, the good old US of A. So I spell things without the extra letters, and use "pants" to mean "trousers". I do appreciate and understand a fair number of British-isms, though. Like saying something is "pants" to mean it's bad. I still get a chuckle out of that...
As far as disagreements, I was told once that anytime you have two people in a room together, you've got politics.
I read the rules on what's allowed here for discussion, and I appreciate the limits. They are probably part of what keeps the place civil. I've been on other (completely unrelated) forums and seen flame wars. Not pretty. One forum just let them go on to over a hundred pages! Another had moderators stomp them out, but they would just resurface in another thread. I'm not sure what makes this place different, but I don't want to be the one to break it. Civil disagreements and discussion seems to be in woefully short supply these days...
I think everyone here sees himself as a socital rule-breaker, and realises that his desired alternative (fashion) standards, are not necessarily everyone elses and it is hence quite accepting of other people choices no matter how "extreme" or "conservative" they may appear to his eyes. We all want and advocate freedom of expression and we do it be exercising amongst ourslef first.
The optimistic me finds this a great example of how all conflicts in society should be handled, the more pessimistic me thinks that if it so rare to find a group of people that can have civil conversation about something so irrelevant as how colths should wrapped around ones body we are pretty muched doomed. I am still trying to be optimistic though.
Exactly.unfork wrote:...We all want and advocate freedom of expression and we do it be exercising amongst ourslef first...