It took a long time to come up with the what to say, when and how but I finally told her. The "how" ended up being last minute. I told her this last weekend when it was just the two of us on a short get away. I had two things I wanted to give her--a gift and about the skirt. I told her that both of them would shock her and one of the them did. The gift never got opened. We were staying at a motel. I told her that they were out in the truck so I went out and put the skirt on, grabbed the gift and went back in. Oh was she surprised alright. It went down hill from there. A rather heated argument erupted that lasted for what seemed like hours. She asked all kinds of questions: Where are the skirts kept? How many skirts do I have? Have you been outside in public? Are you OK being out in public? Has anyone seen you? etc.... She says that I can't leave the house with it on and that our kids can't be told. I have been on vacation this last week and went on a couple of walks after dark. When a car comes by I made my self invisible. When I told her that she was certain that someone saw me on the road, after dark, while invisible. She figured out why I was taking walks by my self. So I asked her to take one just last night and I joked I wouldn't put my skirt on. She laughed.dpniNE, I hope you come back on here and tell us how it is going with your wife. My opinion on it, is you should raise the subject directly. It doesn't sit well with me to be indirect like this. The idea that she found your stash and just "disappeared" it, that doesn't sound like a healthy way for things to work. Whether you should be up front, and potentially cause a break up? You know her better than we, but it sounds like you are risking a blow up any way. Better to be up front about it I think. At least that way you can hold your head up high and say you weren't trying to deceive her or keep something hidden. If you are not going that route, I suggest you stop with the outside expeditions. At some point that will come back to her.
She was hurt by the fact the I had been wearing them for so long. She has known since the 1990s. She thought that I was going through a phase and that I would get over it. I told her my reasons for wearing them (for comfort) but I know that didn't matter too much to her. She asked what I was expecting from her. I told her some acceptance but I knew I wasn't going to get that.
I'm not sure where it's going to to go from here. I have to tip toe around the kids--knowing their schedules helps. I can't "go outside" because someone might see me. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.