Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

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Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby Rolando » Fri Dec 28, 2018 5:15 pm

I'm not sure where this belongs, so I'll just leave it here.......

25 years ago Bruce Springsteen sang “57 Channels (and nothin' on) [tv] today, it's probably 157 channels and STILL nothin' on. Last night there was nothin' on, so I thought I'd 'catchup' on a programme I'd missed on Channel 4 (UK) last week.

Logging into All4 I was met with the usual suggestions/recommendations of programmes that I may like. Spookily, the first one had a picture of a man wearing a dress!! - how weird is that? The programme being recommended was 'First Dates' a reality type dating show that originated here in the UK about 5 years ago. The show format has since been adapted in the USA, Canada, Netherlands, Germany, Sweden, Australia, NZ and more, so some of you may be familiar with it. If not, have a look at their wiki page to see how the show works.

In this show, Paul – a helicopter pilot, who, since divorce hasn't dated very much and this is his first time in a dress on a date. He's been matched up with, confusingly, Sydney (female) – a saucy sexual health researcher, who likes men who are a bit 'different'.

I won't review the show, as I'm probably a bit biased in that IMO 1: most men shouldn't wear a dress – all the lumps and bumps are in the wrong places, and it can look a bit of a car crash – sorry, all you dress wearers :hide: . I myself do have a couple of dresses, but wear them as skirts, covering the top part (and all my lumps and bumps) with a polo shirt or sweater. 2: High heels, I don't fully understand why women wear them let alone men! :hide: . Poor Paul, walked like he'd ridden a horse all the way to central London – not a good look, so guys be aware.

For those that want to watch it's available in the UK (don't know if it can be viewed outside UK) until January 16th. Paul & Sydney are the first couple to appear, they then reappear at 9min:30sec, 12:00, 14:33 and 21:05 to 23:20
Link to show……….[url=https://flic.kr/p/2dQkMgg]Image
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby partlyscot » Fri Dec 28, 2018 7:39 pm

Agree on the awkwardness of dresses on guys, but there are some that can work, but often need tailoring because of proportions. Also have mixed feelings on heels, can look fabulous on ladies, but the danger of them! On the other hand, knew one lovely girl that would wear them all the time, and would think nothing of grabbing a 40 pound box in the warehouse and walking it out to the showroom. I'd never reach that level of comfort in them. I have seen some pictures of guys in heels that look surprisingly good, (some on here) but mostly not. Problem is, finding affordable stuff in my size to experiment is near impossible, and very limited choices.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby STEVIE » Sat Dec 29, 2018 1:13 am

Just watched the first few minutes of the programme.
Right now, I have one dress and I don't consider it one of my fashion successes. Bumps and lack of bumps in wrong places sums it up in my mind too.
When I was younger, I tried the "femme" look too and never succeeded. Paul appeared comfortable enough but no way was he going to be mistaken for a female.
Early on, I came to the conclusion that very few guys can actually "pass". I just decided that it was easier not to try.
I think this is a case of "to each their own" and the producers were never going to place him in a totally hostile situation either.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby moonshadow » Sat Dec 29, 2018 3:50 am

Ya'll just ain't trying the right dresses.

Those frilly prom like dresses, or those trendy business woman dresses might have the lumps and bumps, but getcha a plain old 'round the house jumper... they tend to lay a little flatter on the chest.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby Stu » Sat Dec 29, 2018 9:56 am

I think there is a dichotomy here. There are those of us who see the issue discussed in these web pages as being centred around the notion that traditional male clothing conventions are far too restrictive and these should be expanded to give males more options. The idea that females should have absolute choice whereas males are confined to wearing only trousers is an inequality which should be addressed and other garments should be considered as options for male attire, and entirely masculine. This is NOT crossdressing - this is re-defining masculine clothing norms.

However, some men enjoy wearing women's clothes precisely because they are exclusively for women and signifiers of femininity. For them, this isn't about extending male clothing options; if anything, it is the opposite as there would cease to be any point in donning a dress if such garments were made specifically for men.

We need to be clear, as individuals, to which of these two camps we belong.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby Gusto10 » Sat Dec 29, 2018 4:23 pm

I tried to watch the show, but had to setup an account.

As to dresses for a man, not my cup of tea. Best would be things like tunics.

Heels are, as discussed at various places, by origin male attire. Only how high do you want to go?
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby Dust » Sun Dec 30, 2018 4:16 am

Stu wrote:I think there is a dichotomy here. There are those of us who see the issue discussed in these web pages as being centred around the notion that traditional male clothing conventions are far too restrictive and these should be expanded to give males more options. The idea that females should have absolute choice whereas males are confined to wearing only trousers is an inequality which should be addressed and other garments should be considered as options for male attire, and entirely masculine. This is NOT crossdressing - this is re-defining masculine clothing norms.

However, some men enjoy wearing women's clothes precisely because they are exclusively for women and signifiers of femininity. For them, this isn't about extending male clothing options; if anything, it is the opposite as there would cease to be any point in donning a dress if such garments were made specifically for men.

We need to be clear, as individuals, to which of these two camps we belong.


Thank you! I fall firmly in the first camp, and if I thought this site were primarily about the later, I simply wouldn't be here.

I'm always wary of how guys dressed out of the ordinary are portrayed in the media. This example doesn't sound too bad, but I'll leave that determination to those who saw it. It was likely done in part for the shock value and clickbait. Not sure how that works out for breaking down those restrictions long term, but I'll try to be an optimist here.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby STEVIE » Sun Dec 30, 2018 10:31 am

Just a reflection on the photo of the participants.
Place them in a wholly "normal", scenario.
The local pub and he makes an entrance in his chosen attire. Unlikely, but also assume that she is alone too. Perhaps a friend is a no show.
They had both noticed each other, he may buy her a drink and they get chatting.
They have a pleasant hour or so of coversation so he tries for a second meeting.
Would she accept as a date? My heart goes yes but the head says not likely.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby crfriend » Sun Dec 30, 2018 1:57 pm

STEVIE wrote:Would she accept as a date? My heart goes yes but the head says not likely.

This is precisely the sort of thought experiment I enjoy working through, and I sadly suspect that the end-scenario is very much akin to the one Steve outlined. Even if everything else clicked perfectly, would it be enough to sway her ultimate decision? The rational and intellectual answer would be an affirmative; however, as has oft been posited here, this isn't a rational matter, it's an emotional one, and unless the woman is a very uncommon one, the emotion answer would highly likely be in the negative.

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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby weeladdie18 » Tue Jan 01, 2019 2:26 am

It has been suggested to me that the male dressed in some clothes designed for the female is just " Good for a laugh "...
It is perhaps unfortunate that the male may feel happy one day; and that is why he wears female clothes , which make
the lassies smile .......however the female may not consider that it is acceptable to have a male escort who dresses
in this manner.....I like to feel my chosen style is acceptable as I try to steer as far as possible away from looking
female [ What ever that is ....) , in my "Men in Skirts "...... attire
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby weeladdie18 » Tue Jan 01, 2019 7:37 am

We must consider how much accuracy there was in that program on the Box...Sydney was wearing
" her red dress baby, as you are going out tonight "
If you look carefully at the couple , they are both past their sell by date..............

Perhaps this is reality, as we are expected to see the World outside our own closet.....
The warning is that we should all take a second look at ourselves before going out on the street...

It has been suggested that Paul had " ridden to London on a horse ..." .....in his dress ......
Should we consider the meeting was a bit of a drag.....

Please remember that when one looks in the mirror , one's image is laterally reversed
and the image is scientifically outside the mirror.......

Perhaps this entertainment is the modern equivelant of the romantic story of the pantomime drag queen meeting the fairy princess.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby crfriend » Tue Jan 01, 2019 2:37 pm

weeladdie18 wrote:If you look carefully at the couple , they are both past their sell by date.

Well, that's one of the more asinine comments I've read in quite a while. Where is it written that folks beyond their beautiful years don't have feelings and are ineligible for companionship? With a few exceptions, most of us in this community could be charitably called (incorrectly, I'll add), "past their sell by date". Just because somebody isn't in their 20s -- and has all the baggage that brings -- does not mean they're disposable.
Please remember that when one looks in the mirror , one's image is laterally reversed and the image is scientifically outside the mirror.

I routinely assert that if one is to perform objective analysis on a potential look to use photography to do it with. Mirrors frequently tell us what we'd like to see, not the way we really look. This is fine for shaving or brushing one's hair, but not for detailed study.
Perhaps this entertainment is the modern equivelant of the romantic story of the pantomime drag queen meeting the fairy princess.

No doubt the proposed matchup was done for humorous intent -- and that's very unfortunate. We're dealing with people here -- likely people with feelings -- and just because they don't look like what we expect -- because we, ourselves, have been very carefully conditioned -- does not invalidate their humanity. One of the things that needs to happen is for people to be more human around others; laughter has an important role in things: ridicule does not.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby rivegauche » Tue Jan 01, 2019 4:42 pm

As someone said men can wear dresses - it just depends on the dress. If you buy something fitted then it ain't gonna fit unless you add a bra and padding. It is just going to sag sadly on your chest. If you get a draped dress then it can look great. An above the knee long-sleeved dress with opaque tights (and heels if you wish) can look great on a guy - sometimes I am that guy. But we still live in a society where it is probably more acceptable for a man to wear a dress as a woman than just be a guy in a dress. As for frilly dresses - not even women look good in these. Remember that women can look 'wrong' in some dresses and few women would ever contemplate wearing the sort of dress favoured by Grayson Perry.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby Caultron » Tue Jan 01, 2019 7:49 pm

rivegauche wrote:...we still live in a society where it is probably more acceptable for a man to wear a dress as a woman than just be a guy in a dress...

That's curiously true. At least, it seems there are more cross-dressers, transvestites, and MTF transsexuals than there are male skirt-wearers. You may not notice those others as they pass, but they certainly have a larger internet presence.
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Re: Man in a dress on 'First Dates' television show

Postby STEVIE » Tue Jan 01, 2019 10:55 pm

Here is one that I prepared earlier and I do not regard it as one of my best efforts. I will say that it was damnably comfortable during hot weather.
I certainly never achieved a date in it but, truth be told, I never tried.
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