"Free-Dressing" - I like that 'term'Myopic Bookworm wrote: ↑Sat Sep 03, 2022 9:47 pmOne of the retorts that I have saved up in case of need is "I'm not cross-dressing, I'm free-dressing".
Along with enquiries about women in trousesrs.
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"Free-Dressing" - I like that 'term'Myopic Bookworm wrote: ↑Sat Sep 03, 2022 9:47 pmOne of the retorts that I have saved up in case of need is "I'm not cross-dressing, I'm free-dressing".
Along with enquiries about women in trousesrs.
I like the direction of this wording. Dressing freedom is what we’re after. Wonder if it needs the word male added to it. As in male free Dressing. After writing it, I think not since that could imply dressing without males; male free…Myopic Bookworm wrote: ↑Sat Sep 03, 2022 9:47 pmOne of the retorts that I have saved up in case of need is "I'm not cross-dressing, I'm free-dressing". Along with enquiries about women in trousesrs.ScotL wrote: ↑Thu Sep 01, 2022 10:40 am Crossdressing has a negative connotation that is associated with shame in doing something one ought not to do.
We need a better term. We don’t have one already because this is a topic that’s not generally discussed rationally. Men wearing women’s clothing is always discussed as drag or negatively.
It’s unfair that the word cross dressing has a negative connotation targeted towards men but that’s life. And life ain’t fair. We can complain all we want about that or we can move forward.crfriend wrote: ↑Sun Sep 04, 2022 1:27 pm I suspect that the real reason many of us object to the use of the term "cross-dressing" is that it's used as a pejorative -- and one that is never applied in the "other direction" (although modern women have come to greatly resemble men in the way they dress and care for themselves). If the term wasn't intended as an insult, then we'd likely not care. It's like "[rad-fem hate-speed redacted]", which is hate speech pure and simple; "cross-dressing" needs to achieve the same status. It's an obsolete concept that's used as a cudgel against only one sex.
I experimented with "genderfluid" and "nonbinary" for a while but they do seem to be more centred on people who want to shed the whole masculine (or feminine) expression. The past few years I've felt that "gender non-conforming" is a good fit, but your mileage may vary. In my case it's more than just the clothes. I absolutely identify and express myself 100% as male... but I colour outside the lines quite a bit. I'm more emotionally sensitive, creative, and nurturing than my brothers in the XY-chromosome fraternity; I'm weaker and more intellectual (I absolutely do not mean smarter!) than the athletes and truck drivers and the like.
Among other reasons, yes. Like "sissy", it also tends to carry sexual connotations and is almost always used, at least nowadays, in the context of transgender or transsexual identity. I still follow some crossdressing forums on social media and dedicated websites, but they simply do not cater to our kind. It's all about knicker fetishes, makeup, choosing a "femme" name, false breast sizing, and how to pass for female.
Ralph wrote:“crossdressing forums on social media and dedicated websites, but they simply do not cater to our kind. It's all about knicker fetishes, makeup, choosing a "femme" name, false breast sizing, and how to pass for female.”
That could do it. Variations?
If the term "gender" is involved it'll scare most men away. Full stop. We need to conquer that problem. "Unisex" has already been taken and is code for "butching up the women" (because it never went the other way -- ever).
You’re right about the word gender. Evokes too many emotions.crfriend wrote: ↑Mon Sep 05, 2022 1:09 pmIf the term "gender" is involved it'll scare most men away. Full stop. We need to conquer that problem. "Unisex" has already been taken and is code for "butching up the women" (because it never went the other way -- ever).
How about just "getting dressed in the morning"? "Stylish dressing"? "Dressing expressively"?
Hence the need to de-gender clothing.
You may not have the time-frame that I do to observe the thing.I guess I don’t think of unisex as butching up women but oh well
See point one on de-gendering clothing.getting dressed in the morning; this is what we want to be able to say and many on this forum do, but most of the world would take that to mean just getting dressed and assuming they donned clothing traditionally associated with their gender.
Indeed, and this this entirely healthy. What I happen to like you may happen to detest. Again, this is healthy.Stylish dressing; subjective. Every man who dons a skirt cant necessarily stylish to all. Tastes are different.
Try it sometime when you're confined to "male drab". It doesn't work.Dressing expressively; could mean anything. Flamboyant. Drab if sad or moody.
See point one.But I don’t think these convey the context of a man maintaining his masculinity while wearing a skirt