Here's the tactic I use for getting close to reasoning:Barleymower wrote: ↑Sun Oct 30, 2022 8:15 amCarl I cannot define straight or trans-*. When I look inward I can'not see what drives me. I see a whirlpool of different drivers. Because definitions elude me, I'm left searching in dark for some kind of meaning. All I can say is I feel a strong masculine and a strong feminine presence.
1) How do you identify, and are you happy with that definition?
1a) Are any subsets of what you're feeling actually compatible with either extreme noting that things are a "blend of traits" not "specific and dictated traits?
1b) How fervently do you believe that things would be "better" the other way 'round?
2) Do you prefer lovers to be the "other" sex or your own?
The first is definitely to harder of the two to crack, and this is made worse by 50 years of hateful propaganda against men and the modern -- and incorrect -- belief that men do not have feelings more advanced than rage and lust. Modern men are fully capable of the entire range of human emotion for the simple reason that we are human creatures. To suppress those emotions is a silly and dangerous activity.
Then item "2" from above is answered cleanly and simply.When I stand next to bunch of guys (none of which know about my skirt wearing) and I'm NOT attracted to any of them, never have been. I'm straight. That much I know.
On item "1", try a thought experiment: Remove the constraints of the past 50 years of propaganda and allow that all men and women are a blend of "traits" that are only notionally attached to their gender. Where does that put you? If your set falls mainly towards male then you're male; if predominately towards female, then female; if in the middle, then there might be some questions, but unfettered the choice usually goes one way or the other. Note also that the older model has an overlap in the middle containing traits that are common to both men and women, and that the overlap is entirely natural and normal. It's only fairly recently that the middle portion has been declared "female" leaving the real detritus over in the far corner which is where men have been collectively shoved.
Highly likely they will. Sure, there will be a few cowards and rotter who won't, but guys -- in general -- tend to support self-expression.I want to stand with the straight men and revolt, if they will have me.
Stevie wrote:Carl, I hope this "revolting" reply lends some fresh vim and vigour toward our freer futures.
I certainly won't back down any time soon that is for sure.