Where have so many members gone

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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Brad » Wed Sep 06, 2017 10:46 pm

I'm still here. I read every day but haven't posted as often. I go back to the old Tom's Cafe and Kristine's Atrium days which I know is ancient history for some of you. I also attended the Million Skirted Men March in February, 2004. Back then, there were freestylers and bravehearts, and sometimes the groups did not get along very well. How nice it is that all these years later this forum is still around and so vibrant and everyone gets along.
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Ray » Thu Sep 07, 2017 6:48 am

Brad, I still remember you - and your terrific outfit on the MSM march. Good to see you are still about.
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Sinned » Thu Sep 07, 2017 7:53 am

I have noted that we get occasional posts from such as Brad who are still around and don't really contribute much. For all I know there could be thousands, many of them members of long standing, who browse but don't contribute. We see them pop up occasionally. The trouble is is that they become invisible to us because the only touch we perceive is in the count on the visits on a thread. So the members may not have actually gone anywhere we just don't see them.

I hate to bring this up at this time but we have noted that some of our members have joined the skirted and dressed party in the sky over the past year or two. In the interests of camerarderie
have any of you thought of whether you would want this forum notifying in the event of your demise and who you would want to do it. I have thought occasionally that if I were to go suddenly then at the moment I have no mechanism for this and I presume that most of you may not. So a prolonged absence may not signify the worst but would have the same characteristics as some of our members that look but don't say. Just a thought.

Maybe that's why I sometimes contribute even though I don't have a right lot to say. :D
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby denimini » Thu Sep 07, 2017 11:09 am

Sinned wrote:I have noted that we get occasional posts from such as Brad who are still around and don't really contribute much. For all I know there could be thousands, many of them members of long standing, who browse but don't contribute. We see them pop up occasionally. The trouble is is that they become invisible to us because the only touch we perceive is in the count on the visits on a thread. So the members may not have actually gone anywhere we just don't see them.

I hate to bring this up at this time but we have noted that some of our members have joined the skirted and dressed party in the sky over the past year or two. In the interests of camerarderie
have any of you thought of whether you would want this forum notifying in the event of your demise and who you would want to do it. I have thought occasionally that if I were to go suddenly then at the moment I have no mechanism for this and I presume that most of you may not. So a prolonged absence may not signify the worst but would have the same characteristics as some of our members that look but don't say. Just a thought.

Maybe that's why I sometimes contribute even though I don't have a right lot to say. :D

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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby skirted_in_SF » Fri Sep 08, 2017 4:42 am

Sinned wrote:have any of you thought of whether you would want this forum notifying in the event of your demise and who you would want to do it. I have thought occasionally that if I were to go suddenly then at the moment I have no mechanism for this and I presume that most of you may not. So a prolonged absence may not signify the worst but would have the same characteristics as some of our members that look but don't say. Just a thought.

I have a different outlook than most of you. Baring a sudden accident, my likely end of life trajectory is pretty well defined. After discussions with my Oncologist and Palliative care doctors here is what I have to expect. I have responded extremely well to the standard drug regime for my metastatic colon cancer. What was in the colon has been cut out and has not returned as of my last CT scan in July. But my liver is full of lesions (40+ on my first CT in February, now usually described as multiple or numerous) and a few scattered cysts in other places. So far everything has been stable or shrinking from scan to scan. But my Oncologist has been honest with me and said some day the cells that weren't susceptible to the drugs that I've been given will rear they ugly head. I'm going in on Monday for infusion number 11 and intend to ask her if there are other drugs that might be tried when that time comes. I will have to decide when that time comes if the side effects are worth the extension of life.

I had a session with the Palliative Care doctor the end of July to discuss end of life issues. She described continuing on with my current quality of life until it suddenly and rapidly falls off. I would then begin hospice care and my body will decline to eat and drink. The end comes fairly quickly then and without pain (at least whatever I have would be able to be controlled).

My goal now is to get my will written and the beneficiary of the other half of my retirement accounts notified of my intentions. I have a letter agreement already drawn up for the first half (done last spring when I thought the end was closer). My intentions for my will have already been well discussed with my brother who will be my executor.

To get back on topic - when I feel I am on that downhill slope, I trust I will have the energy to write a final goodby post here. In the meantime, my interest in wearing my skirts has returned the last month or so and I expect to wear one to my Oncologist on Monday. I broke them in last time by wearing my kilt-like skirt. Other than a comment or two about embracing my heritage, nothing was said.
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Uncle Al » Fri Sep 08, 2017 5:17 am

Wishing you the best, Stuart :!: :D

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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby moonshadow » Sat Sep 09, 2017 12:43 am

Uncle Al wrote:Wishing you the best, Stuart :!: :D

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Seconded...! You wear whatever you want Stuart.

As for me, there is another member of this site (Jenn) who obviously resides with me. I would hope she would advise if something were to happen to me suddenly. Barring a freak accident, I should be around for several more decades. There are also a few here who know my legal name, so if all else fails... search the obits....
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby crfriend » Sat Sep 09, 2017 12:48 am

moonshadow wrote:Seconded...! You wear whatever you want Stuart.

Indeed, Stuart. Know that you are thought of.
moonshadow wrote:There are also a few here who know my legal name, so if all else fails... search the obits....

It wouldn't be the first time. :(

If something happens to me, on the other hand, there's now nobody around to even necessarily know in the short term. However, if something does happen, I just hope it's quick. (I need to codify the Succession of Power at some point in case I meet with an untimely demise...)
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Caultron » Sat Sep 09, 2017 3:39 am

skirted_in_SF wrote:...Baring a sudden accident, my likely end of life trajectory is pretty well defined...

I, too, wish you the best.

Have as much fun as you can for as long as you can, and then go quickly and with dignity. That's as good as it gets.
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Fred in Skirts » Sat Sep 09, 2017 5:23 am

Stuart,
I wish you the best of times and want you to be able to enjoy the time left wither it be months or years. My prayers are with you.

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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby JennC03 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 12:57 pm

moonshadow wrote:
Uncle Al wrote:Wishing you the best, Stuart :!: :D

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Seconded...! You wear whatever you want Stuart.

As for me, there is another member of this site (Jenn) who obviously resides with me. I would hope she would advise if something were to happen to me suddenly. Barring a freak accident, I should be around for several more decades. There are also a few here who know my legal name, so if all else fails... search the obits....



I would let everyone know. Lets not talk about that you're not going anywhere anytime soon.
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby JennC03 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 1:01 pm

skirted_in_SF wrote:
Sinned wrote:have any of you thought of whether you would want this forum notifying in the event of your demise and who you would want to do it. I have thought occasionally that if I were to go suddenly then at the moment I have no mechanism for this and I presume that most of you may not. So a prolonged absence may not signify the worst but would have the same characteristics as some of our members that look but don't say. Just a thought.

I have a different outlook than most of you. Baring a sudden accident, my likely end of life trajectory is pretty well defined. After discussions with my Oncologist and Palliative care doctors here is what I have to expect. I have responded extremely well to the standard drug regime for my metastatic colon cancer. What was in the colon has been cut out and has not returned as of my last CT scan in July. But my liver is full of lesions (40+ on my first CT in February, now usually described as multiple or numerous) and a few scattered cysts in other places. So far everything has been stable or shrinking from scan to scan. But my Oncologist has been honest with me and said some day the cells that weren't susceptible to the drugs that I've been given will rear they ugly head. I'm going in on Monday for infusion number 11 and intend to ask her if there are other drugs that might be tried when that time comes. I will have to decide when that time comes if the side effects are worth the extension of life.

I had a session with the Palliative Care doctor the end of July to discuss end of life issues. She described continuing on with my current quality of life until it suddenly and rapidly falls off. I would then begin hospice care and my body will decline to eat and drink. The end comes fairly quickly then and without pain (at least whatever I have would be able to be controlled).

My goal now is to get my will written and the beneficiary of the other half of my retirement accounts notified of my intentions. I have a letter agreement already drawn up for the first half (done last spring when I thought the end was closer). My intentions for my will have already been well discussed with my brother who will be my executor.

To get back on topic - when I feel I am on that downhill slope, I trust I will have the energy to write a final goodby post here. In the meantime, my interest in wearing my skirts has returned the last month or so and I expect to wear one to my Oncologist on Monday. I broke them in last time by wearing my kilt-like skirt. Other than a comment or two about embracing my heritage, nothing was said.



My Prayers are with you. Live life to the fullest and keep on skirting. Enjoy your days as if you was just starting. God Bless!
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby moonshadow » Fri Oct 05, 2018 12:59 pm

Wondering where Judah's been hiding? I rather miss his whitty post...
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Re: Where have so many members gone

Postby Pdxfashionpioneer » Mon Oct 08, 2018 10:51 am

I second what Jenn said.
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