crfriend wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:31 am
Dust wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:02 amI love your optimism, but I'm trying to be realistic.
I suspect we have more in common here than might be at first construed. I've been a hard-nosed realist for much of my life, and all that's managed to do has been to leave me a disillusioned wishful thinker hoping for a more verdant and softer world than we are living in now. I suspect that if some force isn't injected into the fight that softness and whimsy shall be things of a bygone era. That's not a world I want to live in,
Yeah, I figured we were talking past each other, thus the clarification. I think we are fairly close as well, though you have much more experience.
In my mind, we need both the folks aggressively pushing boundaries and breaking barriers, and folks showing that change is possible as just another option in the male wardrobe, that doesn't require changing everything else. I was mostly talking about the later, but your efforts to the former are much appreciated. My efforts have been focused on the latter.
Between my personality, my state in life, my clothing taste and goals, and the circles I tend to run in, I don't do flamboyant much. But even wearing what I do, skirt wise, has done wonders for my self confidence. Bolder looks are definitely in my future...
crfriend wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:31 am
Also, I believe the word you were looking for was "feminine," not "effeminate."
The verbiage was very deliberately chosen.
It seemed out of character for you to misspeak like that, but the context made me think you had the wrong word. A lot of people carelessly swap the two. Hopefully someone reading along learned something. I'm pondering your words more closely now...
BTW what did you go for, shoe wise? I miss seeing your pics.