Hmm... I think this may have suddenly opened my eyes to something I missed before.ziggy_encaoua wrote:Perhaps you should join a tranny forum if you want to discuss tranny things
Correct me if I'm wrong (as if you wouldn't ) but could it be that you define transvestites as being a particular type of man who has some sort of perversion? I mean, rather than MY definition of transvestites being just any old guy who enjoys occasionally wearing anything normally associated as being "female" clothing.
By my definition, a man could wear trousers and denim shirts, have a strong build, scruffy beard, and be in every way masculine... but at home, perhaps just for a couple of hours, for his own benefit, he perhaps enjoys wearing a fluffy pink negligee before bedtime. Nobody knows about it. Nobody needs to know about it. But that one simple act means (by MY definition) that he is, in fact, TV.
It does NOT mean he is a pervert. It does NOT mean he is weird or that he wants to be a woman, or appear womanly, or that he wants a sex-change operation. It doesn't mean he isn't happy in his sexuality, or that he can't have a happy marriage or be a good father. It's just a private choice, for no reason other than that he enjoys it.
Now, another man, just as manly, makes a similar choice -- the choice to occasionally wear makeup and skirts in public. Not to fool anyone (his features are far too masculine for that) but just to feel nice and because he wants to. By my definition, because makeup and skirts are normally associated with women, this is also considered crossing clothing/gender lines, and therefore would also fall under the old definition of transvestite behavior. (TRANS=crossing/ vest=clothing)
It is NOT some strange parody of women. It is not a ghetto lifestyle. It is not anything to disparage. Yet this word is tripping you up somthing awful. Ziggy, I don't mean to make you angry, but can you tell me where your personal hatred of this word comes from? Why do you harbor such severe bigotry against this word? I honestly don't understand, since to me it is purely a descriptive term and not a derogatory one. Maybe if I could understand where your anger was coming from it would be easier for me to discuss this with you rationally.
I don't think we are necessarily on different sides here. I would hate to see a mere misunderstanding of terms, and a volatile emotional reaction to something poorly defined be a stumbling block between intelligent adults.