Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby pelmut » Mon Jul 01, 2019 10:26 pm

skirtyscot wrote:...Drugging a boy up with oestrogen won't make him grow adult female body parts like girls do when they reach puberty.

I dislike the implications of your expression "drugging up", but carefully controlled doses of œstrogen do cause growth of existing breast tissue and other more-subtle physical and mental changes.  A lot of this is discussed in the 'members-only' sections of transgender groups, but very little of it becomes public knowledge.

skirtyscot wrote:
And how can your natural puberty be wrong?
When you are transgender.

That doesn't answer the question. It doesn't make puberty wrong, it's just that the person doesn't like it.

It makes it wrong for that person - and as that person is the person most affected by it, their opinion is the one which counts most in that particular case.

skirtyscot wrote:
dillon wrote:Natural puberty may not be wrong, per chromosomal body traits, but may be wrong for the individual's sense of self, in particular gender. It has been well demonstrated that it is far simpler to reconcile the body to the mind than vice versa. That fact is the origin of the cliche regarding the "woman trapped in a man's body." It is not far-fetched.


...It strikes me that it would be better for the patient to be taught to accept his or her body than spend a life on medication.

That has been tried and it doesn't work - it is recognised as a form of mental abuse which causes great harm and is now illegal in most civilised countries.  Why should a transgender person have to be brainwashed to satisfy the false beliefs of other people?
There is no such thing as a normal person, only someone you don't know very well yet.
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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby Skaterswaltz » Mon Jul 15, 2019 11:55 am

I’m reading the last line as favorable. Best to take it that way. Father of three and still fancy women. Maybe it does tap into a feminine side that I must have accepted down the line.
After all it is a positive shout for the gang and forum.
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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby BobM » Wed Jul 17, 2019 12:33 am

Why should a transgender person have to be brainwashed to satisfy the false beliefs of other people?


We are in Backward Land.

de·lu·sion·al
/dəˈlo͞oZH(ə)nəl/

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idiosyncratic beliefs or impressions that are contradicted by reality or rational argument, typically as a symptom of mental disorder"
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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby Ray » Wed Jul 17, 2019 6:11 am

You’re not talking about religion again, are you?
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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby skirtyscot » Wed Jul 17, 2019 6:58 am

He could well be. The two are quite similar, in that they have at heart an unfalsifiable proposition, from which everything else flows. Also large numbers of their adherents seem to get very annoyed when people ask perfectly reasonable questions about their beliefs.
Keep on skirting,

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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby pelmut » Wed Jul 17, 2019 12:14 pm

Religion has done a lot of good in this world - but a lot of evil has been done in the name of religion.
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Re: Nice article that mentions Skirtcafe favorably

Postby Yonkas » Wed Jul 17, 2019 6:08 pm

BobM wrote:
Why should a transgender person have to be brainwashed to satisfy the false beliefs of other people?


We are in Backward Land.

de·lu·sion·al
/dəˈlo͞oZH(ə)nəl/

"Characterized by or holding
idiosyncratic beliefs or impressions that are contradicted by reality or rational argument, typically as a symptom of mental disorder"

Idiosyncratic? Perhaps.
Contradicted by reality, or rational argument? No.

You are confusing biology with identity.

In other words, you are failing to distinguish between thoughts about one's physical body, and thoughts about one's own mind.

To wit, a transgender person has an internal mental model of themselves that does not match their physical sex traits.

Inside, they view themselves as a different sex. An internal view is subjective, like an emotion, or a preference, or desire. But, I understand how that might be hard to swallow, because we tend to think of sex in terms of physical characteristics, so let me offer the following analogy, to help you understand.

We often hear fat people lamenting, "Inside, I am thin," or some variation thereof. Now, before you protest, hear me out.

Internally, such a fat person view does themselves as thin. That is to say that when they imagine themselves interacting with the physical world, or when they think of themselves, their mental proxy for themselves is that of a thin person,. This view of themselves isn't just restricted to physical characteristics, but to all of the ways that society treats a thin person (they are often seen as more attractive, fashion often caters to them, they are likelier to be offered higher paying jobs, and so on). In other words, they would like to be treated as thin (in addition to actually being thin), in an ideal world. And, in fact, when they look in the mirror, they often experience dissonance--an unease at the mismatch between what they see, and how they view themselves. I should know--I am one of these people, and I suspect other members of this forum are, as well.

Now, such people certainly don't believe they are thin on the outside. That would be delusional.

Rather, they acknowledge the reality of two things:
1) they view themselves as thin.
2) they aren't thin.

But, in most cases, they want the following to be true instead:
1) they view themselves as thin.
2) they really are thin.

In short, they know that their internal image does not match their external image. On the contrary, to ignore your own state of mind is to be delusional.

A person who is depressed, but believes they are happy is delusional.
A person who really wants to be a professional artist, but believes they want to be a medical doctor, instead, is delusional.
A person who doesn't understand General Relativity, but believes that they understand gravity, is delusional.
A person who is tone deaf, but believes they are an incredible musician is delusional.

That's because, in each case, their mental state/function/ability directly contradicts what they believe.

Similarly, transgender people acknowledge the following:
1) they view themselves as a certain sex, X.
2) the sexual characteristics of their body do not match the sexual characteristics of X.

And, similar to the fat person,
they would rather have the following be true, instead:
1) they view themselves as a certain sex, X.
2) the sexual characteristics of their body match the sexual characteristics of X.

And, just as a fat person might strive to physically become as close as thin to possible (and remember, most fat people have a incredibly difficult time achieving this goal, and not for lack of trying), a transgender person would strive to physically become as close to their internal sex as possible. In both cases, it simply might not be physically possible to completely achieve this goal.

Now, I have one more thing to say about internal mental states, and that is that denial of your own mental state, without exception, harmful to your mental health. For example, years of suppressing anger can lead to reduced ability to keep, or form intimate relationships.

I hope that I don't need to provide evidence that denying such things can lead to profound states of depression, shame, anxiety, isolation, and so on.

Anyway, I am sure I have said enough about this, now.
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