On family and spouses "negative" reactions, emotion

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Sinned wrote: Thu Dec 01, 2022 10:03 pm Coder, with the risk of stereotyping, my wife is a woman, naturally, and I couldn't possibly know what she is thinking. About me wearing skirts anyway. Only some opposition.
And that is what bothers me - the unknown. Even man to man I don’t always know - the fascination with sports confuses me, as a simple example.
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I have tried to raise the subject but the best I have got is that when she sees me in a skirt she "sees a woman" even though she does agree that I look good in most skirts. There are some that she doesn't like and, interestingly, they are the ones that I really like. As for pursuing the subject I try and get her to read favourable articles of look at good pictures of men in skirts and she shows a distinct lack of interest. It's difficult to hold a conversation when the other person has switched off.
I believe in offering every assistance short of actual help but then mainly just want to be left to be myself in all my difference and uniqueness.
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It varies enormously. I have had partners who were fine with some types of clothing and not others and one who could not take it at all. I have a woman friend (not a partner) who is completely relaxed about what I wear when we socialise together. We are having a bar lunch today and I asked her if she wanted me in male mode or dressed as a woman (I do the whole spectrum of in between as well as the whole female presentation) and she said I was up to me. She gives the same feedback on my outfits she would give to a woman and NEVER makes observations about me being masculine or feminine. Today I choose to dress in a completely male outfit but it is pleasing that I was genuinely free to choose.
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rivegauche wrote: Fri Dec 02, 2022 10:31 am . We are having a bar lunch today and I asked her if she wanted me in male mode or dressed as a woman (I do the whole spectrum of in between as well as the whole female presentation) and she said I was up to me.
She sounds like a good friend!
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I used to look at kilting forums. I recall women's reactions to kilted men be described as this... "Women either love it, or hate it." Those who love it see a very confident man. :cheers: . So... Could this view point expand to include non-kilt designs?
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Grok wrote: Fri Dec 02, 2022 4:38 pm I used to look at kilting forums. I recall women's reactions to kilted men be described as this... "Women either love it, or hate it." Those who love it see a very confident man. :cheers: . So... Could this view point expand to include non-kilt designs?
Perhaps? And the two opinions might not align completely either. Either way it's quite... unfair. Unfair in the sense that were a man to tell them how to dress... need I say more? No. Frankly, I wouldn't want to tell my significant other what to wear - I might tell her what things I liked on her, but that would be the extent.
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moonshadow wrote: Fri Dec 02, 2022 12:00 pm
rivegauche wrote: Fri Dec 02, 2022 10:31 am . We are having a bar lunch today and I asked her if she wanted me in male mode or dressed as a woman (I do the whole spectrum of in between as well as the whole female presentation) and she said I was up to me.
She sounds like a good friend!
She is lovely. We talk about all sorts of things but at some point we will discuss the last dresses or skirts we bought. We had a nice long lunch and decided that our next outing together would be a shopping trip to the sales and it was just assumed I would be dressed as a woman for this. Her only complaint about me is that I am 3 sizes bigger than her so we can't swop clothes.
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