Are the rules different for a married man to those used by a single man ?
It seems so unfortunately.
Wife and I were on the beach this morning and a couple in their late 40's walking faster passed us. He was in board shorts down almost to his knees. her bikini bottom was basically floss between her butt cheeks. I said to SO, "There's that double standard again, if he was wearing briefs like that, he would be labelled a pervert of exhibitionist - or worse. I know why women can get away with that and men can't; it's because anybody criticising her would be told in no uncertain terms to keep their opinions to themselves 'cos
'nobody tells me what to wear'".
My wife sighed, shook her head and said, "Men don't understand that women are wired differently".
It irritates me when she tells me stuff like that. I have no reply. Women have a miraculous way of being able to do that!
So yes, very much the rules for single men are different to those for married men. You only have yourself to answer to. When you do meet an SO, make damn sure you tell her everything about you, because if you hold it back and reveal later, it may be too late. You might get lucky and find one who loves it when you tell her, yet again, you might not.
It's ok for them to tell YOU stuff later though...
Interesting our marriage vows did not include "obey" from "Love, honour and obey". She says she wants me to be happy, she bought me a little motivational picture for me desk, it reads; be wild at heart, free in spirit, do the things you love" - except don't wear a skirt!
Please don't misunderstand me, I love my wife dearly. I'm just disappointed about her change of heart around my wearing a skirt, after all, she encouraged me to buy my first one.