Flower Boy at Wedding
Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 7:00 pm
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You'd like a few thoughts? Well here are a few.Stu wrote:I don't know what to make of this. Any thoughts?
Absolutely I'll extend the courtesy to the children, and I'm not about to go along with those who try to stuff folks into little tiny boxes.dillon wrote:[... W]ill you extend that courtesy to children? Or will you abet those who make children ashamed of their gender identity differences?
I'd like to think that we can make the world a better place by making it more inclusive not just for children, but also for the adults. The narrow-minded, shrinking, and too-fluid definitions of "normality" need to go -- for everybody. But that's going to require a massive re-work of the modern psyche which has been under a constant barrage pushing it in the other direction for decades.I think folks of our age suffered enough for our differences, in whatever form we felt, that we should be happily willing to stand against that malevolence toward our children and grandchildren now.
He looks happy, more so than if he was prevented from doing what he wanted.Stu wrote:I don't know what to make of this. Any thoughts?
denimini wrote:He looks happy, more so than if he was prevented from doing what he wanted.Stu wrote:I don't know what to make of this. Any thoughts?
I am not sure why gender should come into it. The facts so far are that he wanted to wear a pretty pink dress to a wedding.
I am in total agreement with Denimini and SkirtyScot. No need to overthink this one. Reading the original article should give people all the information they need. It's a lovely story with lovely photos.skirtyscot wrote:denimini wrote:He looks happy, more so than if he was prevented from doing what he wanted.Stu wrote:I don't know what to make of this. Any thoughts?
I am not sure why gender should come into it. The facts so far are that he wanted to wear a pretty pink dress to a wedding.
I'm with denimini on this.
I think he fits in perfectly with the other children. He'd already had to wear a suit to a wedding, and he hated it. This time he got his way and he looked very cute, relaxed and happy.
No doubt the mother knew that the adult guests would be fine with her son's outfit. And she trusted them to stop their own children from giving him a hard time for it. (Or maybe even to have tought them that this sort of thing is fine so they would accept his choice without any problems.)
No big long essay from me, that's far too much thinking for a Sunday afternoon!
I agree the stake's are too high.crfriend wrote:You'd like a few thoughts? Well here are a few.Stu wrote:I don't know what to make of this. Any thoughts?
I'm sick of what's happened to masculinity in the past few decades -- bloody sick of it. Somehow, somewhere along the way, I have been reclassified as trans-* when in point of fact I'm still largely the same as I was 50 years ago and was regarded as perfectly normal. So the lad wants to carry flowers for the bride at a wedding. When did this become a big deal worth spilling ink over?
When I was young I was slightly different from most male children, but still well within male boundaries. I was considered slightly "sensitive" and always wanted long hair. Yet I always had girls for childhood friends and girlfriends in adolescence and women lovers as an adult. But something happened. I no longer have my identity, and know not what to even call myself today. Today, even though I have not materially changed, I am looked at askance -- and sometimes with suspicion.
Did I consent to this change? No. Was I participant in it? No. Was I even aware that it was happening? Mostly no as I had more important matters to contemplate at the time.
Yet, a short half-century on, I now have no independent identity; what's assigned to me is entirely false and based on flawed thinking. And, put very bluntly I'm more than a bit torqued off about the matter.
What happened? It all has to do with what I'll crassly call the "butching up" of the culture. This has been going on for decades now, and has resulted in women becoming more and more male, with men being forced into the deep recess of the parody-role of machismo. Men are the collateral damage in this -- especially the ones who are by nature sensitive, caring, and empathetic. These men -- who heretofore were entirely "normal" are now highly "abnormal" and, therefore, by definition deeply into the trans-* category. Even the very masculine types from a few decades ago are now subject to the classification as they're not "masculine enough" (read, "macho") in the modern system. If it's bad for guys like me, I can't even imagine how bad it is for the previously highly-masculine to find themselves on the trans-* spectrum.
What to do about it? Repudiate it. Utterly. Refuse to cooperate with it. Retake our proper place in society. Speak out in opposition of what's happened. But, most importantly, be ourselves. Be the best men we can be. Do the best we can for our families, for ourselves, for our children, and for the future. We may be at a turning point here. Let's not blow this. The stakes are too high.