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Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Tue Jul 04, 2017 3:47 am
by Daryl
Caultron wrote:
Daryl wrote:
Caultron wrote:All generalities are false.
That's quite a generality.
This statement is false.

Death to all extremists!

Two negatives make a positive, but two positives never make a negative. Yeah, right.

Women.
One must never assert a categorical imperative.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Tue Jul 04, 2017 9:30 am
by hlz
Daryl wrote:
hlz wrote:Hi everyone,
...I have become interested in wearing skirts as a male
So, you've been doing it as a female up until now? :shock: :wink:
Haha good point ;)

An interesting thing which happened a few months ago, I saw A gay friend of mine, who was all good with it but his boyfriend thought it was "unnatural" and "didn't want to see it". So in this case it wasn't about gay stereotypes at all just ignorance I suppose. Ironically my gay friend has a dress that he wore to some drag queen thing as a joke, but that's ok according to his bf.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Tue Jul 04, 2017 8:11 pm
by Caultron
hlz wrote:...An interesting thing which happened a few months ago, I saw A gay friend of mine, who was all good with it but his boyfriend thought it was "unnatural" and "didn't want to see it". So in this case it wasn't about gay stereotypes at all just ignorance I suppose. Ironically my gay friend has a dress that he wore to some drag queen thing as a joke, but that's ok according to his bf.
Most people much prefer single-variant (or better yet binary) categorizations. But in fact, sexual orientation, gender orientation, fashion orientation, and a host of other variables are independent and continuous.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2017 5:22 am
by Daryl
Caultron wrote:
hlz wrote:...An interesting thing which happened a few months ago, I saw A gay friend of mine, who was all good with it but his boyfriend thought it was "unnatural" and "didn't want to see it". So in this case it wasn't about gay stereotypes at all just ignorance I suppose. Ironically my gay friend has a dress that he wore to some drag queen thing as a joke, but that's ok according to his bf.
Most people much prefer single-variant (or better yet binary) categorizations. But in fact, sexual orientation, gender orientation, fashion orientation, and a host of other variables are independent and continuous.
YES. Binary categorisations make polar opposites of things that are not, and then people want to enforce norms based on them as if they are ideals. It's just nuts. All tendencies should be visualised as bell curves not ideals. As curves the overlaps between various groups can be readily seen.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2017 6:22 am
by Daryl
hlz wrote:
Daryl wrote:
hlz wrote:Hi everyone,
...I have become interested in wearing skirts as a male
So, you've been doing it as a female up until now? :shock: :wink:
Haha good point ;)

An interesting thing which happened a few months ago, I saw A gay friend of mine, who was all good with it but his boyfriend thought it was "unnatural" and "didn't want to see it". So in this case it wasn't about gay stereotypes at all just ignorance I suppose. Ironically my gay friend has a dress that he wore to some drag queen thing as a joke, but that's ok according to his bf.
Ignorance or perhaps there's something to the stereotype of the gay man who is an afficionado about fashion and what is or is not "right" to wear. Perhaps he is inspired to be one of them. You know, like some people take up being wine afficionados then claim they can tell good wine from bad.

Funny story, one half of a gay couple I know has actually met Jean Paul Gaultier and worked closely enough with him for a while to be gifted one of his men's skirts designs, which he subsequently wore to some functions with Mssr. Gaultier. The second half of the same couple actually considered wearing a kilt (he has a family tartan) as clothes not costume but was pretty sure the first half would not approve of it.

I was terribly impressed at being just one step away from Mssr. Gaultier, of course, after his work on The Fifth Element.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2017 9:02 am
by WesleyN
If I wear a skirt, people sometimes think that I'm equally gay. Maybe that's because of my soft radiance too.

Then I think: women often say that gay men are beautiful men. And even more prejudices are in favor of gays. They have a cared look. They are sympathetic. And they are caring and friendly. So it's actually a compliment for straight men. Do you think so?! ;)

My motto just be who you are. Then you are the best type of yourself.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Fri Jul 07, 2017 10:22 pm
by Daryl
WesleyN wrote:If I wear a skirt, people sometimes think that I'm equally gay. Maybe that's because of my soft radiance too.

Then I think: women often say that gay men are beautiful men. And even more prejudices are in favor of gays. They have a cared look. They are sympathetic. And they are caring and friendly. So it's actually a compliment for straight men. Do you think so?! ;)
Yes, but I'd take being mislabelled as female as a compliment too, if it was innocently intended.

However, being called "gay" is frequently intended as an insult. That's aggression and I don't pretend to be oblivious to that.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2017 6:57 am
by WesleyN
Often of it isn't agressively. Only just a question. And I don't mind of they think I'm gay.

{If I write it from my mobile sometimes the words are changed to a Dutch word. Than is mind changed to kind and that means: child}

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2017 9:38 am
by pelmut
Daryl wrote:
WesleyN wrote:If I wear a skirt, people sometimes think that I'm equally gay. Maybe that's because of my soft radiance too.

Then I think: women often say that gay men are beautiful men. And even more prejudices are in favor of gays. They have a cared look. They are sympathetic. And they are caring and friendly. So it's actually a compliment for straight men. Do you think so?! ;)
Yes, but I'd take being mislabelled as female as a compliment too, if it was innocently intended.

However, being called "gay" is frequently intended as an insult. That's aggression and I don't pretend to be oblivious to that.
It depends on whether they are honestly enquiring in all innocence or whether they are telling you you are gay.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2017 3:51 am
by Daryl
pelmut wrote:
Daryl wrote:
WesleyN wrote:If I wear a skirt, people sometimes think that I'm equally gay. Maybe that's because of my soft radiance too.

Then I think: women often say that gay men are beautiful men. And even more prejudices are in favor of gays. They have a cared look. They are sympathetic. And they are caring and friendly. So it's actually a compliment for straight men. Do you think so?! ;)
Yes, but I'd take being mislabelled as female as a compliment too, if it was innocently intended.
However, being called "gay" is frequently intended as an insult. That's aggression and I don't pretend to be oblivious to that.
It depends on whether they are honestly enquiring in all innocence or whether they are telling you you are gay.
Or declaring you to be gay as a judgement not just a guess.

Re: Hi from New Zealand

Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2017 3:53 am
by Daryl
WesleyN wrote:Often of it isn't agressively. Only just a question. And I don't mind of they think I'm gay.
I don't mind either. In fact, if it gets my dinner paid for, I'll let them think it all night. :mrgreen: